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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

OP posts:
CanadianJohn · 22/03/2022 04:09

I slept thru a house fire, which started in my bedroom.

I was 4, my older brother (9), was reading in bed by candle-light. (There was no electricity upstairs.) My brother fell asleep, the candle fell over and started a fire.

I woke the next morning in a neighbour's house, having slept thru the fire, fire engines, evacuation, and all. I was very disappointed to have missed all the excitement.

VelvetChairGirl · 22/03/2022 07:13

*I've just read the Wikipedia entry about the fire, most of the people who died seemed to refuse to leave despite there being smoke and some customers insisted on queuing at an abandoned checkout.

I worked at a supermarket in my teens where there was a very serious fire in the warehouse. We literally had to drag customers out as they didn't want to leave their shopping.*

I was in ASDA about 5 years ago when the fire alarms went off and they said everyone out, everyone did indeed go out and we all hanged around the car park, it was a false alarm and we all went back to our trolleys after a few mins. I didnt see anyone refusing to go, so hopefully things have changed everywhere.

Calandor · 22/03/2022 08:25

Went back to a party with a bunch of lads after a night out while at uni.

Except nobody was there except them (5 men) and me...

Was glad I wore flat boots that night as I absolutely legged it out of the bathroom window. I'm

Georgeskitchen · 22/03/2022 09:23

Well known supermarket. Fire alarms went of so we went into evacuation mode. ( small electrical fire) customers in no hurry to leave despite being told in no uncertain terms. Some of them quite rude!!
Others more bothered about the pound coin in their trolley than potentially being incinerated!!

iklboo · 22/03/2022 09:28

Some of these stories are unbelievable (as in shocking, not untrue). Sickening how many involve men.

resipsa · 22/03/2022 10:10

This is an intensely disturbing thread but has helped me to decide after lots of indecision that (1) yes, my 11 year old can have a phone so can always contact us if she needs to and (2) tonight is the night for a long chat about how to stay safe Sad.

mjf981 · 22/03/2022 10:40

I had a ticket on one of the flights that was going to be targeted in the (foiled) 2006 transatlantic terrorist attack. Still took the flight. Security was very intense!

knowinglesseveryday · 22/03/2022 10:47

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping @gingerhills I called a taxi for my daughter from a hotel, mid evening, and the driver terrorised her, asking if she was scared and said he could take her home and rape her, all the way home. He didn't follow through on that, but bloody hell, there must be a lot of them.

gingerhills · 22/03/2022 11:18

[quote knowinglesseveryday]**@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping* @gingerhills* I called a taxi for my daughter from a hotel, mid evening, and the driver terrorised her, asking if she was scared and said he could take her home and rape her, all the way home. He didn't follow through on that, but bloody hell, there must be a lot of them. [/quote]
I've never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night. The only one I ever trusted was Ladycabs but I guess even that is now prey to predators who abuse trans self-identification for their own ends. I'd always rather use public transport. Safety in numbers.

iklboo · 22/03/2022 11:31

I've never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night.

Public transport sucks around where I live - and still require between 30-60 minute walk from the drop off spot to home. As PP have said, they've had really bad experiences on or waiting for public transport too. The later buses are not always busy.

babywalker56 · 22/03/2022 11:38

I've never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night.

I live in Zone 1 London and I'd STILL get a taxi home on a night out. Sometimes buses are empty or may have 1 or 2 people on them. They always give me creepy vibes. I rather get in an uber that takes me straight to my door instead of walking from the bus stop to my house

ParanoidGynodroid · 22/03/2022 11:42

[quote knowinglesseveryday]**@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping* @gingerhills* I called a taxi for my daughter from a hotel, mid evening, and the driver terrorised her, asking if she was scared and said he could take her home and rape her, all the way home. He didn't follow through on that, but bloody hell, there must be a lot of them. [/quote]
My DD was 'kidnapped' by a taxi driver in Turkey. There was a 20 minute drive from the airport to her friend's house; friend's dad arranged and paid for the taxi.
The driver drove her around for nearly 2 hours, being very nosy and asking for a date. Dd noticed going past the same things several times and wasn't sure how to deal with it. Driver kept saying they'd be there soon. Luckily her friend's family got worried as they knew when she'd got off the plane and they clocked something was amiss. Friends DF phoned her and shouted at the taxi driver in Turkish. DD was then dropped off in a public place where the DF went to collect her.

