Social media posts that make you cringe

[BigYellowHat]

Saw one the other day-

‘Guys, where can I donate food to? I really want to help’ To me it just smacks of virtue signalling and wanting praise. My view is that if they’ve got FB then presumably they could Google this and have they never seen the food bank bins at the door of every supermarket?

Phew rant over!

@Beafaith

How about the ones that say they're having a friends clearout and then a couple hours later...they announce that if we can see this post then we are one of the lucky ones

I always unfriend people who say that

@Beafaith

Please be honest mumsnetters.

We aren't giving Christmas cards this year, someone very special to me passed away very young this year and will donate to the Hospice(I promise I actually will!) Ie it really cringy to write a post about this? Majority of the people I know are on there.....?

its fine , you are not bragging I'm sorry for your loss

Me too - no way I’m lowering myself to be grateful to have survived the cull. It’s always someone I barely know anyway

@Beafaith in my opinion the problem with donating the money you would have spent on Christmas cards and stamps to a charity is that typically you send Christmas cards FOR other people to say ‘I am thinking of you at Christmas’. It feels very weird and selfish to ‘donate’ the thing you do for others - you aren’t personally forgoing anything. I’d be far more impressed if you donated your Christmas wine budget, or another Christmas treat you enjoyed yourself rather than the things you do for others.

But whatever. You do you hun, as they say on fb.

Me and darling DC making beautiful memories at x event, theme park etc … I know your kid is the pain in the arse, I’ve been out with you and your DC and never again! Others have been out with you and DC and never again. Stop painting the perfect family portrait when everyone knows you couldn’t be arsed with boundaries/discipline so your kid is a nightmare

@LuneyTunes

The latest one is pictures of their house with external Christmas lights on the local community group - why advertise to burglars who can follow your profile?!?

People do that on This Morning page on fbk, can’t wait to get on a plane to x on x date… a quick check and you’ll easily find out where they live… burglars paradise

@firstimemamma
Me too! I realised fb was making me feel depressed reasing everyones attention seeking fake status

The only problem I foresee with announcing on Facebook that you’re not sending Christmas cards this year but instead donating to a good cause, is that the very people who expect Christmas cards and who communicate that way are often (but not exclusively) the elderly who aren’t on Facebook. I can think of a few people who I know, elderly family friends, old neighbours, people who don’t use FB for whom the Christmas card represents a sharing of news and important contact, especially during the isolation of recent times. I think I’d still be sending some cards even if donating what I would have spent.

Sorry for your loss @Beafaith . Losing someone is always hard but the Covid situation has added an extra layer of difficulty to loss and grief as I know myself. I am sure the hospice will appreciate your donation.

I got rid of Facebook about 8 years ago, I still have insta, so not totally free from social media but FB was terrible for the attention seeking or passive aggressive posts.

'Blessed' type posts, frequently updates. Basically using SM as a journal.

Constant stream of echo chamber type posts about interests and hobbies, or political leaning. Bore off.

Regular quotes that to show how philosophical the person is.

Almost all profile photo frames - virtue signaling.

Posts from people who are, clearly, not very good at thinking. There's an alarmingly high number of them

Posts saying share a pink star in support of autism, makes no sense.

Phishing ones, I filled this one in hoping they would get the hint.

I quite like the ones where people write in some strange pidgin English and you have to read it out loud to figure out what they meant to write.
And then along comes one of their friends who seem to understand them perfectly and answer with just as many bizarre spellers.

The worst one I saw was on a holiday Facebook group.

"We were at x restaurant and we saw this poor woman eating on her own. So we sat with her and she told us her husband died 2 years ago and she was having a holiday alone. Aren't we so great for doing this great deed"

The photo was of gurning couple with a baffled looking woman.

Cue loads of "Awww she was so lucky to find you" " You are SO wonderful"

Until this fabulous woman came on and said "What the fuck? Who are you to feel sorry for a woman who is enjoying a peaceful dinner and then post about how great you are. Perhaps she didn't want your company. Stop virtue signalling"

I replied to the woman saying thank god for someone with common sense. I explained that I go away alone sometimes and would hate for people to impose themselves on me then post on social media saying they had done me a favour.

They went a bit quiet after that

Someone I know posted photos of a very old friend of his dying in a nursing home. So a picture of their hands holding and her body from the neck down (dressed), after ‘he’d helped the nurses wash her body’. It was awful I couldn’t quite believe he thought it was appropriate. God knows what her family thought. Worse he got likes and ‘XXXX you’re so kind hearted’

Ones of women with lovely figures in their bikinis or underwear hashtagged #bodypositivity that have a long explanation about how they were super nervous about posting this as after having a baby their body just isn’t the same but they felt it was important to post a picture of a normal mum body so we can see what it looks like! When you look closely you can see a tiny centimetre of cellulite and a less than taut belly but generally they look great and are only posting for the barrage of ‘you look AMAZING’ comments!

