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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Justtoday22 · 21/03/2022 10:11

When I was a child . I used to run ahead of my mum . And hide at the corners to jump out on her .. one day she was really screaming my name. I though lt ha ha got her this time. I will jump out on her . It turns it she was screaming because a man had tried to sneak up on me. When he saw my mum he jumped in his car and drove off. I never knew until my mum told me. I still did not fully understand though. I just kept telling people the bogie man almost got Me.

Whattodoniw · 21/03/2022 10:14

I was backpacking in Israel aged 19 . Stayed in a hostel. Went to bed. Woke up in the middle of the night to find the owner of the hostel naked and astride me. No one else was in the room and how I wasn't raped I do not know.

Interrupted a house burglary. Was house sitting and look after cats for a friend and boyfriend was meeting me at the house. He was running late and so I stopped at Tesco to get some booze/ snacks en route. Faffed about in Tescos for ages and then made my way over the house.

Arrived at the house and opened the front door. Took me ages to open the door as the door key got stuck. Entered the house, closed the front door and walked through to the kitchen only to see the back door wide open. Turned on the kitchen light and immediately heard a loud crashing of dustbins outside and my friends two cats howling loudly.

Turns out that I had interrupted a big burglary and the burglar had bolted over the gate at the side of the house. Makes me feel sick when I think about it and how my repeated attempts to open the front door as the key got stuck must have disturbed them....

elliesmummy19 · 21/03/2022 10:27

We went to Morocco probably about 10 years ago. Booked a villa on what seemed to be (looking back) a dodgy website. Arrived late at night to the address we were given, followed some guy who met us on to what was clearly a building site. He asked us to wait there because the owner was on his way and would show us our villa. Two other men show up, they're all speaking in Arabic so we have no idea what's going on. The whole thing just felt really dodgy. We had cash (were supposed to pay for this villa in cash) which I had in a wallet clutched to my chest and was just getting really weird vibes about the whole thing.

I don't know if there was a genuine reason to feel suspicious, who knows. But the whole building site in the middle of no where, men turning up talking to eachother, pitch dark other than car headlights... We ended up getting in the car and leaving (and stayed at a hotel).

RagzRebooted · 21/03/2022 19:32

Got myself into countless dodgy situations with men as a teenager, thankfully never raped but came close a few times.

More fun, non predatory tale though...
When I was about 6 my parents took me and my baby sister travelling around Europe with a volvo estate and a small caravan, pitching up in random places (never proper campsites). One day, east coast of Spain, they parked up on the wide, flat sandy area of a river/estuary type place by the sea, under a bridge. There was a track that went down to it and the river was a small stream a few metres wide in this huge opening. We were pitched up a good 100 wards away.
It rained all evening and I remember waking up in the early hours of the morning as my stepdad moved the caravan - it was exciting as we were still in bed and you don't usually move the van while people are sleeping! But I must have gone back to sleep as I woke up the next morning and we were somewhere else.
Turns out we were already a foot deep in river when my parents realised what was happening and when they went back the next day, the whole wide estuary bit was a rushing torrent of water. We were very close to being swept out to sea!

Itwasscary1 · 21/03/2022 20:11

Was visiting someone at home as part of my job. When I got there, he led me into a dark room, curtains closed and romantic music playing. Then proceeded to tell me, " l don't need a ( name of my job). I need a WOMAN".

I got scared and left but then foolishly went back in as hadn't completed what I should have professionally. Nowadays I hope I'd pay more attention to my own safety rather than a man's needs

StrangeLookingParasite · 21/03/2022 20:24

was aware that his flat mates bolted the door and noticed them put something in a drink

What kind of gutter creature would ever think that this was an ok thing to do? What is wrong with these people?

bathshebaeverbusy · 21/03/2022 20:42

When I was 15 ( mid 1980’s) walking home from school …. I got the train and then had a mile and a half to walk. Had to walk through Wilmslow Park. There is a quiet spot where you cross a river. A silver car slowed behind me and stopped at the quietest part with no houses nearby. A person ( think it was a man but the had reflective glasses on) asked me to get in the car for a lift. I kept saying no and that I was happy to walk.I lied and said I only lived at the top of the hill. I began walking and he drove alongside me and sped away at the top of the hill where there were houses.

Nc123 · 21/03/2022 20:53

I had various challenges in my twenties and ended up quite isolated and vulnerable. During this time I unwisely hooked up with a man who then refused to leave and lovebombed me. I wanted to throw him out but was frightened of him and - being isolated - didn’t have a lot of support. One night he attacked me while we were walking home from the pub. Fortunately two nearby bouncers saw him knock me out and kick me in the ribs and called the police, who held him overnight.

