What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

[Raonbowwatermelon]

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

@katienana

Abattoir worker

Are you vegan?

Fish monger
Butcher

Odd that so many say abattoir worker (presumably because they kill/chop up meat for a living) yet they chop up their own meat on their plates just fine 🥲

I always said I wouldn’t date a teacher or someone only limited to school holidays as I like a lot of holidays and long weekends away.
Ended up with self employed DP who works 6-7 days a week and takes maybe 10 days off a year if I’m lucky

Chef, abattoir worker, working for model agency/glamour photographer

Abattoir worker
Armed services
Traffic wardensx a million
Councillor
Vicar

The only friend I have ever had a problem with their job, was a journalist.

He had no scruples or respect for anyone's privacy whatsoever. I found it profoundly distasteful.

What's wrong with a funeral director?

Most jobs, tbh. I'm very fussy.

Anything to do with meat (but not fish). But I would worry about being in a relationship with a fisherman incase they were lost at sea.

Armed forces.

Pest control.

Funeral director I'm on the fence about.

I can't think of a job that would put me off.

Conspiracy theorist, anti vaxxer, person with a very strong religion (to the extent of rejecting science, not necessarily someone who works for the church, or who expected me to conform to thier religious ideals)

You can be squeamish about something without having a moral objections to it. Presumably the OP's friend who doesn't fancy dating a funeral director isn't boycotting them because they think the job is evil.

Besides, it's entirely plausible that the posters who wouldn't date an abattoir worker actually are vegetarian/vegan, it's hardly rare.

@FTEngineerM

Odd that so many say abattoir worker (presumably because they kill/chop up meat for a living) yet they chop up their own meat on their plates just fine 🥲

Im veggie and hoping to go back vegan from Jan

@MintJulia

The only friend I have ever had a problem with their job, was a journalist.

He had no scruples or respect for anyone's privacy whatsoever. I found it profoundly distasteful.

Oh yes, tabloid journo or papperazzi

Funeral director would be a positive job to me. You have to have a certain personality for it which would suit me!

Tell her to watch William and Mary. ITV series about a midwife dating a funeral director.

I'd be put off by military and police.

I think I'd also struggle dating a crown court judge as well; sending people to prison for thirty years then coming home for dinner...

Life coach
Mlm bot
Any sort of made up ‘coach’

Anyone in the forces would be a no for me.

I don't want to have to parent with one of us away for months on end. A close friend was already pregnant with her first when her DH decided that what he really wanted was to join the army, and her life has been compromise compromise compromise ever since.

Debt collector

Interesting one to muse on! For me, I don't think I'd be put off by any legal jobs in particular, but if I didn't agree with the ethics of the organisation worked for I wouldn't be attracted to someone who made a living there. For instance, I spoke to someone on OLD who worked for an arms manufacturer who sell to certain countries whose military actions I don't agree with. He seemed quite proud of how successful his employer was in terms of how much they sell worldwide and how well they paid him. This showed that we have completely different values. Similarly, someone working for a tobacco or payday loan company or similar would put me off.

I would be put off by a scientist testing cosmetics on animals, but medications not so much (however much I wish this wasn't part of the process). I think a battery farmer would be very offputting but not so much one who cared about his chickens' welfare and kept free range hens.

I suppose I would want someone's work life to reflect ethics, attitudes and values that I see as positive. Perhaps it's fortunate if you never have to compromise your beliefs to earn a living so I might feel differently if someone was doing something unpalatable to me as a very temporary stopgap.

@Raonbowwatermelon

I think I'd also struggle dating a crown court judge as well; sending people to prison for thirty years then coming home for dinner...

The old saying "if you can't do the time don't do the crime" is worth remembering.

I know a couple of funeral directors- men in their thirties. Both absolutely lovely with all the excellent people skills you might imagine, but can sometimes have to deal with calls at inhospitable hours and while many others are off eg Christmas Day

I once turned down a budding actor because I thought his work would be unreliable. It wasn't; he's well known.

I probably wouldn't have been suited to anyone worthily left leaning: social workers, teachers, etc.

Vicar or other religious leader. I really struggle to respect people who believe in something that isn’t there.

@BlackCatz

What's wrong with a funeral director?

I don't understand why it would put someone off either.

I'd imagine a man who did that job as being very mild mannered and empathetic with plenty of emotional intelligence. I'd see it as a positive thing

Something dangerous I would be too anxious