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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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5thnonblonde · 30/12/2021 14:51

@chelle0

Defence lawyer. How they can defend some of the most awful crimes and then get on with their lives is beyond me.
My friend is a defence lawyer. It’s an important part of the legal process and if a probable rapist didn’t have a defence they couldn’t be convicted. It’s definitely a difficult situation and she sees a therapist after some cases but it’s a necessary evil unlike some of the other jobs listed here (your choice though obv!)
Simonjt · 30/12/2021 14:52

Anything that involved harm to animals, so farmer (unless arable), butcher, animal testing etc.

Anything that takes them away from home, an exs job involved long stints abroad, when I could go with him it was fine, when it meant months apart I really struggled, it would also mean no children as I wouldn’t be willing to have a child seperated from one of their parents for months on end.

People thats job is entirely taking advantage of people, so homeopaths etc selling their ‘cures’, those in arms industry and that sort of thing.

Northernshepherd · 30/12/2021 14:55

Surgeons as they cut people up. I understand it's for a good reason, but still.

SarahJessicaParker1 · 30/12/2021 14:56

I agree with abattoir worker tbh. Not saying I would never, but I can't imagine it.

Surgeons, bankers etc I would be wary of.

I'd also probably avoid dating current sex workers and would also be wary of former sex workers.

No judgement on any of the above professions though. Just can't imagine dating people in these professions

Waxonwaxoff0 · 30/12/2021 14:57

I've heard people say that surgeons are breathtakingly arrogant. I've never met one though.

SarahJessicaParker1 · 30/12/2021 14:57

My dad is a surgeon! He's lovely, but I'd never date anyone like him. Never.

Animood · 30/12/2021 14:58

I think they'd fall into two categories:

1 - jobs that don't align with my core values. For example, if he worked for a political organisation that I was against or worked for a pro-life charity
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2 - something that wouldn't fit in with my life at all. For example, needed to move around a lot, needed to go away for a long time. For example working on a rig wouldn't work for me.

Animood · 30/12/2021 14:58

@Waxonwaxoff0

I've heard people say that surgeons are breathtakingly arrogant. I've never met one though.
They have to be arrogant in a way. People who weren't absolutely sure of their own ability wouldn't chop up another person!!!
Lacedwithgrace · 30/12/2021 15:00

Any military or police role, anything to do with sports, bailiff

WWDD · 30/12/2021 15:00

Forces
Police
Bailiff
Anything to do with weapons/military
Big corporate jobs
There are a lot of jobs that would stop me dating someone.
I also wouldn't want to date someone who regularly worked nights because in my experience, it gives a really poor work/life balance.

A funeral director wouldn't be one of them.

If looking to date someone I'd choose someone ideally in a caring or creative role. Probably not a medic though.

PieMistee · 30/12/2021 15:00

People that work shift work especially nights. (DH did for 15 years it's shit for family life).
Anyone who worked in the police or army. Someone involved in the sex industry. Randomly a yoga instructor. Though I love yoga.

Animood · 30/12/2021 15:01

@chelle0

Defence lawyer. How they can defend some of the most awful crimes and then get on with their lives is beyond me.
Having access to a defence lawyer no matter what you have done is part of our human rights. When people do not have a defence lawyer, this is a human right abuse, only happening in regimes like North Korea.

Also remember that some people who go to court are innocent and shouldn't be punished. What would they do without a lawyer?

Defence lawyer is one of those jobs where people look down on your until them or their friend or family member needs one!

Sn0tnose · 30/12/2021 15:01

Personally I couldn't date someone who worked for boarder force as I used to work in a related area and the sheer zeal they had in giving some very vulnerable people a hard time was depressing

Absolute bollocks. And it’s Border Force, not Boarder Force.

WWDD · 30/12/2021 15:02

Actually yeah, most politicians and some civil service like the Home Office.

WWDD · 30/12/2021 15:02

@NiceTwin

None. A person's job does not define them.
Sometimes it does.
SilverRingahBells · 30/12/2021 15:03

There's a difference between jobs which would put me off as a long-term prospect, like hospital doctor, naval officer or fireman and jobs which would put me off even for a date or a casual fling, like abattoir worker (if I were a vegan) or crystal healer.

ImprobablePuffin · 30/12/2021 15:04

@Raonbowwatermelon

I think I'd also struggle dating a crown court judge as well; sending people to prison for thirty years then coming home for dinner...
But surely that's a good thing if they're putting murderers and rapists etc away?
Queenofthenight333333 · 30/12/2021 15:05

Definitely Police, I could never date a Police officer.. Given all the current stories in the media.
I also couldn't date an abbatoir worker either, and lastly an actor.
Nothing wrong with a funeral director, perfectly respectable job and everyone needs a funeral at some point.

2022beesknees · 30/12/2021 15:05

Gynaecologist

LaLaFlottes · 30/12/2021 15:07

Anyone where their job involves any kind of cruelty to animals, including farming.

Anyone who sells something that takes advantage of people and their situation - miracle cure type stuff.

I'd be wary of a job where I would be really worried about them - but this probably wouldn't put me off initially - more something once you start to get more serious.

Funeral Director would be fine with me - I'd assume that meant they were kind, caring, showed empathy and wanted to help people.

Omicrone · 30/12/2021 15:07

I think I would quite like to go out with a funeral director. All the ones I have ever come across have been really lovely, plus they wear proper suits all the time Smile

ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:07

Any job which involves hurting people or animals.

I once dated a farmer and he was, and still is, a lovely guy, but he said he feels no remorse when it comes to putting a bullet through the head of a lamb born with severe abnormalities......!!! He would do anything for anyone, but I just couldn't see past that comment. He says it's the quickest way to deal with the situation as lambing season can be so busy to wait around for a vet to administer an injection and you just don't know if the lamb is in pain etc. he might be right, but I just couldn't....

WWDD · 30/12/2021 15:09

The funeral business is pretty shit money though, I don't know that people realise this.

Unless you become management or have your own business, the wages aren't good.

tillytoodles1 · 30/12/2021 15:09

I knew someone who worked for a portaloo company, his job eas to steam clean then after use and he always gave off a faint whiff even though he showered and wore clean clothes.

Maddymorphosis · 30/12/2021 15:09

As if it wasn't hard enough to date already without knowing your career is likely to put off a lot of people