The hospital treated me and sent me home with concussion and instructions to rest. A friend kindly came to sit in the house as I didn’t want to be alone. Just as well. We had left the top of the kitchen window open (just the narrow top bit) and the man who had attacked me came back, climbed in through it, and headed upstairs to where I would have been resting alone, with a kitchen knife in his hand. My throat closes over just thinking about it. There was an altercation and my friend and I managed to get out of the house and get to the police station, and the police came round and arrested him.

I ended up going to court on account of him. He was remanded and then a restraining order was put in place for a year. It was a terrifying experience and a huge wake up call for me. I never hooked up with anyone casually since.

Nc123 · 21/03/2022 20:54

I should add that I remain completely convinced that if I had been alone he would have stabbed me that day.

BettySundaes · 21/03/2022 20:57

Ignoring getting into compromising situations with the opposite sex:

Went into a strange man's house when I was about 9 as he invited me to listen to records (nothing happened) but thoughtless. Also played on building sites as a kid and hung out by seedy local mechanics garage.

Held up at gunpoint in a bar in Guatemala.

Cut a live wire and subsequently fell off the ladder when renovating my first flat.

Numerous other near misses - surprised I'm still alive!

IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy · 21/03/2022 21:12

I've had a few!

As a child, my Nan used to basically kick us out to play for a few hours in the field behind her house. There was a river in it which I fell into from a rope swing. I hit my head so was covered in blood and out of it.
Cousin panicked and ran to get help - luckily a local found me and pulled me out - apparently I had tried to stand and fallen forward, face first in to the water 😳

As a drunken teen, walking from nightclub to taxi, carrying my shoes, noticed a man was following me and friend. He went around a stall the opposite side to us overtaking us so he could step out into our path. He pushed us backwards into a shop doorway & another friend of his appeared.
They were backing us into a corner. Friend was crying, one of the men was laughing and undoing his trousers, the other man had his arms on the tops of my arms and gripping tight.
Even now I don't know the order things happened in - I hit one man with my shoes and started fighting and screaming my head off and a group of older men appeared and started to intervene. Not sure if the men made me confident to fight or my screaming caught their attention.
I remember them (nice men) walking us to our taxi and comforting friend who was sobbing and I thought I was strange because I felt fine. It didn't hit me for days and when it did I was furious for ages.
It makes me so sick to think about now though.

Along a slightly similar theme, I was spiked once at a house party. My 'friends' had left and I was so so lucky that as I was being led to the bathroom by strange man, a friend was randomly at the party too, could see I was barely standing and couldn't focus my eyes and basically got me out of there.
Again, it felt like one of those things for ages but now I feel sick when I think what could have happened to me.

And lastly, the one that scared me straight away - was driving down quite a steep hill. There's a junction at the bottom where you have to stop and wait for a gap to pull out and join the busy main road.
Just as I put my brakes on at the bottom of the hill I hit black ice and basically flew straight out of the junction and ended up slightly diagonally on the main road blocking traffic in both directions.
One lane was clear but the other had a bus approaching with a very fast thinking driver who mounted the empty pavement to avoid me. If he'd hit me I would have been dead - he was in a coach and I was in an old (d reg) nova.

Terfydactyl · 21/03/2022 21:51

@LunaTheCat

These are absolutely petrifying. The numbers of women who have had very very narrow misses with very predatory men. I have had a couple - as a child - once whilst at a library and the other whilst walking home in broad daylight from a friends place. It makes me so so angry. You are all very very brave.
Placemarking cos I've got bloody loads to tell about and many I won't tell about. But no time right now.

But Luna one thing I can guarantee is that I wasnt brave, I was downright stupid. And I had a pretty awful home life, you would think I'd know better.

CloseShave · 21/03/2022 22:10

Done a quick name change as this is really outing.

1991, I was asked by my line manager to go in to work early to do some overtime. I travelled into London Victoria by train and hadn't had breakfast. At Victoria, about 7:35am, I stopped at the croissant stand and debated getting one, but decided to wait and get something at work as we had a subsidised restaurant. A while later in the office my line manager came running in and saw me and was all dramatic "oh my God thank goodness you're ok!" I asked her what she was on about. It was 18 February and an IRA bomb had gone off at Victoria station. It had been placed in the bin at the croissant stand. Exploded 3 minutes after I'd left. The person at the stand died. If I'd waited there and bought a croissant I wouldn't be typing this now.

bumblenbean · 21/03/2022 22:29

When travelling in Aus with my best friend aged 18 we were in a very remote backwater little town in the middle of nowhere for a few days, where the local men would descend on the one pub whenever tourists would come by (it was a stop-over for the bus tour we were on). The menfolk were all pretty sleazy but we assumed harmless. The first night a group of them followed us into our dorm room when we tried to go to bed but just as we were starting to think we were in trouble they left.

