What is an instant turn off to you?

[Rnm62]

What’s an instant turn off for you in a man/woman?

"Not practical on an A road or motorway is it?"

Who takes children to school or activities on a motorway or A road?

People who live in a village on an A road?

Or travel to an ice rink along a motorway as there isn't one within 30 miles?

Or children attend a football academy at a city club?

Wow. You don't think much outside your own bubble do you.

"Wow. You don't think much outside your own bubble do you."

Neither do you if you can't imagine people not needing to go on an A road.

Being tight with money.
Long fingernails (in men).
Talking with mouth full.
Men who spend hours in the gym.
Drinking too much alcohol.

@Gwenhwyfar

That's not what I said. And you know that.

What?

Loads of people.

My husband definitely has to do A roads for my kids football and swimming 🫤 .

When I met my DH I was young and jealous and probably (definitely) a bit of an eejit as I hated the fact he never slagged off his ex girlfriend to me. With hindsight and age and wisdom I've realised that this was actually a wonderful trait.

Mine that I don't think has been mentioned is someone who doesn't hold the women in their life in particularly high regard (Mums and Sisters in the main). Red flag for me.

I don’t hate tattooed men I hate crap ubiquitous tattoos which is most of them. I like really well executed artful tattoos but don’t see many compared with Billy Scratcher from the High Street’s ‘tribal work’.
Looks naff. Is naff.

@ValBiro

Agree but then you don’t want a mummy’s boy either so there’s a balance to be had there. I once thought the same regarding an ex who spoke very highly of his mother until I learnt he absolutely would never cut the apron strings.

@JollyWilloughby agreed, I haven't had the misfortune of that but I imagine it's quite cringey! Sadly my DH's mother passed away when he when he was a teenager, but something I really love about him is how much he cares for his Nan and looks out for her and calls her regularly and treats her to nice meals out and things like that. I'd never met a man like him before... And I think that's because everyone I'd ever dated before was just a boy, for the most part!

Long beards. I just don't see them as hygienic.
Smoking.
Being nasty to, or about other people.
Poor personal hygiene.
Negging.

Think it depends on where you live plus what activities you do! My older kids have classes in our town so we could realistically cycle, but when they compete it would be hard and awkward for us to get to many other places if we didn’t drive. So it would be annoying if DH didn’t drive and I had to do it all. I don’t think he’d mind if I didn’t drive though because he likes driving.

I guess that’s the thing - it’s not a personal attack if someone says ‘I want to date someone who drives.’ It’s just them looking for what works for them.

Yes, even exes. I’m always amazed when friends get with a new guy and are quick to tell me how his ex was a ‘psycho’ or ‘mental.’

If he’ll tell you that a day into dating you’ll be the psycho next week! A normal person doesn’t want to shit talk their ex when they’re trying to date someone new.