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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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MissNothing1991 · 30/12/2021 13:37

No jobs would put me off. I'm not that shallow.

CorrBlimeyGG · 30/12/2021 13:38

Police officer, army, anything that comes with a high level of aggression.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 30/12/2021 13:38

Agree with you. Politician of any kind to be honest, or bailiff. I also wouldn't like to date a prison officer or similar because I'd be worried about our safety.

katienana · 30/12/2021 13:39

Abattoir worker

Bettalife · 30/12/2021 13:39

Traffic warden would be a big fat no from me.

NiceTwin · 30/12/2021 13:39

None. A person's job does not define them.

MaryPoppinPills · 30/12/2021 13:39

Police officer.

Comedycook · 30/12/2021 13:40

Funeral director wouldn't bother me at all.

I'd never date a bailiff or traffic warden though

welliesarefuntowear · 30/12/2021 13:41

A funeral director is a job that requires compassion and empathy. You have to be able to talk easily to anyone. A funeral director would be a big fat yes from me. Send him over to me 😁

elelel · 30/12/2021 13:41

@NiceTwin

None. A person's job does not define them.

No, it doesn't, but certain jobs carry various risks to the employee and sometimes the wider family.

The6thSanta · 30/12/2021 13:43

Being married to someone in a job with lots of traumatic incidences, I’d say I would avoid similar if I had to. i.e. police, fireman, paramedic, mental health nurse, a&e nurse, doctor, armed forces etc.
might make me shallow, but PTSD is bloody hard to live with (from all angles).

CanIPullYouForAChat · 30/12/2021 13:43

Chugger.

Theunamedcat · 30/12/2021 13:43

Probably a police officer they have a terrible reputation as partners

abattoir worker I can't stand the smell of blood (although I can't smell anything right now due to covid)

Salesman dated one once never again!

AltitudeCheck · 30/12/2021 13:43

Porn star
Abattoir worker
Dolphin trainer
Double glazing salesperson

Summertime16 · 30/12/2021 13:44

I’ll never forget my careers adviser telling me to go into the funeral industry as they’ll never be out of business. I wish I listened to her!

SilverRingahBells · 30/12/2021 13:44

What's wrong with traffic wardens?

I couldn't date a homeopathist, astrologer, professional medium, or the woo-variety of chiropractor.

NashvilleQueen · 30/12/2021 13:44

I think funeral directors would be caring and sensitive but also possess a good sense of humour.

I wouldn't like anyone who had a job exploiting those on low incomes/debts (for example those payday loan type companies with 4000% apr)

Minorissue · 30/12/2021 13:44

Seafarer, military, anything that means oh is gone for months at a time and an unequal home life. Dangerous occupations like divers etc as well as I’m anxious enough without additional worry.

CanIPullYouForAChat · 30/12/2021 13:45

I wouldn’t date anyone in the forces. Nothing against them as people, but if we ended up married with children, my choices would be either a) basically be a single parent for months on end when they’re deployed or b) follow them around as a forces wife and sacrifice any career ambitions of my own. Neither prospect is appealing to me, personally.

Comedycook · 30/12/2021 13:45

@NiceTwin

None. A person's job does not define them.
Actually I disagree with this to a certain extent. A job can often tell you a lot about a person.
Woodlandwater · 30/12/2021 13:46

At least they have already work!

I'd say a vicar, pcso or police officer would make me very wary.

Winecurestiredness · 30/12/2021 13:47

Only a job that meant he travels a lot for business. Only reason being is that I can't cope with long distance relationships, and my dad wasn't around as much as I hoped when I was little due to him travelling for business, it felt like a rejection for me as a child. No nice holidays abroad or nice houses could make up for not seeing my dad.

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Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:47

Personally I couldn't date someone who worked for boarder force as I used to work in a related area and the sheer zeal they had in giving some very vulnerable people a hard time was depressing.

Also very scared of snakes, so couldn't see myself dating someone who ran a snake shop either.

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Honeygoldcaramel · 30/12/2021 13:47

@katienana

Abattoir worker
Same.

Teacher would put me off a bit as well.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 30/12/2021 13:48

Oh yes, chugger. But mainly anything that makes them smell bad (eg honey roast ham factory, according to a friend who used to work in one).