It was only later that DD realised what a precarious position she was in.

VelvetChairGirl · 22/03/2022 11:43

Well guess what the fire alarm went off in Morrisons this morning, I put my stuff down and casually walked out, a couple of people walked out complete with trolleys full and there was a few determined people at the self checkouts refusing to stop.

we were all let back in a few mins later.

VelvetChairGirl · 22/03/2022 12:09

I dont really want to go into details about me.

but I do want to say about my mum, whom was walking home from school when she was about 7 or 8 years old down country lanes in the midland in the 1950s, when a large dog sneaked up behind her silently and sunk its teeth into her shoulder and started trying to drag her backwards down the lane. in those days she carried her books in bundle tied together, she smacked the dog in the face with the school books repeatedly until it let her go and then ran home, her father ran the village shop, he shut the shop quick and drove her to hospital for stitches and she hated dogs after that and wouldn't go anywhere near them.

also I might aswell mention my sister, she was strapped into her pushchair while my brother (about 5) and mother were feeding ducks at the round pond, a gust of wind took the pushchair in and my brother managed to grab the handle when the water was upto my sisters nose, my mother grabbed it off him and managed to pull it out, she then hailed a cab to get home as it was cold and my sister was soaked, when they got home the cab driver asked why the back seat was all wet, when mum told him what happened he said oh I fell in there once.

VelvetChairGirl · 22/03/2022 12:27

@babywalker56

I've never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night.

I live in Zone 1 London and I'd STILL get a taxi home on a night out. Sometimes buses are empty or may have 1 or 2 people on them. They always give me creepy vibes. I rather get in an uber that takes me straight to my door instead of walking from the bus stop to my house

its not the buses that a dodgy its the bus stops, especially ones where the stops for both directions are directly across the road from each other so someone can watch both, or its bus stops outside a tube station the more transport stops in one small area the better for muggers and so on to spot victims, plenty of choice.
ZeppelinTits · 22/03/2022 12:34

Identical experience to yours OP except it happened INSIDE the playing field of my school at breaktime, and luckily I had a friend with me. It was the early 90s and we made our excuses and headed back to school. Mentioned it to a teacher and they went ballistic, I almost wished we hadn't said anything. They went to search but never found him.

I don't know in hindsight how much danger I was in, I wonder if with flashers all they want is to shock and surprise and it's perhaps the taboo of that which is enough for them? But equally it did feel like a lucky escape, we were only around 8 years old and I do dread to think what could potentially have happened. Sad

LaQuern · 22/03/2022 12:39

I was followed home in broad daylight, he ran ahead of me and I found him standing outside my front door with his dick out.

There was no way he knew where I lived and me walking up to my front door with the keys in my hand threw him completely.

The only logical conclusion was he was waiting for me to walk past then walk out behind me - due to the location and layout of the property/ street it was the only logical conclusion.

runwithme · 22/03/2022 13:01

When I was around 11 I was shopping in my local town. I noticed a guy following me. He was probably around mid 20s, though it was difficult to tell at that age. I nipped into a random furniture store and went to the first floor, which looked over the ground floor. I think I went in there because I had gone there a few days earlier with my parents so I thought the owner would recognise me but he didn't. The guy came in shortly after and made small talk, and I left, walking past him. I thought I'd be ok but about 10 mins later he was behind me in the bus queue. I left the queue and ran home. That was the last I saw of him. He had a smirk on him whenever we had eye contact.

