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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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Kite22 · 30/12/2021 23:27

How strange.
I mean there are a lot of jobs I wouldn't want to do personally, but I can't see why it would be offputting for a prospective partner to do them. Confused

I would be put off by anyone that had to work ridiculous hours - like a chef or Pub Manager - as you'd just never get to see them. Same with someone who started work really early, permanently - say a baker - so they were never available to socialise when other people do.

elbea · 31/12/2021 00:06

@RevolvingPivot Aldi managers aren’t getting that non contributory army pension though (possibly final salary), they haven’t benefitted from low cost housing and they don’t get three times their annual salary as a lump sum after 22 years.

deeplyambivalent · 31/12/2021 00:13

@mummypie17

Anyone in the public eye - politicians, actors, singers etc. I value my privacy.
I agree. I tell myself this to feel better about not dating Channing Tatum.
GinJeanie · 31/12/2021 00:23

Haven't read the whole thread and likely already mentioned- Ofsted inspector would be a no no for me 😱

RevolvingPivot · 31/12/2021 00:26

[quote elbea]@RevolvingPivot Aldi managers aren’t getting that non contributory army pension though (possibly final salary), they haven’t benefitted from low cost housing and they don’t get three times their annual salary as a lump sum after 22 years.[/quote]
I agree with that apart from the low cost housing

FakeFruitShoot · 31/12/2021 00:30

I think it depends where you meet them. If I met someone in real life (eg through friends or in a bar) and there was a load of chemistry I'd be able to overlook most jobs once I found out what they did. If I was finding out upfront and deciding whether to go on a first date, I'd avoid spies, famous people and anyone who worked away a lot including oil rig workers, soldiers and documentary filmmakers.

Fifipop185 · 31/12/2021 01:09

DH is a funeral director and he does get a lot of attention from female friends / ladies at funerals. He swears it's the suit, top hat, cane and his air of authority.

He can start and stop a conversation instantly and with ease, control rowdy crowds, calm emotional people and reverse park a hearse / limousine with millimetres to spare. All very handy skills. He is the one the neighbours come knocking for if there is trouble or they need help.

There's nothing to be put off by - he has never come home covered in anything grim, rarely talks about work and unless you knew him, you'd never guess his profession when he's walking down the high street at the weekend.

Only bad thing is his works Xmas dinner. I've learned to eat before you go in case they all try to out-do each other's horror stories. Envy

Giggorata · 31/12/2021 02:54

Anyone whose work involves getting so smelly that it lingers, like the aforementioned fishmongers, portaloo cleaners and sewage workers.

The sort of salesman whose job involves slickly talking people into signing up for things they don't really need and can't afford.

Bailiffs, debt collectors, pay day loan salesmen, anything that kicks the poor when they're down.

Gynaecologists - I would find it too weird.

Hypnotists, just in case.🙂

liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 07:06

I once did a shift at a smoked salmon factory as a teen - it was cold so you wore a coat under your white overall, it was awful and I never went back (already had 3 jobs anyway this was just a temp for a bit extra). After just the one shift though it took a couple of days to get the smell off my hands and I never did get it out the coat or the jumper I had on underneath . I couldn't live with anyone that worked there as the whole house would eventually smell and your skin would smell permanently. If that makes me shallow then so be it 😬😆

liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 07:12

Oh and anyone who worked for an MLM or anything too 'woo'

liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 07:20

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

As an Army wife... I can see why people would find it off putting. It is an unusual lifestyle, and I don't judge people who want a more consistent life. I honestly don't know how Navy wives put up with it, especially Submariners wives!
Personally I can't think of anything better 😆. After nearly 9 years of being single, the idea of dating someone who is only there part of the time is very appealing. I like my own space.
liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 07:24

@Raonbowwatermelon

I also wouldn't be able to date a ballerina. I'd feel like such an ungraceful heffalump.

Couldn't really date a prison officer either.