We used to have an Asbo family nearby made everyone's life hell with their vile kids causing trouble and the son is a right wannabe gangster and has been pictured on Facebook as part of a gang causing trouble, doesn't stop the mum writing glowing social media posts about how amazing her kids are though !! Totally tone deaf clearly.

@Mincepiepoptarts

Ones of women with lovely figures in their bikinis or underwear hashtagged #bodypositivity that have a long explanation about how they were super nervous about posting this as after having a baby their body just isn’t the same but they felt it was important to post a picture of a normal mum body so we can see what it looks like! When you look closely you can see a tiny centimetre of cellulite and a less than taut belly but generally they look great and are only posting for the barrage of ‘you look AMAZING’ comments!

I'd congratulate them on being so brave to post a photo like that

[quote Glugglejug]@Beafaith in my opinion the problem with donating the money you would have spent on Christmas cards and stamps to a charity is that typically you send Christmas cards FOR other people to say ‘I am thinking of you at Christmas’. It feels very weird and selfish to ‘donate’ the thing you do for others - you aren’t personally forgoing anything. I’d be far more impressed if you donated your Christmas wine budget, or another Christmas treat you enjoyed yourself rather than the things you do for others.

But whatever. You do you hun, as they say on fb.[/quote]

@Mincepiepoptarts

Ones of women with lovely figures in their bikinis or underwear hashtagged #bodypositivity that have a long explanation about how they were super nervous about posting this as after having a baby their body just isn’t the same but they felt it was important to post a picture of a normal mum body so we can see what it looks like! When you look closely you can see a tiny centimetre of cellulite and a less than taut belly but generally they look great and are only posting for the barrage of ‘you look AMAZING’ comments!

Similar to this, a very slender, attractive young woman shows up in my news feed a lot talking about how this is how she looks after working hard to GAIN weight. She really wasn't much smaller before (you wouldn't have been able to see her if she was), she has a bit more muscle tone and listen she looks amazing, but many 25 year olds do 😂

@Delamero

Someone I know posted photos of a very old friend of his dying in a nursing home. So a picture of their hands holding and her body from the neck down (dressed), after ‘he’d helped the nurses wash her body’. It was awful I couldn’t quite believe he thought it was appropriate. God knows what her family thought. Worse he got likes and ‘XXXX you’re so kind hearted’

Ugh, yes, that is so inappropriate. One of my FB friends posted a photo of his mum in ITU. She was on a ventilator, with a million wires coming off of her to various drips/monitoring. Why he thought that was appropriate, I will never know. She recovered, and then handed his arse to him for posting photos of her in such a state.

The ones that post....
Having a fabulous night in with my fantastic hubby. Snuggled up with wine and a good film. Perfect.

Well it can't be that fabulous, nor the film that good if you're on your phone posting on SM about it.

I actually report some mental health posts. To me if things are that bad, they shouldn't be on Facebook and should be getting proper help.

@takemebacktothe80s

I actually report some mental health posts. To me if things are that bad, they shouldn't be on Facebook and should be getting proper help.

Yeah, an ex friend of mine was always posting pics of whiskey with a ton of pills.. then he would put his address in the comments. I told him a million times to speak to his GP, the Samaritans, SHOUT etc. He wanted his friends to rescue him every time.

My brother writes things about his wife like:
"This woman. This beautiful, blessed, sensual and amazing being. Oh, how she delights my world with her smile. A mere look from her sets my soul on fire. She's the alpha and the omega to me. The butter on my daily toast and the cream in my morning coffee. She's as essential as the air I breathe and as magical as the stars in the sky. Mary. My love. My breath. My heart is yours. For all time." With a picture of his wife grinning like a maniac at the camera or a candid shot of her artfully arranging flowers or some shit she actually never does. And these posts are followed by at least 25 hashtags, most of which are irrelevant! They start off like hashtag wife, love, married, appreciation and stuff like that, but then it's things like beardedmenofinsta and things like that when my brother isn't even in the fucking picture!

AND. I know for a fact that they're constantly at each other's throats and deeply toxic!

That winds me the fuck up. So every time I see someone waxing lyrical about their partner I always wonder what sort of cracks they're papering over.

And I