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She took my bloody co-op card

627 replies

HollowedOut · 10/03/2022 01:18

I’ve had a friend staying with me for the last few days, she due to go home tomorrow. As a thank you for letting her stay she offered to cook us a meal this evening which I gratefully accepted. She needed to go up to Co-Op to get the ingredients so I said to her to take my membership card if she hasn’t got one.

She went up and bought all the ingredients and cooked a really lovely meal. We had a bottle of wine with the meal but fancied another so I popped up to Co-Op again to buy another. I scan my member card like always and she’s spent all my points! There was about £30 on there that I have saved up for months. I like to know that I’ve always got a bit on there in case I’m short one month, it’s just a bit of reassurance.

If someone asked you to take their loyalty card to a shop when you had offered to cook them a meal would you assume that meant the person was offering to pay for the meal with their points? Or would you think they just wanted you to scan their card at checkout so you have a few more points?

Apologies if I’m rambling but it’s 1am, I’ve drunk a bottle of wine and I’m disproportionately pissed off that she’s spent my points!

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HerRoyalNotness · 10/03/2022 01:22

That’s like stealing from you! No way would I have used your points

DramaAlpaca · 10/03/2022 01:29

The cheek of her! I'd be annoyed. I'd have expected her to scan your card for the points, not to spend them.

Wowrogs · 10/03/2022 01:30

Is she still there? Aren’t you gonna ask her for your money back?

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dipdye · 10/03/2022 02:04

So she's owes you thirty quid basically

dipdye · 10/03/2022 02:04

*she owes

I'm drunk haha

Adebayo · 10/03/2022 02:07

That's really dishonest. Confront and keep at arms length going forward.

mowly77 · 10/03/2022 02:11

Fuck that. Explain there was a misunderstanding - there might have been -but say clearly and firmly those are points you keep for when you are short and she owes you £30 now, please.

I wouldn’t spend someone’s points unless they had deliberately told me to but then again I’m not a CF (I hope)

3luckystars · 10/03/2022 02:15

That’s brutal!!! What are you going to do?

flyingdream · 10/03/2022 02:18

Do you think she thought you offered your membership card for that and misunderstood? Even then it seems totally absurd. I wonder why she thought you gave her the card.

flyingdream · 10/03/2022 02:19

Just reading it again she probably thought you were doing her a favour by offering your card rather than her doing you a favour.

TheRealityCheque · 10/03/2022 02:20

Hmmm.

"Here, take my loyalty card" is not clear, imo.

It's £30. Suck it up.

flyingdream · 10/03/2022 02:21

I'd think you offered me your card for 10 percent off or something. But not to collect points for you. And not to spend your 30 quid.

Wam90 · 10/03/2022 02:23

Can you spend coop points from your card? I had to wait for a voucher code in the post based on their previous years investments. Maybe this is where they’ve disappeared to 🤷🏼‍♀️🤞🏼

BasiliskStare · 10/03/2022 02:27

It could have been a misunderstanding - i.e. you gave her the card so she thought that's for payment - but if she had offered to go and buy food before you gave the card ( i.e. she thought she was going to pay for it ) then I don't think it would be dreadful to ask her to reimburse the points / value & just say - there seems to have been a bit of a mix up here. But I can see that puts you in an awkward position to broach it.

If you haven't spoken about it I might just say "hang on - did you use my card points " and take it from there. If I am honest if someone was buying me a meal I would let them do it and miss out on the card points for that transaction.

Snozzlemaid · 10/03/2022 02:30

@Wam90

Can you spend coop points from your card? I had to wait for a voucher code in the post based on their previous years investments. Maybe this is where they’ve disappeared to 🤷🏼‍♀️🤞🏼
You can spend them directly from your card.
Chloemol · 10/03/2022 02:31

I would just add the points, I certainly wouldn’t spend them if I was doing a meal to say TY

Tell her your points have gone and ask her why

AvaR · 10/03/2022 02:43

I genuinely think she didn’t understand what you meant. It happens sometimes.

Fangdango · 10/03/2022 02:43

I suspect I'd have thought you meant "use my points" too. Unless you said please add points to my card I'd assume you were contributing.

LadyPropane · 10/03/2022 02:47

Tough one to call. I can see how she might have thought you meant for her to spend the points. It's not clear from what you've said.

ISpyCobraKai · 10/03/2022 02:51

Check first, it's possibly a misunderstanding.

Weatherwax13 · 10/03/2022 02:58

If she specifically said the meal was a Thankyou then of course she should've paid for the ingredients. You had dinner thinking what a lovely gesture.
And then found out you bloody paid for it!
The PP who said "it's only £30, suck it up" clearly didn't read what you said about saving the points for if you're short one month
£30 isn't mere pocket change for everyone.
She may have honestly thought you didn't mind her using the points but surely you'd think "I won't do that though, as this is meant to be my treat"

User73ui843 · 10/03/2022 03:01

Oh dear
Well you maybe weren't clear but I'd not spend someone's points.
Has she paid to stay with you or contributed in any way to her visit, if not then making your host a.meal or buying takeaway is in my eyes, almost expected, so I'd be furious if she's stayed for free, enjoying hospitality and then spent money of mine to cook a meal

Flittingaboutagain · 10/03/2022 03:24

Could she have thought you were offering to pay as she was cooking? I personally wouldn't have done this as it was supposed to be a thank you meal for you!

Christmasqueenx · 10/03/2022 03:28

You know her best so what does your gut tell you, do you think it’s an honest mistake? I think it’s a case of she’d have realised that you meant collect the points, but thought she’d spend them anyway as she can just claim it’s a misunderstanding.

Yourheartwillleadyouhome · 10/03/2022 03:35

What did you say to her exactly?

If it was "Use my card" then I can see how this happened...