Anyone honestly disappointed by how their DC have turned out?

[Twobigsapphires]

Had this debate with my sister last night. Interested to hear views. Topic started due to me talking about my 29 year old DS and I openly admitted I’m worried that I may end up being disappointed in what he does or doesn’t make of his life. Does anyone else feel like this? Or openly admit they are disappointed in their DC, even for maybe small things? It’s started to occur to me that this maybe comes with the territory of parenting.
I know my grandparents were disappointed my mum had me out of wedlock and didn’t follow the same religion as they did and disappointed in my uncles choice or wife. Pretty sure my parents have some disappointments over me and my siblings.

@flipflopping @Fromthebirdsnest

Why on earth would you pay extortionate fees for private school if you dont care about your children achieving?
If I could afford private- I would ensure my child took full advantage of the facilities and extra curricular activities.

I’m disappointed in my adult son because he isn’t a nice man. He is self-entitled, judgemental and money obsessed. Maybe we spoiled him, but we did always encourage him to consider others and taught him that he couldn’t always have what he wanted, when he wanted it. I know others who are disappointed in an adult child due to their values/behaviours. We might always love our children, but we can also dislike them!

They redeemed themselves totally by being excellent Dads and I am proud of the way they have turned out. They certainly didn't get it from me, possibly I wasn't the best of mothers (didn't freeze on touchlines at football matches), so maybe they thought they could improve on the pattern set.

@Alexandra2001

I agree, nature vs nurture, always a balance.
Most, not all DC's who turn out "wasting their lives" started gaming at a far too earlier an age.
Time and time again i see this as they become more nocturnal in their sleep habits.

Oh that’s bollocks - playing video games can become an addictive pastime but only for a tiny percentage. Of course a few will retreat into their bedrooms and play through the night. (If they became a successful influencer off the back and made a good living, is that so bad?) For many it’s an enjoyable hobby helping improve fine motor skills and develop cognitive abilities.

There are man-children who will neglect their families for all sorts of pursuits not just gaming.

All you can do is give your kids the best foundation you personally can. After that you have to hope it works out, because you can’t force someone to live their life well.

It’s part of the human condition to disappoint and be disappointed, sometimes unreasonably so.