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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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Wantubackforgood · 30/12/2021 18:57

@Raonbowwatermelon

Personally I couldn't date someone who worked for boarder force as I used to work in a related area and the sheer zeal they had in giving some very vulnerable people a hard time was depressing.

Also very scared of snakes, so couldn't see myself dating someone who ran a snake shop either.

Lol!....was laughing about the snake shop owner and then I remembered I saw a reptile shop the other day and am now wondering what horrors may lurk within !Grin
Bedpost · 30/12/2021 18:57

This is interesting, some of these jobs sound quite attractive to me. I know an army officer who is an interesting nice person, has a masters degree and has travelled the world, got some great stories, works in computing for the army so never killed anyone and now hardly has to leave his region of the UK for work. I also think police detective and A&E, paramedic, firefighter are all interesting and attractive jobs. I’d find a boring vague office job more off putting. I’m not religious but wouldn’t be put off by a hot, caring vicar. Psychotherapist is quite attractive too I think-free therapy! I can understand not liking meat smell, but I couldn’t say I wouldn’t go out with someone who kills/rears/processes meat animals for moral reasons since I eat meat. I assume all posters who said they were against animal testers/butchers/abbattoir workers as they are morally against this are vegans and therefore don’t benefit from these jobs.

Bedpost · 30/12/2021 18:58

I also think lawyer and celebrity would be attractive

Nomilkinmycoffeeplease · 30/12/2021 19:11

@LetHimHaveIt Chefs are more problematic for another reason (not all are sleeping around, I used to work in a restaurant for years and haven;t seen any of it), but stupid working hours. No weekends together, as this is when the restaurants are busiest, split shifts, late returns from work...

FireMeetGasoline · 30/12/2021 19:11

@Bedpost, yes I'm vegan. Funnily enough though, I would've said the same prior to even going vegetarian. Bit of cognitive dissonance on my part there though Blush

RoyalFamilyFan · 30/12/2021 19:11

@Bedpost I think it is the unsocial hours that puts people off.

LetHimHaveIt · 30/12/2021 19:17

[quote Nomilkinmycoffeeplease]@LetHimHaveIt Chefs are more problematic for another reason (not all are sleeping around, I used to work in a restaurant for years and haven;t seen any of it), but stupid working hours. No weekends together, as this is when the restaurants are busiest, split shifts, late returns from work...[/quote]
Yeah; they're coming back from work late because they're shagging the shift manager in the walk-in fridge.

I'm honestly astonished you've never seen it - it's rife. Next you'll be telling me all chefs are equable, diffident chaps who eschew drink and drugs.

SivvyPlath · 30/12/2021 19:18

My DH has been in the forces for over 2 decades and hasn't ever killed anyone. It is generally a last resort, most of what they do now is stopping stuff happening before you get to the point of having to kill someone...

Thank God for a voice of reason.

My OH has also never killed anyone, and neither have the various other serviceman I know.

Oh, and they’re also all not away constantly - it depends entirely on the trade you’re in.

Nomilkinmycoffeeplease · 30/12/2021 19:24

@LetHimHaveIt- to be honest at the end of the shift people were too knackered to even get into a cab, not even mention shagging anything/anyone. Not saying people don't, but it was not as widespread at work- whatever was happening at staff parties may have been a different matter.

RoundRainbow · 30/12/2021 19:28

Anyone in a religious role, we would probably have incompatible views.

Anyone with a job that could bring them fame, obvious reasons.

userisi2 · 30/12/2021 19:30

Oh, and they’re also all not away constantly - it depends entirely on the trade you’re in.

To add to the non-killing and not always away slant, we haven't moved in 6 years, we haven't needed to change the kids schools yet and won't in future.

BlackCatz · 30/12/2021 19:36

@userisi2

Oh, and they’re also all not away constantly - it depends entirely on the trade you’re in.

To add to the non-killing and not always away slant, we haven't moved in 6 years, we haven't needed to change the kids schools yet and won't in future.

We won’t be moving for a good few years either.
LondonQueen · 30/12/2021 20:17

Any MP, they're all the same. Border force wouldn't bother me, not sure why it would bother anyone?

catbsfhs · 30/12/2021 20:17

@NiceTwin

None. A person's job does not define them.
I don't think this is true in all cases. Jobs often represent your personality, interests, morals etc.
Buttonitboris · 30/12/2021 20:22

I wouldn't date a binman, but I still put my bins out Hmm

Boood · 30/12/2021 20:38

Anything with a strong “married to the job” culture would put me off- police, military, medicine, politics, that kind of thing. Work/life balance, being able to walk away at the end of the day, and time off you can rely on are really important to me, and it wouldn’t work for me to have a partner who didn’t feel the same way.
Also anything that resulted in lingering nasty smells. Apart from that I’d keep an open mind. People don’t have to be defined by their jobs, I think they’re often more interesting when they aren’t, and I respect anyone who sticks with something they don’t love to keep a roof over their head.

Dixiechickonhols · 30/12/2021 20:41

I don’t see problem with binman. Dependable job in demand, could move to any area, physically fit, ours finish early afternoon so could easily do a school pick up so a family friendly job, Mon to Fri only, Public sector so sick pay, pension etc.
I’m married to a lawyer and had a student job in a sausage factory so maybe I’m not picky!

Fordian · 30/12/2021 20:47

@Raonbowwatermelon

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

Sorry, straight from the original OP to here, so it's probably already been said.

The undertakers I know are loaded. Moved up from 'technician' to 'own business'. Loaded.

thetinsoldier · 30/12/2021 20:49

Anything meat-related, so butcher, abattoir worker, or anything that made me feel I'd have nothing in common with them, eg bin man. Also anything aggressive or dangerous. Or something I disagreed ideologically with, eg Tory councillor/MP. Sex worker. Porn star.

Pheebs2021 · 30/12/2021 20:49

So I would rather avoid the Abattoir workers etc however that wouldn't turn me off as much as a jobbing actor or a long term unemployed finding himself. The will to get up in a morning do a job you may not like temporarily is much more attractive to me if they had been made redundant or what not

TheCatsKilledTheGonks · 30/12/2021 20:54

Having read the thread I think it would be much quicker to list professions from which we would consider a date, rather than those ruled out. 🤣

TheCatsKilledTheGonks · 30/12/2021 20:56

@Itsnotdeep

Last time I had a swipe, I did see Michael Gove on bumble! I swiped right to see if we would match - we didn't!

There was also an american porn star who apparently was visiting the area. I didn't swipe right on him.

I thought he was married (unbelievable as it is, I know)? Are you sure it wasn't a fake profile somebody did as a joke?
TheCatsKilledTheGonks · 30/12/2021 20:57

@Waxonwaxoff0

I've heard people say that surgeons are breathtakingly arrogant. I've never met one though.
A very high proportion of the good ones are psychopaths: it's very helpful in that line of work.
HobgoblinGold · 30/12/2021 21:02

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FireMeetGasoline · 30/12/2021 21:12

''Having read the thread I think it would be much quicker to list professions from which we would consider a date, rather than those ruled out. 🤣''

My dp of 20 years is an engineer (yep, I'm still not sure what he actually does 🤣), however, I would still be with him if he did a degree in mathematics (he did Confused) and I would still be with him if he became a bin man or a cleaner.

I'd also date a dentist. That 3am agonising toothache could be easily resolved if your partner had access to a bit of anaesthetic, pliers (sorry if that isn't the right terminology) and an ability to end horrendous pain. If dp and I ever part ways, I'm doing my best to find a lovely dentist dp Grin