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She took my bloody co-op card

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HollowedOut · 10/03/2022 01:18

I’ve had a friend staying with me for the last few days, she due to go home tomorrow. As a thank you for letting her stay she offered to cook us a meal this evening which I gratefully accepted. She needed to go up to Co-Op to get the ingredients so I said to her to take my membership card if she hasn’t got one.

She went up and bought all the ingredients and cooked a really lovely meal. We had a bottle of wine with the meal but fancied another so I popped up to Co-Op again to buy another. I scan my member card like always and she’s spent all my points! There was about £30 on there that I have saved up for months. I like to know that I’ve always got a bit on there in case I’m short one month, it’s just a bit of reassurance.

If someone asked you to take their loyalty card to a shop when you had offered to cook them a meal would you assume that meant the person was offering to pay for the meal with their points? Or would you think they just wanted you to scan their card at checkout so you have a few more points?

Apologies if I’m rambling but it’s 1am, I’ve drunk a bottle of wine and I’m disproportionately pissed off that she’s spent my points!

OP posts:

stuntbubbles · 10/03/2022 07:13

To be so keen on points that you give your card to someone else to collect for you is not a normal thing to do,
Is it? Everyone I know does this – points are free money, really, why waste that?

DinosApple · 10/03/2022 07:14

I'd have assumed you wanted points added to your card however you worded it.

Sharrowgirl · 10/03/2022 07:16

I don't understand those of you who DON'T understand what being handed the rewards card would be most likely to mean - it's pretty obvious to most people that it would mean "swipe this to give me the points, since you don't have your own and there's no point in missing out on them

But the fact remains that it’s ambiguous for some people. And the OP’s friend could be one of them.

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Whatterywhat · 10/03/2022 07:19

Misunderstanding or not, you'll need her to give you the money. It's £30 FGS and your emergency fund
I'd be gutted and a bit panicked to lose that

dworky · 10/03/2022 07:19

Of course it's stealing if deliberate but are you sure she didn't misunderstand your intention when you gave her the card?

Frozenlikeablockofmarble · 10/03/2022 07:19

If someone else gave me their loyalty card for the shopping I was offering to get for them, I would think “Another way I can pay my friend back for my stay by getting her more points on the card.”

No way would I spend the points on the card without explicit permission or instructions - it’s not mine to do so.

It’s a stretch, but I can imagine if she’d done a distracted “hmm?” at the till when asked, the cashier might have interpreted that as consent and rung it through before she had a chance to object. But if that had happened to me, I’d have owned up and given you the money straight away as I’d have felt very flustered about it.

CowsAreNotGreen · 10/03/2022 07:20

It could have been a misunderstanding I guess. You know your friend better than use though.

sofakingcool · 10/03/2022 07:21

@Silvershroud

Reading this, I thought you were offering her your points to share the cost. Otherwise giving someone you loyalty card is an odd thing to do.

Is coop like Tesco though? In that without your loyalty card you don't get offers?

I don't know - just a thought

Ddot · 10/03/2022 07:23

Wow that's bad, can't really say anything else. Yes I can
that was a lovely meal I PAYED FOR

lennybruceisnotafraid · 10/03/2022 07:24

Did you expect her to pay for the ingredients but you collect the points?

But no, I would've just done that and not used the points. But maybe she thought you were offering. Annoying. Oh well.

FishFingerSandwiches4Tea · 10/03/2022 07:25

I definitely would have assumed that you meant she should use the card to collect the points from her shopping, not use your points balance to pay for the shopping! And even if I wasn't sure, if I was buying ingredients to cook a thank you meal I would 100% pay for it myself! Not much of a treat or thank you otherwise is it? CF-ery at its finest imo. She wouldn't be coming and being put up by me again anytime soon!

HelloBunny · 10/03/2022 07:27

I don’t have any loyalty cards. But my mum is obsessed with getting points on hers. She always wants us to use it when going to the shop. Maybe your friend doesn’t understand how loyalty cards work? And thought you were offering her your discount... 30 quid is a big discount, though!

gettingolderandgrumpy · 10/03/2022 07:28

I don’t know why you didn’t say anything op ? . Of course handing the card doesn’t mean use the bloody points it means scan it , basically op you’ve paid for that meal so she is a complete cf . Ask her about the points this morning then tell her to leave .

Walkingalot · 10/03/2022 07:29

Are you sure it's a Co-op card? Where I live you have to wait once a year for your 'divvy' and then you get vouchers to the value of. You have to present your card to use the voucher. Never have I ever been asked if I want to use my 'points'.
If anyone say's 'here, use my card' - it's meant to add the points, not spend them. I've even had strangers ask me if I have a card so I can add their points (yeah, I must look hard up, lol).

RachelGreeneGreep · 10/03/2022 07:31

So her 'thank you meal' ended up costing you thirty quid.

RachelGreeneGreep · 10/03/2022 07:32

@FishFingerSandwiches4Tea

Exactly.

Iloveacurry · 10/03/2022 07:33

The point is, that she was meant to be cooking you a thank you meal, using her own money to buy the ingredients. She cooked the meal, but you paid for it. Have you said anything to her?

CowsAreNotGreen · 10/03/2022 07:34

@Walkingalot

Are you sure it's a Co-op card? Where I live you have to wait once a year for your 'divvy' and then you get vouchers to the value of. You have to present your card to use the voucher. Never have I ever been asked if I want to use my 'points'. If anyone say's 'here, use my card' - it's meant to add the points, not spend them. I've even had strangers ask me if I have a card so I can add their points (yeah, I must look hard up, lol).

Ah COOP is odd there's like two different ones in some places. We've got one like the one you describe and then a big national one that uses the card like OP describes.

Landedonfeet · 10/03/2022 07:34

Did you say

Here take my card so that loyalty points are added

Here take my card

CinnamonJellyBeans · 10/03/2022 07:34

I think I'd also check the cost of the ingredients she spent your points on to ensure she didn't also get herself an additional treat that didn't make it to your table..

NotYourOscarSpeech · 10/03/2022 07:34

@sofakingcool It’s starting to go that way I’ve noticed, not with everything like Tesco but some things especially wine

Beachbabe1 · 10/03/2022 07:38

Wow rude beyong belief!! I would be fuming too!!

ChipButtyCurrySauce · 10/03/2022 07:40

@QuebecBagnet

£30 for ingredients for one meal is a lot. Do you think the ingredients cost that much or did she stock up on her own shopping as well?

It's not a lot if you're shopping in the coop! 😬

Lunificent · 10/03/2022 07:41

If you’ve never had any reason to suspect her of being a CF before, then I think she took it that you were paying and she was cooking, she therefore assumed you meant her to take the card and to use the points.

MrsWooster · 10/03/2022 07:42

She owes you £30 and I would tell her so.

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