Keep me company a while and chat idle crap? A hand hold please

[bloodywhitecat]

DH has cancer, we know he is for palliative care only but he has been doing well (until his most recent scan showed some growth on an existing tumour and some new ones in his liver). His care has been crap, he hasn't seen a doctor in a year, all his appointments have been by phone.

Last week he developed a pain in his calf, and it hasn't got any better. Yesterday I complained to a lovely nurse at our surgery. I said I felt completely alone and failed by the whole system. I also mentioned the pain in his calf and said I was worried about a DVT. Within 10 minutes I had a call to say the GP wanted to see him ASAP. They did a blood test at 4.30pm and today we had a call to say his D-dimer is raised so he is now on his way to hospital.

I feel so alone. I have no-one to turn to. Macmillan have been fucking useless. Friends have pulled away as we seemed to be doing OK and DH has survived his original 6 months prognosis. I don't want to worry my kids, DD is a teacher and can't just come here at the drop of a hat and I would rather poke my eyes out with a blunt poker than tell my mother. I am trying to keep a smile on my face because the babies are still awake but inside I am shit scared this is the start of the decline for DH.

Tell me your dull news, good or bad?

Sorry hear that OP.

I have no news except to say I lied about having to go to a school play tonight so I didn't have to go to a work do. And I got my hair done today. I'm about to mash some potatoes. All fun.

So sorry, OP. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you.

I've just come out of an hour long traffic jam, 3 year old DS was very grumpy (hungry and tired). He disagreed with just about everything I said. I eas apparently even breathing too loud!

We are now at my parents' house, pasta cooking and I've stuck the TV on for him to tide him over until food is ready.

I've just eaten my considerable body weight in salted nuts.

My next door neighbour's cat is an evil little shit that waits on top of the high gate and goes into full attack mode whenever you try to walk past. The other neighbour has a dog with severe anxiety and howls its head off all day long. Other than that, my neighbours are really nice.

So sorry to hear that OP. Thinking of you.

I just called my DP in an irrational panic as I realised that while I heard him get up this morning I didn't hear him say goodbye (and so I didn't say goodbye) and he left at the crack of dawn. Hadn't heard from him all day as he was down south for work and he hadn't looked at WhatsApp all day etc. He'd usually have messaged to say he was on his way back as he normally works from home.
I went to all kinds of silly irrational places when he didn't answer (as I assumed he'd be driving by now and he'd have hands free on)...was he dead somewhere, had he keeled over in his office etc...

He called back. He was having difficulty ending a conversation at work and my call was the perfect excuse.

Lots of love and strength to you.

I've just set up our inflatable hot tub for the first time since summer 2020. It's such a nuisance I can never be bothered. But the kids have this notion of sitting in it tomorrow night watching the fireworks, and we've had a really shit few weeks, so I figured I would do something nice.
It's so cold up here though it probably won't have heated up enough even by tomorrow night.

My dull news is that I skived off a bit this afternoon. I've had a soak in the bath and a chippy tea. I feel fat but no regrets.

And for you @bloodywhitecat

It must be very difficult for you. Are you allowed to go to the hospital with your DH.

We had our sons dog while they had work men in and I've had to give him a bath as he has
somehow rolled in dog dirt when I took him to the nearby field.

I tried to convince someone that nipple temperature was a thing 😅

Loving all of these.

I can't go with him because I have two babies (we foster) and no-one to look after them, he has just said the clinic they sent him to closes at 6 and not 6.30 like he had been told so he is waiting to find out what is happening. Honestly the lack of care he has had has been laughable.

So sorry OP. Sending love. It's also really crap not being able to go with him.

So I will tell you my dull news. I have completed all of my online health and safety training, which was 6 months overdue. It is mostly overdue as it's telling me how to clear leaves and wipe up water so people don't fall over.
My daft cat has just walked over the hot plate in the kitchen but my DSs have done an experiment to check she can walk, she can.
I like swimming in the sea and today I found some swimming leggings (pretty much just running leggings) which means I don't have to keep my legs shaved. Oh yes!

I've now also eaten a load of M and Ms

@Theunamedcat

I tried to convince someone that nipple temperature was a thing 😅

I would've paid good money to be a fly on that wall . We once convinced a fellow student at college that you filled the oil on a car via the dipstick hole.

@bloodywhitecat

Loving all of these.

I can't go with him because I have two babies (we foster) and no-one to look after them, he has just said the clinic they sent him to closes at 6 and not 6.30 like he had been told so he is waiting to find out what is happening. Honestly the lack of care he has had has been laughable.

I'm so sorry op Will remember him in my prayers xxxx

My news is that my three donkeys are just the sweetest little angels
Standing beside each other in the cold to warm up makes my tummy do summersaults

Innocent animals keep me going on bad days xxxxxzx

So sorry to read about your dh and sending you hugs and best wishes. I’ve just been out to walk the dog in the rain and stopped off at the coop to buy some ravioli and pasta sauce. DD is popping round later as she’s had some hassle with her utility bills so I’ll listen to her tales for a bit. I’m in my dressing gown already.

Keep this thread going, we can chat when you need to?

I'm so sorry the health care has been rubbish

My dull news is that I bought a multi-coloured ball of rubber bands (I'm sorting through paperwork, etc) and I really wish I'd known they existed before now because it's making me smile every time I notice it.

I found old vouchers when I was tidying and ordered a fancy bottle of gin which arrived today. I'm going to try it later.

@bloodywhitecat I'm so sorry about your DH.

I've had "one of those days" The water board have been outside all day, and at one point the tuneless whistling was so bad I was tempted to open the door and chuck a bucket of water over them.

I was in three meetings all of which could have been an email, and we ran out of milk.

Thankfully DH has just come back form Aldi with milk and florentines - the evening is looking a little better now!

Ah, @bloodywhitecat, I once (fairly recently, while distracted, and after a lengthy interval since last needing to top up oil) found myself pouring oil into dipstick hole and wondering why it was going everywhere. The shame.

At least it wasn't water

Im sorry for the shit care your DH is receiving.
Ive just gone to get a grab bag of chocolate from the fridge that i bought from Asda today......not in the fridge, or the car or any where in the house....think ive left them in Asda 😫

OP ((()))
Went to a Zumba class. Bought milk on the way home, cleared cat poo out of the raised bed while it was still (just) light enough to see what I was doing, then covered the raised bed with thorny cuttings to deter the blooming pest. Failed to plant the spring bulbs I ordered in a flurry of optimism.

I have typed and deleted many responses. I will just say this. You are Incredible. Your DH, your babies, your daughter, so lucky to have you. Your friends don't deserve you.

Get through this day, fight again tomorrow.

Let me get you a cup of tea.... Tell me about your annoying mother.

That's rubbish OP so sorry

We have a family spa day tomorrow and were laughing at the fact my cousin's dog will want to come so have been finding and posting pictures of dacschunds having beauty treatments

Currently freezing my bits off watching ds at footy training 🥶

DD and I went to our local tiny Ikea yesterday so I have been eating Mini Dimes all day today. They are so small the calories don't count right? (I am ignoring the fact that I've probably eaten nearly 20 of them.)

Hi OP. Sending love to you. I'm currently sat on mumsnet whilst pretending to watch my children swim. I'm tired and would rather be at home eating and watching Australian soaps.

So sorry you're having such a tough time.

We've spent the last 20 mins (as we do every Thursday night) looking for a full kit for my son's football training. Never underestimate how hard it is to find the shirt, shorts & socks that go together..... And just when you think you're onto a winner.... you need to find the shin pads. He has 3 pairs.... not one full set can be found!

Sending love ❤️xx