Things I learned too late in life

[Spiceup]

No one anywhere has ever had their life improved by me wearing high heels. I now wear comfy shoes for every occasion and life is immeasurably better. I can move quicker, get more done in a day and never miss any fun because my feet hurt or I don't have suitable footwear. I don't know what on earth possessed me for so long.

What's yours?

Alpacahunter
Also, the hobosexuals. Men that fall in deeply in love with you to get their feet under the table, meals cooked, washing done and sex on tap. Winter is coming, hide your houses ladies!

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This

The only person you can really trust is yourself.

Life is too short for this shit.

Work to live, don't live to work

When you go to an interview.....your interviewing them as much as they are you....Will they make a good boss,do the hours suit me and will I be happy in this job? 😊

@lovebeingmum9

When you go to an interview.....your interviewing them as much as they are you....Will they make a good boss,do the hours suit me and will I be happy in this job? 😊

Sorry, but I hate it when people spout that bullshit. It might be true for some highly skilled people, but it's not true in general. I don't get to summon them to my home for the interview, give them a test, ask 90% of the questions and then give them a chance to ask one question at the end, do I?

Follow what the voice in the pit of your stomach tells you despite objectivity.

Enjoy your figure because as each ten years passes you will yearn for what you had 10 years ago.

Agree with whoever said: look after teeth, feet and ? But I raise you skin/spf - as an easy tanner with an olive skin I have had two basal cell carcomas removed this year. Factor up.

Very few people are really your friend

Invest don't save
Agree, or perhaps to put it better, don’t “only” save, also invest some of your savings. And yes, while financial products the bank/pension company sells you can be good, also research investing yourself - either in property or in stocks/ETFs etc. As the bank/pension provider is taking a big cut. But of course you usually want to max out your pension first, as that’s basically tax free investing (in many countries).

I totally agree - stocks and shares ISA. I used Monevator.com to find a platform with low fees - as another poster said, this will save you loads - and invested in index funds via Vanguard. Five years of investing monthly small amounts later, it's up by a ridiculous amount. As long as you have 10-15 years for it to compound it's worth doing, as long as you can steel yourself to leave it invested no matter what and not pull it out at a downturn!

@Mumwithbaggage

Teaching's a rubbish job

thank you! so have i dodged a bullet not finishing the TEFL course? @Mumwithbaggage

That once your children get to an adult age, you are not responsible for their actions, behaviour, finances, habits etc

This one is an ongoing struggle for me.. I think I'm getting there.. Slowly..

Trust no-one
Ditch the loser
Saying “No, I don’t want to” is a valid response
Cats make you happy
Nobody appreciates your good work unless you spell it out to them and exaggerate like a man.

That having very little money as a single parent meant I became immensely good at sewing and painting walls /furniture, cooking something edible out of bits and bobs . I resented it enormously at the time when mum friends had John Lewis lorries delivering to their homes.I am not in that life anymore but I still do all those things because they give me pleasure and mean I can have a lovely home for a small price.

Nobody cares as much about your decisions as you do. Even family. Except for extremely rare occasions, no matter how much someone else may be disappointed/offended at a decision you make, they’ll probably have forgotten about it or stopped caring about it in a month or two. You won’t have.

Oh I forgot. Never rely on anyone else for your financial independence.

@spotcheck

That it is far, far more useful to decide if someone is loyal, rather than looking for a smoking gun reason ( like actually fucking someone) to end things.

I’m the opposite, discovered contact lens that can stay in a month at a time. Game changer

@beachtosunset
TEFL is the best job in the world! Well worked for me anyway. Taking a TEFL course was possibly the best decision I ever made - the best grand I ever spent.

That teaching was not for me. I knew in my first term of training that I hated it. Couldn't tell my parents. My father was a teacher. My mother was and is a terrible snob and thought it was a suitably middle class job for a young woman.I stuck with it and then did it for 20 years. Had imposter syndrome for the whole time. Sick to my stomach on a Sunday evening. Stupid waste.

Being a good mum is great, but your children don't really see what you did or care.
Live your life for you.

@LowlandLucky

That we all die in the end. Life is not about your job. size of house, make of car and bank balance, not one single bit of that rubbish matters. Having enough to live on does, but burning yourself to buy bi folding doors and marble counter tops is madness. When you come close to losing your life, you realise it is people that matter and the little things in life that mean the most not pretentious shit.

This, 100%.

@MrsTidyHouse

It would have been fine to trust my gut instinct. Parents overrode so many of my opinions, likes and dislikes. Over and over I did what I believed was expected of me. Couldn't deal with the inner conflict that this created, so I stunned myself with food. Made awful decisions that trapped me. Too late now to do much about anything.

I feel you @MrsTidyHouse. Same here, you're not alone.

That you don't have to be the life and soul of the party every time.

That everything you say doesn't have to be clever/funny.

There is a place for introverts in this world.

If I had realised the above a bit sooner, I think I wouldn't have drunk my way through uni/my 20s, getting myself into some downright dodgy situations and leaving my self -esteem in the gutter.