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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 15:11

Also, whilst I'm sure they are lovely people, I'm not sure I could date a counsellor, as I'd fear they were always over analysing everything I said.

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ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:11

My DHs cousin works in a fish factory! Even when he comes over after a hot shower, I can still smell the fish off him, and the cat takes a liking to him too 🤣🤣

RoyalFamilyFan · 30/12/2021 15:12

@ReginaaPhalange my relatives are farmers. They look after lambs born with abnormalities if they think they can survive, and have an orchard for the retired ewes to live in. But they are not typical farmers and wont be farming any longer. That style of farming is disappearing and it is now big farms whose only focus is money.

ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:12

@Raonbowwatermelon a friend of mine is a counsellor and you've hit the nail on the head. I have to tell her "XX, you're doing the head tilt again, shall I tell you how that makes me feel?" Lol! She doesn't realise she's doing it but it can be so annoying and yes, she over analyses EVERY situation

BleuJay · 30/12/2021 15:12

Any low paid job, clown, butcher, abattoir worker, traffic warden, any kind of woke job, Jeremy Corbyn Impersonator/looky likey.

ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:13

@RoyalFamilyFan tell your relatives I love them for what they do! Poor wee lambs!!!

BlondeDogLady · 30/12/2021 15:13

Police officer, army, anything that comes with a high level of aggression

I am married to a Police Officer, and my boyfriend before him was in the army. Both men are tall and strong. Neither is/were aggressive!

The only partner who has assaulted me (my first H) is a high flying Banker. A short, slightly built man with short man syndrome.

Anyway, I think the most off putting profession for me would be a Gynaecologist. Imagine your DH looking at other women's vagina's all day. Nope!

Also, funeral director would put me off massively.

RoyalFamilyFan · 30/12/2021 15:13

Oh god my friend who is a counsellor doesn't do that. But in fairness, she says she hates most counsellors socially. A counsellor like her as a friend is awesome. She is totally unshockable.

housemaus · 30/12/2021 15:14

Because I would presumably disagree with them on too much/don't like what they do: Tory MP/councillor, weapons manufacture (BAE etc), border force type work, bailiff, tax advisor for rich people, anything to do with hunting, vicar or other religious figure.

Because I know/have met some/know people who've dated or married one and it was a shitshow:
Police
Surgeon/medical consultant generally
Pilot
Anything high up in financial services (cesspool)
Rig workers/people who work away a lot (no partner half the time? No thanks)
Anyone working night shifts as a key part of their career (e.g. doctors, carers, etc)

RedCandyApple · 30/12/2021 15:14

@Maddymorphosis

As if it wasn't hard enough to date already without knowing your career is likely to put off a lot of people
These comments make me laugh everyone judges. Would you date an unemployed person?
BlondeDogLady · 30/12/2021 15:14

And I could not date a stripper or anyone working in the sex industry, full stop.

Allsorts1 · 30/12/2021 15:14

I would never date a lawyer. Every friend who is a lawyer works crazy hours and is neurotic, argumentative and defensive.

housemaus · 30/12/2021 15:14

@BleuJay

Any low paid job, clown, butcher, abattoir worker, traffic warden, any kind of woke job, Jeremy Corbyn Impersonator/looky likey.
What on earth would you class as a woke job?
RoyalFamilyFan · 30/12/2021 15:15

@ReginaaPhalange thanks. They are so soft. I have helped bottle feed lambs that other farmers would have just killed.

Tricked2003 · 30/12/2021 15:15

Ex DH was a police officer............he was married to the job more than to me. Days off cancelled last minute to attend court, late home, so many ruined plans..............dealing with his moods after seeing so many deaths, assaults, rape, suicide............it takes a toll.
I couldn't do that again!!!

I wouldn't be put off by a funeral director.........the ones I know are very compassionate people with a wicked sense of hunour.

Keke94LND · 30/12/2021 15:15

Investment bankers, as I usually assume they're wankers

Maddymorphosis · 30/12/2021 15:15

I have dated an unemployed person

ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:15

I'm honestly surprised at the amount of posters who wouldn't date a funeral director.
Yes ok it's not an every day job like your IT workers etc, but it wouldn't put me off!

I once struck up a conversation in an old job with a grave digger and I found it really oddly interesting!

RoyalFamilyFan · 30/12/2021 15:16

@Allsorts1

I would never date a lawyer. Every friend who is a lawyer works crazy hours and is neurotic, argumentative and defensive.
I have twice worked for law firms. Never again. In both the lawyers spoke like shit to anyone they saw as beneath them. Where I work now the top staff earn far more than the lawyers did and are experts in their field, and they talk so respectfully to everyone.
XenoBitch · 30/12/2021 15:18

I would not be put off by a funeral director at all.
I am unemployed (unable to work), and I don't even bother trying to meet people now. Who would want me?

Keke94LND · 30/12/2021 15:19

Oh also, when I was younger I met a handsome but not really my type recruitment consultant.. he went from being handsome but not my type to just being.. an okay guy 😬 sorry recruitment consultants!

ReginaaPhalange · 30/12/2021 15:22

@housemaus agree with the pilot! I've dated 2 pilots, one who flew for a small domestic airline and one who flew internationally and it was so hard to make any plans as they were on standby most of the time, or they were delayed etc

I was on a date with one (international pilot) at Thorpe park many years ago, we travelled down from Scotland and whilst there, he got a call asking if he could cover emergency sickness. He said he couldn't as he was down in Thorpe park. 30 mins later, he got another call asking if he could get to Heathrow and do a long-haul flight! After much begging from his boss, he bloody had me drop him off then I went back to the hotel, stayed overnight alone then drove back up to Scotland on my own the next morning!! I wasn't best pleased! Such a long boring drive!

And no. It didn't last haha! I think I saw him twice more after that, but then his air hostess ex showing up claiming to be pregnant from his layover in Asia was enough for me to say bye bye!

TaylorsSwimShorts · 30/12/2021 15:24

Police officer
Traffic warden
Social worker
Teacher
Butcher

backtolifebacktoreality · 30/12/2021 15:25

Hunt master
Tory MP

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 30/12/2021 15:25

Taxidermist.