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Turns out, nothing bad happens if...

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HangingOver · 06/09/2021 09:42

When I arrived into my thirties, like a lot of women I know, I experienced a dip in the amount of energy I found I had to allocate to fucks being given Grin

Since then, I've noticed a number of Eureka moments when Ive realised, "turns out, nothing bad happens if..." and they are for the most part, joyful.

Here are a few of my favourites (personal to me, obviously, I'm sure people in other circs will disagree):

Turns out, nothing bad happens if you don't iron.

Turns out, nothing bad happens if you don't mow your lawn (literally or figuratively).

Turns out, nothing bad happens if you don't wear a padded bra (because I spent my twenties sadly trying to enhance my non-existent norks because "men would notice").

Turns out, nothing bad happens if you wash your hair with shower gel.

Turns out, nothing bad happens if you don't do a patch test 24 hours before colouring.

HBU?

OP posts:
CaptainMyCaptain · 06/09/2021 21:34

@whatwasIgoingtosay

NBH if you don't finish a novel because you're not enjoying it/can't get into it. It's so liberating to jettison books after the first couple of chapters, knowing I just don't have to make the effort to finish them. So glad I'm not in a book club!
I'm in a book club and none of us would have any qualms about doing that. Life is too short to waste on books you don't like.

NBH if you leave your book club and find a less judgemental one.

DowntrainTrain · 06/09/2021 21:39

@Bargebill19

👋 hello!! Was it the entire list that resonated with you, or just odd ones?

I have thought of a few more…

Nothing bad happens if:

Occasionally you stay up most of the night watching comedy dvds and eating popcorn, you can always catch up on your sleep, but you’re a long time dead.
NBH if you ignore the petty work politics… it all blows over anyway, and I completely ignore it.
NBH if you realise that no one really cares much about how you speak/look/walk/talk etc once you get past 40 - and that is bloody brilliant!! It is so liberating, so enjoy it, embrace it.

Bargebill19 · 06/09/2021 21:54

@DowntrainTrain
All of them!!! You are inside my head🤣

Bouledeneige · 06/09/2021 22:50

Absolutely agree with a lot of these - I'm late 50s. I've discovered the same about washing sheets - just do them when you feel they need it. Most clothes don't need ironing or going to the dry cleaners. Cleaning/housework can be done as and when. I can't ever imagine hoovering every day! I have a career....

As I'm post menopause I have hardly any armpit hair so I rarely shave them or my legs. Nothing bad happens. I can skip a bra now and again too. And as I barely sweat now if I forget to put on deodorant (though I prefer to put it on) - I don't really get smelly.

Nothing bad happens if you bath/shower or wash your hair every other day.

Vitallyli · 06/09/2021 23:16

By the way you can cancel your free subscription as soon as you subscribe it'll still allow you to use it for the indicated free period.

Vitallyli · 06/09/2021 23:27

Nothing bad happens if you shower only once a day or maybe even skip one day.
... if you don't buy chocolate.

wheresmymojo · 07/09/2021 00:05

@Dacquoise

Wait until you get to your fifties, you're in for a real treat. You can be your authentic self. If something bothers you, you can point it out or decline. You don't have to go to boring things because it will upset someone. You can dress how you want and not give a fig what others think. You can decide not to eat stuff that you always thought you should. You can choose not to see people who annoy you. You can do hobbies and stuff for you, not all the people you've been looking after all those years. Yippee!

I mean...I can tell you all that I've been doing this since I was about 15 and nothing bad has happened

Maskless · 07/09/2021 00:46

Nothing bad happens if you never eat breakfast.

Nothing bad happens if you never watch TV.

JovialNickname · 07/09/2021 02:42

You let your arms and legs hang outside the duvet.... a witch won't come and bite them off.