I thought some make ballerinas are pretty ripped? For this reason though I probably wouldn't date a jockey
Poppy101010 · 31/12/2021 07:26

Male nurse - had experience of this. Thought he was a consultant and had a knowledge of all medical conditions . He was newly qualified 🤦🏻‍♀️ and thought he was better at being a nurse than most females as she is "less sensitive to life". Aye okay then ....

User48751490 · 31/12/2021 08:08

Shift worker of any sort. Bitter experience teaches you that you can't have a life with a family if you work shifts.

LadyWithLapdog · 31/12/2021 08:16

A Tory politician.
There may be others but much further down the list.

minny80 · 31/12/2021 08:19

Controversial, but I don't necessarily agree people's job are not reflection of who they are. It might be true of people who only do a job to get paid, but in many cases ppl chose a job because they feel some affinity. Or in other cases the job responsibilities mould them.

I have been dating a local politician last summer and have to say he was the most self absorbed person I have ever met. Didn't completely put me off the entire category, but I would definitely look for red flags if I ever meet another one.

gannett · 31/12/2021 08:19

Right-wing politician/commentator
Police
Military

I'd struggle to be even civil to anyone who worked in border or immigration control, OP is bang on with that. Those people just love kicking the most vulnerable people when they're down.

userisi2 · 31/12/2021 08:27

Aldi managers aren’t getting that non contributory army pension though (possibly final salary), they haven’t benefitted from low cost housing and they don’t get three times their annual salary as a lump sum after 22 years.

Previous poster said Marines, not army. Many families, especially Marines, Navy and RAF, don't live in MQs anymore, it is not as cheap as it was and the pension is NOT final salary. My civil service pension is better than my husband's, the only benefit to his is the lack of contribution, the pension is nothing like it used to be.

The military benefits are not what they were even 10 years ago.

GalacticGoddess · 31/12/2021 08:29

Anything that would mean long absences from home

Fishmonger or abattoir worker

Border force maybe - depends on personality and personal views tbh.

GalacticGoddess · 31/12/2021 08:29

Politician also

thewhatsit · 31/12/2021 08:31

Professional celebrity / instagrammer would be a hard no!

kookievee · 31/12/2021 08:41

Butcher
Abbatoir worker
Farmer
Vivisectionist
etc etc

Nietzschethehiker · 31/12/2021 08:44

There's a slight caveat to mine that it would be different if it was a case that they had been unemployed (say had been made redundant) and took a holding job until they got back into their profession. I have more respect for someone who is prepared to do anything when out of work than fuss about how it looks.

That said if it was a deliberate choice

Estate agent (I have never met one that I could bear for more than 30 seconds and they seem to have an unnaturally high level of belief that they are god...not entirely sure where it comes from)

Traffic warden as a career (I mean seriously you spend you life fining people for being on a piece of concrete the wrong way or the wrong time...how is that meaningful?)

Bailiffs and the people on the phone at debt collectors....some of the dregs of society there.

Funeral director is fine its a respectful profession giving people comfort in a horrendous time , and society needs them. A job to be proud of I think.

SweetPotatoDumpling · 31/12/2021 09:15

@welliesarefuntowear

A funeral director is a job that requires compassion and empathy. You have to be able to talk easily to anyone. A funeral director would be a big fat yes from me. Send him over to me 😁

Exactly this...I work with a lot of funeral directors as part of my job (celebrant) and they are all lovely! I'd definitely date one.

I wouldn't date an MP though...especially if they were Tory 🤣

RevolvingPivot · 31/12/2021 09:38

@userisi2

Aldi managers aren’t getting that non contributory army pension though (possibly final salary), they haven’t benefitted from low cost housing and they don’t get three times their annual salary as a lump sum after 22 years.

Previous poster said Marines, not army. Many families, especially Marines, Navy and RAF, don't live in MQs anymore, it is not as cheap as it was and the pension is NOT final salary. My civil service pension is better than my husband's, the only benefit to his is the lack of contribution, the pension is nothing like it used to be.

The military benefits are not what they were even 10 years ago.

Thank you. Me and the kids live 400 miles from his base. He pays for two lots of Food. Petrol. Mortgage and Accommodation.