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Why, just why do people this

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LegendaryReady · 04/09/2021 15:42

Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

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SalsaLove · 04/09/2021 15:45

I assume it’s to share their happiness with their friends and family. Why is your first thought so negative? Do you rub people’s noses in things?

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LegendaryReady · 04/09/2021 15:47

It's not though is it because the thread then goes on with gushy thanks and back and forth compliments.

Which friends want to see that? I love to see my friends happy through the way they live their life. I don't think this helps me in any way though. Should it?

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TooBigForMyBoots · 04/09/2021 15:49

I don't think Facebook is the SM platform for you OP.

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LegendaryReady · 04/09/2021 15:50

For example, the one that's triggered me today is a man who's won an award at work. He posted about it, lovely I'm pleased for him and have said so. But there's also a long post from his wife about how blessed she is to have such a perfect in every way husband. Speaking directly to him and presumably typed whilst they were together in the same house.

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3Br1tnee · 04/09/2021 15:51

Why does other peoples facebook have to help you, in any way whatsoever?

girlmom21 · 04/09/2021 15:53

I think it's nice that people sometimes appreciate their partners publicly and share in their happiness with people they love.

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LegendaryReady · 04/09/2021 15:53

@3Br1tnee

Why does other peoples facebook have to help you, in any way whatsoever?
It doesn't but Salsalove suggested they were doing it to share their happiness with me Grin
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TooBigForMyBoots · 04/09/2021 15:55

Try Twitter. Not so many loved up posts there.Grin

loopylindi · 04/09/2021 15:55

No, you're right. The constant need to validate any emotion using social media is puke making. If someone has something outstanding (proposal, baby news etc) then fine. But really! Sending a photo of a restaurant meal - who cares a flying f.... Can I eat it? No! Can I smell it? No. Can you make it? Not a chance! Then piss off and eat it. And as for the conversations that conclude with ....well I'll see you in a minute....Can't these bird brains keep a thought in their head for more than the time it takes to dial and talk?

lannistunut · 04/09/2021 15:56

I know I am an old, miserable cynic but I am also pretty Hmm at these gushing posts.

I am happy for people when they post nice news but I can't help but cringe at the thought of posting publicly about being blessed etc. I am very loving in private but not in writing on public SM!

I am not on FB for this reason, I just don't fit in there Grin.

lannistunut · 04/09/2021 15:56

@TooBigForMyBoots

Try Twitter. Not so many loved up posts there.Grin
haha yes, I am much more at ease on Twitter Grin
BlackShadowCat · 04/09/2021 15:59

@LegendaryReady

For example, the one that's triggered me today is a man who's won an award at work. He posted about it, lovely I'm pleased for him and have said so. But there's also a long post from his wife about how blessed she is to have such a perfect in every way husband. Speaking directly to him and presumably typed whilst they were together in the same house.
Ah, I think that sounds nice. I wouldn't post that sort of stuff myself, but if someone I knew posted it, I'd just click the ❤️ and move on.
Thislittlefinger123 · 04/09/2021 15:59

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin

Pixilicious · 04/09/2021 16:01

I’m with you OP. My DSis and another friend do this ‘thank you wonderful husband’ and wonderful DH isn’t even in social media. And I know for a fact my DSis’s husband is not that wonderful!

sqirrelfriends · 04/09/2021 16:02

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
I literally came here to say this.
TooWicked · 04/09/2021 16:03

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
I was just about to say the exact same thing. I’m friends with a few people I know for a fact their relationships are utter dogshit, yet on Facebook you’d think the exact opposite.
Tana433 · 04/09/2021 16:03

My Dsis and her husband do this. Its very irritating but i tend to ignore it as it doesnt directly impact me.

MargaretThursday · 04/09/2021 16:22

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
Agreed.
lannistunut · 04/09/2021 16:24

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
I try very very hard not to assume this, but confess I think this is often the case.

One school acquaintance example did super gushy with husband, then with lover, then again with husband Confused

Ughmaybenot · 04/09/2021 16:29

I’m not going to sit here and say I’ve never rolled my eyes at that type of post but actually it’s quite nice sometimes. Better than checking in at the local MIU or raging about dog shit in the park anyway 😂
Plus I’d be a raving hypocrite if I slagged it off too much, I will post a photo or two here or there and I can be inclined to be a bit soppy for the caption at times. I bloody love my husband, he’s fantastic 🤷🏼‍♀️

Miseryl · 04/09/2021 16:30

I know what you mean but I can't get angry nor dictate how other people should use social media as long as what they are posting isn't offensive/defamatory/inciting hate etc. I've posted some proper bollocks over the years- some people may find your posts insufferable. Mute/unfollow/defriend and just move on.

CeceJoyce · 04/09/2021 17:23

I haven’t posted anything on Facebook in years. It’s mostly lies, people looking for validation. It doesn’t annoy me I just realised it’s not what I’m
about. Any happy times and achievements in my house I tell people face to face or over the phone, I don’t really need an old school friend from 20 years ago saying ‘happy anniversary’ but we’re all different.
A good friend of mine posts absolutely everything, she recently had a holiday, on Facebook she gushed about how amazing it was but when we met up she said she hadn’t had a good time at all, the pictures looked dreamy but the holiday was filled with arguments with her teens and irritation with her dh, poor food and nothing for entertainment.. she just didn’t want anyone else to know!
Another friend has a huge house (think mansion) and she often shows off about it. Takes her kids out all the time, a mutual friend of ours said she loves to see the pictures but she feels she’s not as good a mum as she doesn’t get out as much as our friend. I felt really sad for her.

SirChenjins · 04/09/2021 17:27

I don’t get them either - my DH and the DC know I love them because I tell them often. Occasionally I’ll post some proud mum news because it’s the quickest way of telling friends and family across the globe, and I like hearing their news in return - but gushing about how much you love your husband is a given and not news, so I’m not interested. Some people are all about the SM though - which is why the mute option thing is FB is a godsend.

Crinkle77 · 04/09/2021 17:30

Someone I knew was always putting these lovey dovey kind of posts on FB with pics of date night and stuff. They split up a few months ago. I think sometimes people feel the need to prove how in love they are and how great their relationship is to basically try and cover up the cracks.

LargeBouquet · 04/09/2021 17:31

I have a FB I use only to keep up with arts organisations. If I won a Nobel Prize, I'd be unlikely to mention it online.