The next night we’d been out for dinner and were walking back to the hostel, took a Detour along the beach and then realised we were totally lost. We knocked on a door to ask directions but it was an old lady and she said ‘I can’t help you’ and shut the door. By this time we were getting quite freaked out as it was pitch black and we had no idea where we were.

We came across a phone box in the middle of a sort of derelict parking lot, beside some public loos. Straight out of a horror film, phone box was lit up like a podium right in the middle of this big abandoned car park. We called a taxi and were put on hold for what felt like ages. Just then a car rolled really slowly into the parking lot and stopped in the shadows about 20 feet from the phone box. The driver door opened and a man’s leg came out. We couldnt see anything else- it was pitch black and there we were lit up like a bloody beacon knowing some random guy was just sitting there watching us, one leg out of his car. It was so bloody creepy. We thought about walking off but there were no street lights beyond the car park and we thought he might follow us.

After about 5 minutes of standing there helplessly, still on hold, by some miracle a cab actually drove by the car park and we managed to hail it. As we were walking over to the cab the other car drove away. To top off the horror movie vibe, the driver said he wouldn’t be walking around this place after dark. No shit Sherlock!

bumblenbean · 21/03/2022 22:36

Another example on the same trip but this time in Thailand. We were at the market on Khao San Road and noticed a middle aged man standing stock still on the other side of the street watching us, just standing there. As we moved down the road he walked along the other side, staring the whole time and matching our pace. Middle of the day, loads of people around but we couldn’t shake him off.

We went into a chemist to try to get away from him. As we were skulking around the aisles he suddenly appeared behind us. He held out an (open) water bottle to me and said quite forcefully ‘drink? You drink yes?’ Obviously I gave the kind offer a serve and we basically ran away until we were safely lost within the crowd.

I’m not sure he could have actually done anything with so many people around but it was very unsettling and we were worried he’d follow us back to our hostel and find out where we were stAying.

Some of these stories are horrifying. It’s very depressing that all the personal examples I can think of seem par for the course and just ‘accepted’ as part of being a woman.

FrasierCraneDay · 21/03/2022 22:44

Leaving the restaurant I worked at when I was 16 heading to the bus station to get home, about 11pm. A man walked to me asking if I had a spare cigarette, told him no. A police van drove up beside and the police woman asked what he had wanted, I explained and carried on my way. At the end of the road I had to go through an underpass which was hideous even in daylight but there was no other way.
Anyway I'm about 3 steps in and the same man is walking towards me, I completely froze. He grabbed me, tried to steal my bag while undoing his trousers, the police woman had thankfully followed me and he was taken away while two other police officers drove me home. It still scares the shit out of me to this day

RaspberriesToYouToo · 21/03/2022 22:58

Men, men, more men, one car accident and childbirth.

But yay, not all men, so everything is just lovely isn’t it. Everything is awesome, etc

52andblue · 21/03/2022 22:59

Placemarking until I can post properly.

ZoomieCo17 · 21/03/2022 23:34

Age 13 and a man with a scarf over his face grabbed me off the street in broad daylight and dragged me behind a house. He got on top of me and fingered me then let me go. I received no help or support from parents, police or the adults around me. I was a very innocent 13 year old and I was left confused and lonely. This was back in the 80.s. I think I may have PTSD now. I wonder what happened to the man and wether he did it again. He smelt of stale booze and stale urine . During the attack i froze and didn’t put up any struggle.

HollowedOut · 21/03/2022 23:42

I used to walk to primary school in the early 90’s. It was nearly a mile each way but a very safe town although I didn’t have anyone else to walk with as my mum had sent us to a school on the other side of town rather than the one opposite our house for unknown reasons.

I was in year 4 and had a male teacher who was very handsy. All the kids would tell their parents that he made them uncomfortable and we’d always be brushed off with it just him being affectionate or just his way. One day I was walking to school and he pulled up beside me and told me to get in the car as it would save my legs and we were going to the same place. I politely declined and he told me i was silly, got out of the car and stood next to me opening the passenger door and trying to usher me in. He kept saying “what do you think will happen? This isn’t stranger danger, I’m your teacher” etc. I said no several more times and eventually a guy came out of his shop to see what the matter was, teacher scuttled back into his car and drove off. He told everyone in the class how silly I’d been when at registration that day and the whole year kept bringing it up.

