What is an instant turn off to you?

[Rnm62]

What’s an instant turn off for you in a man/woman?

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I love beards 😊 so manly 🥰

Dreadlocks on white men
Veganism
Smoking and drug taking
Being blatantly woke and performative
Facial piercings
Being too passive. I don’t want to be in the driver’s seat of the relationship all the time
Having no opinions or independent thoughts
Guys with no hobbies or interests
Being too muscly
Baldness - I know it’s not their fault, but it doesn’t do it for me
Being badly dressed
People who bang on about how rich they are

I met an otherwise lovely guy who had bad breath. It wasn’t great, but I told him good dental hygiene was a must for me - flossing, etc. Problem solved overnight, though he was a bit embarrassed.

Bad teeth/breath.
Excessive drinking.
Constantly using gendered insults - eg calling women bitches and slags, men cunts. Also swearing loudly in public when inappropriate.
Untidy/unmaintained house (nothing minor, im talking broken toilet, broken windows, broken guttering, wallpaper peeling off mouldy damp walls, no carpets, overgrown garden, still having the previous elderly owner's decor 12 years after moving in), not owning a hoover and being proud of that.
Mood swings/sulking.
Overconfidence in their own wrong opinions (eg olive oil solidifies at body temp which causes constipation).
Constantly moaning about their minor ailments but never asking how you are (eg having a corn on his little toe and winging aboutnit for weeks. I eventually fixed him with a corn plaster. He wasn't grateful).
Never saying please or thank you.

Surprising that he's still single at 55, really 😅

Smoking
Blond hair- only fancy dark haired guys
Too thin - would rather have them overweight
Comb over- be proudly balding
Shiny faced, over groomed, Botox etc

Things I don’t mind but other people seem to:
Beard
Non driver

What really attracts me
Man wearing glasses

"Its not the lack of driving ability that would bother me, but the fact that it would mean our division of labour wasnt fair and I'd be doing all the running around"

I have a friend whose husband doesn't drive. He takes his kids to places in a bike and trailer.

Bad teeth
Gym bunny
Drugs

Cruelty or mean streak.

Piercings.

Being to thin.

I'm overly really fussy to be honest, it's more about the personality to me. If they're a jerk to the waitress they're a waste of space.

Obvious tattoos, smoking, rudeness, inability to speak properly, fussy eating.

Sexism.

Specifically people who think you're going to be their cook / maid / secretary. Ha! No.

Absolutely the driving thing for me, as well. I want someone who is independent, and probably more critically, able to help with the day-to-day.

DS needed to be dropped into school twice this week due to extra stuff he needed to take in. I WFH, so DH does it. There are so many instances when we rely on the car - with the kids’ activities all over town and out of town - that if it were just me, I’d be ground down and seething with resentment. Add in a lot of holidaying that we do as family - all of which has been domestic in the last couple of years - and DH not driving just wouldn’t be an option.

And it goes both ways - my DF pretty much insisted DM get her licence after they got engaged, knowing how much she would need the independence of a car once we came along.

Complete detail sorry, but … also for me…

Yes, skinny men! I didn’t actually realise this about myself until just now. I wouldn’t want to be with an overweight man either. But give me someone on the large/built size any day of the week.

I think my only other real deal-breaker would be any sort of social recluse type. I want someone who’s open, friendly, socially skilled and enjoys spending time with people. Living with an anti-social hermit would be utterly miserable.

Lack of generosity
Lack of manners
Lack of personal hygiene

Urgh yes beards are rank!

The majority of the above, plus unintentionally short trousers, white socks, lavatorial humour, speaks in clichés, herd views, uncouth, noisy, moist lips, especially at the corners, too many tattoos, often drunk, bad table manners, lives for sport, wears sports clothes when not on an actual sports field, big bum, wears bright polyester, discourteous, narrow views.
There are probably more…

Vanity (hair gel, fake tan, ridiculous fashion shoes or coats, jewellery, bright white teeth or veneers, cologne/aftershave).
Personalised number plates.
Tory voter.
Reads theDaily Fail, Telegraph or any of the red tops.
Avid and excessive interest in any sport or exercise hobby whatsoever.
Someone who is proud that they don’t read books.

Smoking
Bad breath
Manky teeth
B.O.
bragging
a loud voice

Talking about them self's constantly and how good they are in bed how big there +#ck is and the manly look they put on puffed up chest talking about how bad there ex was burping ridiculously lowd and swearing the list goes on see why I love single life

Oh my goodness, so many that I’d forgotten. 😬

Gamers
Tattoos
Beards
long dirty nails
A paunch that is so large it covers the scrotum
Smokers
Football fanatics
Anyone that still gets very drunk
Sexist men that think they are better than us - insecurity

Would love a list of what men don't like about women!! To even things out :)

They remind me of the Pied Piper...

Start a thread - there are lots of men on here, also same-sex attracted women.

Smoking
Bad teeth
Bad breath
Dirty finger nails
Breaking wind purposely and finding it hilarious.
Smacking lips when eating
Tight with money

Head on over to any male-based forum and I’m sure you’ll be inundated with them.

HTH 🙂

Some of these are making me lol.