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Nobody got our DC an easter egg

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HappyEaster2022 · 17/04/2022 12:45

Before anybody accuses me of being grabby, it's the thought that counts and its the fact nobody thought of them which has hurt me.

I have 3 children (one is just a little baby but the older two are well aware of easter)

I don't have much family and the ones I do have are complex characters which means my children miss out on having traditionally good relationships with family.

My relationship with my DM has gone because of her drinking, we've been pretty much NC, I stopped calling and the contact just stopped as it was always me making the effort - but it wouldn't have killed her to drop an egg off at the door for the kids would it? I thought she would have done as despite her habit I believed she loved them in her own way. They adored her.

I'm also NC with my aunt now, the only other relative who ever really bothered with the kids at easter and other occasions, because she was enabling my mum and was becoming really toxic for me.

So there's nobody on my side who bothers with the kids now. I have a DB who lives quite far away and our relationship has suffered because he and his DW are having fertility struggles and I think they find it hard to see/be around me and my DC we represent the unfairness of it all. Its not nice but I understand it.

OH's family are completely uninvolved and we don't hear from them unless they want to borrow money, none of our kids have ever had so much as a birthday card or call wishing them a happy birthday.

Obviously the lack of easter eggs is just symptomatic of the bigger picture and it's not really about chocolate at all, special occasions just make you look at the disparity with other families I think.

What a shit family we've brought our children into. I feel so sad for them and myself if I'm honest

OP posts:
MrsDThomas · 17/04/2022 12:47

What about you?

Did you buy one?

ShirleyPhallus · 17/04/2022 12:47

I honestly didn’t realise that buying Easter eggs for each other was “a thing”. It certainly isn’t in our family and out children have one egg (from us) but that’s it.

It sounds like this is a way bigger issue for you but on the surface, not having Easter eggs isn’t really a big deal. We don’t need to constantly be buying crap for our children with loads of packaging etc etc. Did you get them any? Take them tk any Easter egg hunts etc?

BarryKentPoet · 17/04/2022 12:48

Im close to all my family and nobody bought mine eggs. I bought them a couple though.

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AHungryCaterpillar · 17/04/2022 12:48

Yeah you will be told you are unreasonable but I know how you feel, no one gets my kids any either so I end up buying them loads to make up for the fact no one in my family bothers with them.

Clymene · 17/04/2022 12:49

No one buys my children eggs Confused

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HappyEaster2022 · 17/04/2022 12:49

@MrsDThomas

What about you?

Did you buy one?

Of course

We bought for our DC, DSC and OH's niece and nephew

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Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 17/04/2022 12:50

We just get one for each of our DCs. Grandparents give them £10 each pocket money. We've had some days out last week and prefer to spend on those rather than presents etc.

WindsChange · 17/04/2022 12:50

Your children will be just as happy to have fun at home with you. Children don’t really have expectations of lots of eggs from family members unless you put that idea to them.
Make it special yourself - it doesn’t even need to cost money just play some games and do some crafts and enjoy the spring sun.

SomeFuckingWizardry · 17/04/2022 12:50

I'm sorry you are having a tough time with your families.

I grew up with a massive close family and we never got Easter eggs from grandparents or aunts and uncles. We haven't bought our toddler niece an egg either, genuinely didn't know this was a thing!

JudgeRindersMinder · 17/04/2022 12:50

We’re the only ones who have every night eggs for our kids…as you say it’s not about the chocolate, I get how you feel

ssd · 17/04/2022 12:51

Totally get how you feel @HappyEaster2022

Newjobformoremoney · 17/04/2022 12:51

Yeah, this isn’t a thing in my family and we’re close!

SweetGrapes · 17/04/2022 12:51

One Easter egg is plenty each.
No one buys my kids eggs. It's not Christmas. Just enjoy what you have, have an egg hunt and brush your teeth.
Happy Easter!

starrynight21 · 17/04/2022 12:52

I'm sorry your family isn't what you'd like them to be. When my kids were little I had no-one around , no extended family, just us. So I made Easter ( and Christmas and birthdays) as magical as I could, just the three of us. It worked out well - they are adults now but they do talk about having fun as kids , finding eggs hidden around the house, that sort of thing. The best thing you can do is to make life happy for them, and don't be bothered with what other family members do. No need to feel sad for your kids, they don't know or care where the eggs or the gifts come from , they just enjoy the moment.

itssquidstella · 17/04/2022 12:53

I’m sorry you feel this way. When I was growing up, we only ever got one Easter egg from my mum and dad; wider family never bought them for us. It wasn't a snub, it just wasn't expected.

DrRuthGalloway · 17/04/2022 12:53

I have 3 grown up siblings, my dh has a grown up sibling. We have 3 sets of grandparents. We are lucky enough to be on good terms with all of them.

My mum sent a tenner for me to buy eggs for my 4.
No one else sent anything. Neither did I expect them to (and didn't expect the tenner from my Mum, which I haven't spent yet).
I got an egg from my dh and bought him one.

I thought Easter was very much 'immediate family only ' gifting.

metalkprettyoneday · 17/04/2022 12:53

I buy the little eggs for the garden hunt. I don’t expect other people to buy any. My family aren’t local so don’t see them but don’t expect eggs.Maybe it’s a tradition you had when growing up so you’re expecting that .

Laptopsandmouses · 17/04/2022 12:54

This never actually occured to me. I bought mine eggs, job done

Hellocatshome · 17/04/2022 12:55

No one bought my kids Easter Eggs either. But then again neither sets of Grandparents give a flying fuck about them the rest of the year so I dont see why that would change for Easter.

Seasidemumma77 · 17/04/2022 12:56

My dc only got an egg each from me. No other local family, so no expectation

ElenaSt · 17/04/2022 12:58

It never used to be a thing to buy Easter eggs in such abundance. One egg from your parents with perhaps one from grandparents if they were busing over Easter used to be the norm.

Don’t pass on your dissatisfaction with your relatives behaviour into your children making them feel like they are missing out.

Easter is meant to be more than egg fest.

Soubriquet · 17/04/2022 12:58

It’s shit. We are no contact with family apart from my Nan

My kids got an egg each from me, and one from my Nan. That’s it

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HappyEaster2022 · 17/04/2022 12:59

Thank you for understanding, I know it sounds quite self pitying really doesn't it?

It's not really about the chocolate by a long shot, that's just a tiny little part of the bigger picture.

I've been feeling a bit down since we had our third so it might be a touch of PND. I just feel really alone and sad that my children don't have anybody but us anymore.

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trevthecat · 17/04/2022 13:01

We never buy for other kids in the family and my siblings or parents don't buy for mine. Easter seems to be on steroids this year!

Dartmoorcheffy · 17/04/2022 13:02

Suppose this makes a change from all the posters moaning that other people have bought their children Easter eggs as chocolate is so poisonous.....

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