I was in another country with a friend. We met some guys, who were friends, and we went back to their place. She went to have sex with one of them and I stayed in their living room. An hour or so later I went to the bathroom and both guys followed me there. My friend had left me there, with them and gone back to the hotel. The guys wanted to have sex with me there and then but I managed to leave. It was a horrible atmosphere and I was so lucky.

On another night out a guy told me to smile and give him a kiss. I told him to fuck off. This, and my accent, pissed him off so the big man squared up to me. I'd had a shit night up to this point and was ready to hit him (I would have broken my hand in the process) when a woman, about 5 foot 3, stood between us and told him where to go.

Travelling in the states on a 18-30s type road trip, one of my fellow travellers came into my room (I had my own room as my tour was a week long whereas everyone else was there for two weeks). He locked the door behind him and came over to me. I promptly got up and told him I had a headache. I think he thought I was easy pickings as I had slept with someone three days in Blush

I was so lucky, but stupid (especially in the last three situations) to have put myself in those positions. There are other situations where I've been harassed or made to feel fearful but these are the ones that stand out

berlinbabylon · 22/03/2022 13:38

I've never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night

Indeed, there was a thread on here a few weeks ago about someone who had a 45 minute walk home (I think her DH had covid and didn't want to collect her from work) but people were suggesting taxi. I'd have taken my chance on foot if my DH was too ill too collect me. I only ever get a taxi with company, or pre-booked with a taxi firm I trust.

berlinbabylon · 22/03/2022 13:42

@VelvetChairGirl

Well guess what the fire alarm went off in Morrisons this morning, I put my stuff down and casually walked out, a couple of people walked out complete with trolleys full and there was a few determined people at the self checkouts refusing to stop.

we were all let back in a few mins later.

My DH is a fire warden at his work. He's had to go in and shout at people to get off the phone when the fire alarm is going off and they won't leave their conversations with their precious clients. Yes in most cases it's a false alarm but is it really worth frying if it's not?
Owwlie · 22/03/2022 13:47

I’ve never understood why women choose taxis as a safe way of getting home at night

After a few creepy taxi drivers I now only ever get uber so I can ‘share’ my journey with DH and if it’s late, or I’ve had a drink, I tend to call him as well. It’s safer that way at least.

WildFlowerBees · 22/03/2022 14:16

I was about 9 and on our usual drive home from school (country lanes) I told my mum she should slow down, she wasn't going fast anyway given the lane but she listened and as she slowed a tractor with the hay baler on the front came around the corner too fast had mum been driving any quicker he'd have hit us head on.

Around 15 I told my mum to tell my brother to bring all his valuables home for Christmas from uni, my brother told me I was a weirdo but mum insisted so he did and 2 days after he got home he had a phone call to say their house had been burgled and everyone apart from him had had their things stolen.

Went to the toilets on a school trip, as I came out of the cubicle a man was standing outside the toilet door with his penis out telling me to touch it, I managed to duck under his arm as he tried grabbing me and ran to tell the teacher. Police never found him. Took me years to go into a public toilets alone again.

whumpthereitis · 22/03/2022 15:17

I also have a UK taxi one, also tangentially war related.

It was night, I was a taxi and I got a phone call from my aunt. I briefly spoke to her in Serbian. I ended the phone call and noticed the taxi driver was staring at me through the rear view mirror. He then said ‘you’re Serbian?’, and I conform. He then told me, like I’d failed the notice pretty much entirety of the 90s, that ‘we had a war with your country, you know?’. I said I was aware, and he was silent for the rest of the journey, until we pulled up at my drop off point. He then turned, complimented my tits, and asked for my phone number.

Pinklimey · 22/03/2022 20:28

I was in Israel, hitch-hiked regularly, no problems. The one time we caughtba taxi, the driver started taking us to God knows where.

Copypaste12 · 22/03/2022 21:49

So so sad that the stories on this thread are about men trying to harm women.

Meanwhile, the world treats jk Rowling like a villain for wanting safe spaces for women.

I give up!

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