Just me then Grin

Susannahmoody · 07/09/2021 02:59

Nothing bad happens if you don't document stuff on fbiik. In fact it's better, because you keep your privacy
Nothing bad happens if you say, Meh, I don't want to
NBH if you let then kids entertain themselves and perhaps even SHOCK get bored

Susannahmoody · 07/09/2021 03:00

fbiik= fbook

Makinganewthinghappen · 07/09/2021 03:52

The major one i have learned now im 38 is that nothing happens if you just have a nap - things dont collapse if you rest while tired.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/09/2021 04:12

Nothing bad happens if you put your running gear on, then change your mind and go back to bed, in said running gear.

However....DD (an ODP) has once had to help intubate a woman who couldnt breathe after a very bad reaction to hair dye so....that one I do take issue with. I still patch test despite using the same dye for 2 years.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/09/2021 04:14

@Maskless

Nothing bad happens if you never eat breakfast.

Nothing bad happens if you never watch TV.

had to take a second to check I hadnt posted and then had a bout of amnesia! Totally agree!
Seasidemumma77 · 07/09/2021 04:54

Nothing bad happens if you have family coming round and decide to buy cakes rather than make them occasionally.

Nothing bad happens if you wear your favourite bra and favourite knickers when then don't match (my dp was shocked on the one occasion he saw me in matching underwear)

In my forties, I discovered nothing bad happens if you wander around the bedroom, in front of your dp, naked with wobbly bits, stretch marks etc, in fact finds the confidence sexy and generally it ends very happily.

Seasidemumma77 · 07/09/2021 05:03

@HangingOver

I can also confirm that NBH if you buy yourself a birthday cake when it's not your birthday.
Think this maybe next on my list of new things to do
Seasidemumma77 · 07/09/2021 05:10

NBH if you stay up all night reading mn posts, I'll get through the day. I probably won't be overly productive and bright and cheerful, but I read all the comments on this post and feel much happier and more relaxed. Thank you everyone 🙂

TreeSmuggler · 07/09/2021 06:00

A bit off topic but how do patch tests work with hairdressers? Are you meant to go in the day before and get one?

cantbeforeal · 07/09/2021 06:10

Yes to most of these. It's so freeing when you realise nobody is actually taking that much notice of you, how you look, what you're doing etc because they're all too busy thinking about themselves 👍🏻

sashh · 07/09/2021 06:36

NBH if you have champagne for breakfast on your birthday.

Obviously not every breakfast, that would be expensive.

NBH if you greet the milkman at 4.00am because you have been up all night, except that time with those PJs, but then NBH if you accidently flash your 40+ year old boobs at the milkman.

irresistibleoverwhelm · 07/09/2021 07:37

@TreeSmuggler

A bit off topic but how do patch tests work with hairdressers? Are you meant to go in the day before and get one?
Yes, normally around 48-72hrs beforehand.
CaptainMyCaptain · 07/09/2021 07:54

@TreeSmuggler

A bit off topic but how do patch tests work with hairdressers? Are you meant to go in the day before and get one?
Also, if you do it at home is it OK to leave the containers open?
BeenAroundTheWorldAndIII · 07/09/2021 07:58

'Nothing bad happened when I ate a raw chicken dipper (I thought it was a cold cooked one)'
@Iamstuckhere 😮😮😮 I am soooo glad I am not the only person who has done this 🤦‍♀️ felt sick to the stomach at the thought of it for the rest of the day (the thought made my teeth itch!) but lived to see another day 🤣

SaskiaRembrandt · 07/09/2021 08:05

@JovialNickname

You let your arms and legs hang outside the duvet.... a witch won't come and bite them off.

Just me then Grin

Loving the rest of the thread, but this is not true! Your feet will definitely be bitten off!
Lanique · 07/09/2021 08:14

Great thread.

Nothing bad happens if...

You don't clean the house for a week
You don't iron 👍
You choose NOT to go out on the lash even though others are (sheer JOMO and I can't wait to experience it this Friday 😊)
You don't wear matching underwear EVER

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