I don’t remember much of being 7/8 but that is a memory that really stands out as I so rarely stood up for myself. I just knew I shouldn’t get in that car. In 2000 he was arrested for raping a 6yo, threatening another child with a shotgun when they wouldn’t give him oral sex and had stacks of child abuse images in his house. He’s out now and works at a local church doing admin stuff. Everyone knows exactly what he did though.

kissmelittleass · 21/03/2022 23:51

I've had quite a few all of them concerning men I haven't time to write about them all now so I'll start with this one and might add more another day...
London mid nineties I was at a friends flat and called a mini cab as I always did from her place and this was about 10pm so obviously dark and I was also 5 months pregnant with quite a belly.

Mini cab arrived I got in sat behind the driver as usual and the driver pressed the locks locking all doors this scared the life out of me I was young thankfully didn't show my fear and before he drove off he asked me about my pregnancy how far along I was etc
As he drove off he creepily and nastily told me he hated pregnant women and told me about his wife who betrayed him and got pregnant. He called her terrible names and was getting angrier I kept calm ( crying inside I was young early twenties) and agreed with him about how bad a person she was.
We got to my destination and he drove past my block of flats and stopped a 2 minutes walk away from my flat, he sat repeating himself about how awful his wife was what he'd do to her and I continued to agree with him whilst sliding over to the other side of the car door on handle still locked him going on me telling him it was her not him and eventually the doors unlocked I asked him how much and literally threw the money at him telling him keep the change.
I literally held my belly and ran to my door two minutes away, I nearly collapsed when inside.
To this day I believe he would of taken my life and my unborn baby's that night if I hadn't kept my calm and agreed with him.

Lisad1231981 · 21/03/2022 23:59

A few here: massive car accident aged 22, car in front ended up under a car transporter, and my car was totalled.

Skied head first into a tree at speed 🤦‍♀️

When we were kids, someone came into our family tent to steal my mums handbag and few other bits, they would have seen as all sleeping 😵
Spent time with a family friend who was a pedo but because I was always with my sister nothing happened to us.

Babynames2 · 22/03/2022 00:23

At a club in my early twenties and leaving, my 2 friends were slightly ahead of me when a guy, probably 20 years older than me and a lot bigger, grabbed my arm and wouldn’t let go. I tried to pull away but he wouldn’t let me leave. Another guy my age came behind, picked me up and put me down the other side and told me to go. I ran out of there after my friends. Thinking about it I should have reported him to the bouncers, but I was just relived to be gone.

Heavily pregnant in my late 20s and standing at a bus stop in the city centre in the evening, with no one else around. A guy in about his 60s walks over and keeps smirking at me, wouldn’t take his eyes off me and made me really uncomfortable. I didn’t know whether to stay or walk away in case he followed when another man came over. He looked at us both and then stood right in between us. When the bus came the older guy tried to make me get on first but the second guy insisted the first did. I sat right at the front, so I was close to the driver. The first guy got off and stood there smirking at me again, it was so creepy. Second guy got off at the next stop. I’ve always wondered if he purposely stayed on the bus until he knew the first had gotten off as it was clear he thought there was something off about the first guy as well. I phoned my DH to walk from the bus stop to the house, he went mad at me for not calling him to pick me up but I was worried I was overreacting.

My younger sister was followed home from school in year 7 without even knowing. My brother and I were in the house and happened to look out of the front window to see her coming down the drive followed by a man. We ran to the front door and opened it and the guy ran off. Again, should have called the police really. Neither me nor my brother were meant to be in at that time, I had gotten back from sixth form early and his after school club had been cancelled, otherwise she would have been alone and letting herself into the house.

Xpologog · 22/03/2022 02:07

As a small child (5/6) my mother thought the bathroom was cold when my younger sibling and I were bathed together so she balanced an electric heater on the edge/corner of the bath, probably about 6 inches from where I was sitting and then climbed out of the water. Oh, and she was registered as a foster parent too.

whumpthereitis · 22/03/2022 03:00

Managed to not get injured/killed when cluster bombs were dropped in Niš. We’d been at the market that morning but we’d left only minutes before. We saw the planes coming in and ran and ducked. They’d been aiming for the airport apparently, but missed the target.

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