What is an instant turn off to you?

[Rnm62]

What’s an instant turn off for you in a man/woman?

Beards
Smoking
Trousers that don't reach the ankle on men that's my petty one

to be fair I hadnt thought about that scenario- I would say its different to a man who could learn to drive but never has.

Uses the word adulting, like they are very, very special for being a man, who can cook/use washing machine/vacuum.

Someone who is overweight, badly dressed, talks at you rather than with you, is rude to waiters, shop assistants etc.

Rude
Vain
Too muscly
Unclean
Smoker

Long hair
Jacked up teeth
Bad breath
Sloppily dressed
Rudeness
Only talks about himself/laughs at own jokes/Arrogance
Smokers
Smooth faces (prefer stubble or a beard)
Long nails/dirty nails
Staring at women
Can't drive
Complains all the time
Road rage
Wears tight pants

Ok enough for now 😂

First thing that'd put me off is smoking. On closer inspection😂, it'd be a dislike of cats, hygiene and arrogance - in that order.

Men that wear super skinny trousers with shoes but no socks.

Mostly it’s either arrogance as in thinking you are gods gift OR too far the other way and extreme passivity. A healthy confidence is so attractive!

Inability to think outside their own existence/ Lack of self awareness

Shallowness

Lack of table manners

Men who don't eat vegetables -wtf, have they never heard of scurvy?

Banter

Judgemental arses

Eating slowly, noisily, with mouth open, holding knife like a pen, a loosely held fork
Being mean about or to animals
Rudeness to staff in shops, restaurants, taxis etc
Fussy
Long nails
Overly preened
BO
Materialistic, referring to his car by it's make as in "Where did I park the Audi?" rather just saying "my car"

Smoking
Disproportionate importance placed on football

Long nails.
Thin hands and fingers
Too skinny
Waxed/plucked eyebrows
Shoes with no socks
Bad temper
Bad hygiene
Arrogance

Rude people,
” influencers that think they are something special when they only have 5 followers.
bad breath
poor hygiene.
cheapskates.

Men with long nails make me feel physically sick.
Tight with money
Posh accents
pretentiousness
bragging
poor hygiene
skinny/no muscle definition
unambitious and lazy- huge turn off

Chewing gum, especially with their mouth open 🤮

That kind of shiny, plastic look that overgroomed men have, a bit like Mark Wright, Ronaldo, Katie Prices current squeeze… no thanks.

I've never understood the driving thing - DH can't drive and I couldn't give a fig! And I'm heavily tattooed (colourful neo-traditional pieces) from my chest to my feet so we're both off many of your lists

For me it's:

Heavy drinking or any drug-taking
Long nails
Bad teeth
Skinny - I'd prefer they were overweight than very slim
Jewellery - I can't stand necklaces or rings on men, and double ick if it's a signet on the pinkie!
Tight trousers
Shoes without socks
Joggers worn outside the home

And, it goes without saying, Never Fuck a Tory. Advice to live by.

Smoking
Arrogance when they can’t back it up
bad hygiene

Bad hygiene
Tight with money
Rude to service staff of any industry
Bad table manners
Noisy eater
Doesn't like cats

Smoking
Rudeness
Arrogance/misogyny
Lies
monologuer
Poor hygiene

Some men seem to have all these qualities in one effortless package

The driving thing would bother me to be honest because it would mean it was me having to always take us out everywhere, pick the kids up from school, take them to their after school stuff etc.. Its not the lack of driving ability that would bother me, but the fact that it would mean our division of labour wasnt fair and I'd be doing all the running around which would also mean I'd never be able to have a glass of wine out with dinner etc

Instant turn off personally is a man who's feminine or particularly camp

Rudeness to anybody they deem 'below' themselves (waiters, receptionists, housekeeping staff/janitors etc).

Overt parsimony.

Bad table manners.

Unkind to animals.

Horrible, beaten-up / uncared-for shoes (thanks, mum, for drawing my attention to this one. And yes, you were right.).

Thank you for explaining that - the non-driving thing has always confused me but I guess I'm only looking at it from my perspective.

Neither of us drink, we don't have/want kids and we live close to Glasgow city centre with fantastic transport links. DH rarely asks me for lifts anywhere and if we go into the city centre for dinner or we go to a gig/comedy show/whatever, there is never any parking so it wouldn't occur to me to drive anyway. Whenever we holiday in the UK, it's always a major city so we get the train or fly.

Sorry, that was a ramble! But I now get why some people would find it off-putting.