What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

[Raonbowwatermelon]

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

@Fatherliamdeliverance

Interesting one to muse on! For me, I don't think I'd be put off by any legal jobs in particular, but if I didn't agree with the ethics of the organisation worked for I wouldn't be attracted to someone who made a living there. For instance, I spoke to someone on OLD who worked for an arms manufacturer who sell to certain countries whose military actions I don't agree with. He seemed quite proud of how successful his employer was in terms of how much they sell worldwide and how well they paid him. This showed that we have completely different values. Similarly, someone working for a tobacco or payday loan company or similar would put me off.

I would be put off by a scientist testing cosmetics on animals, but medications not so much (however much I wish this wasn't part of the process). I think a battery farmer would be very offputting but not so much one who cared about his chickens' welfare and kept free range hens.

I suppose I would want someone's work life to reflect ethics, attitudes and values that I see as positive. Perhaps it's fortunate if you never have to compromise your beliefs to earn a living so I might feel differently if someone was doing something unpalatable to me as a very temporary stopgap.

Well you're safe to date a "scientist" (animal technician) in the UK then as it's thankfully not legal to test cosmetics here

Why didn't you get the job as a trainee dental nurse. That'd put me off you qxtually judge judy 🥴

Re the lambs-many farmers hit newborn lambs over the head (their skulls are very soft so it’s quick if done right) or shoot them if older to put them down if they are suffering/have abnormalities that mean they won’t survive to live a pain free life. It’s a humane and legal form of euthanasia, no different to a vet injecting them (and means that the animal doesn’t have to suffer while waiting for the vet to come out)

Having no job ??

@ruthydoodles24f

Having no job ??

Actually, having no job is by faaaaar the most unattractive.

Actually, having no job is by faaaaar the most unattractive

This is why I don't even try and date anyone. I am unemployed (unable to work). Is actually hurtful to think I should be chucked on the scrapheap and written off as unattractive. .

Circumstances dear. I was being gender specific.
For me, as a woman who works full time, I would find a man who didn't work out of choice hugely unattractive.
Perhaps I should've elaborated there.

Local Council Officer or Teacher might put me off (too enstranged from reality) but a Dustman or a Doctor, now you're talking....

Insurance broker

* I wouldn’t date anyone in the forces. Nothing against them as people, but if we ended up married with children, my choices would be either a) basically be a single parent for months on end when they’re deployed or b) follow them around as a forces wife and sacrifice any career ambitions of my own. Neither prospect is appealing to me, personally.*

^I agree

Fisherman, any kind of fish monger/fish and chip shop worker. Purely because I hate fish and can't stand the smell. Find it really unbearable walking past the fresh fish shop in our local shopping centre.

I wouldn’t date anyone in the forces. Nothing against them as people, but if we ended up married with children, my choices would be either a) basically be a single parent for months on end when they’re deployed or b) follow them around as a forces wife and sacrifice any career ambitions of my own. Neither prospect is appealing to me, personally.*

They don't all deploy, my husband does 4 months admittedly but he only did that after being in for 5 years because he changed trades.

Also your choice makes no sense, they deploy or they don't, being accompanied or not doesn't impact that. As for sacrificing your career that's bull shit, I followed my husband around before kids got to school age and thanks to a posting in London in particular my career took off and I now earn more than twice he does (although I'd have managed it without the London posting, his career hasn't held me back). We bought off base and haven't moved for a posting in over 6 years now, he commutes daily.

If your partner is in the army chances are he could commute. If they are Royal Marines / Navy / SAS it's a lot harder as there are fewer bases. Obviously depends where you live. We live in the city myself and DH grew up in. No where near water. My choice but he can't travel gone every weekend due to costs. 15 years I've lived this life. Although I'm autistic so I probably wouldn't have met anyone else anyway as I don't go out.

@RevolvingPivot husband is RAF so it's quite easy to centralise yourself to a number of bases. We moved to be with him so don't live anywhere near where we grew up, but did find somewhere to settle so we didn't have to move the kids around but could stay with DH. We're quite lucky that DH's trade allows you to extend for 5 years too. Also our home town has very little opportunities so we'd have likely moved either way.

Hats off to you, that sounds really difficult.

My husband has had postings varying from as far North as Catterick and as far south as Portsmouth. And thats the UK ones...

We do now live centrally... but its a weekly commute not a daily one! It depends what their job is.

@Bettalife

Traffic warden would be a big fat no from me.

Why?

Estate agents!!! and people who work night shifts

I second someone that works in an abattoir or else a butcher shop

Shift work or anything that would smell really bad. Likewise anything that meant being away for long periods/high risk. I’m a natural worrier and would find it way too stressful

*night shift