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Why, just why do people this

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LegendaryReady · 04/09/2021 15:42

Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

OP posts:
Cam001 · 04/09/2021 20:20

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
This is so true. I know 3 perfect examples. It's one of the reasons I don't do social media, it's full of bullshit.
5lilducks · 04/09/2021 20:22

and don't get me started on those who have a conversation with their partners on fb, about how busy the trains were going up London and how they've spent about £700 -£800 on Legos.

DarlingFell · 04/09/2021 20:22

@Explosivefarts

I don’t get it either sitting in the same room turn to them wish them a happy birthday . It’s for likes and attention .
That’s the point of SM though, it’s ‘social’, people post for attention!
Lovemusic33 · 04/09/2021 20:30

I have a few people like this on my Fb, I’m a grumpy single person so find it all a bit cringe 😬

cakewench · 04/09/2021 20:31

The more performative the relationship is on FB, the more drama there always seems to be behind the scenes. In my experience, of course.

I really don't mind it (I don't have loads of people who do it on my friend list though) but I'm not inclined to do it.

ThePlumVan · 04/09/2021 20:32

TooBigForMyBoots
Try Twitter. Not so many loved up posts there

I would say DONT try Twitter- it’s full of what they’re going to do to each other that night Envy

Not envy. Well a bit maybe.

Booknooks · 04/09/2021 20:33

Anecdotally also found that a lot of friends who would be moaning about their partners, on the phone in tears questioning their relationship or messaging about the latest drama would be the ones moment's after posting about how amazing their relationship is. Doesn't bother really as don't use social media much now and easy enough to scroll past, but you do wonder who they're trying to prove their happiness to and why.

MrsKoala · 04/09/2021 20:37

My H and I aren't even friends on Facebook (or in real life). if we have something to say to each other we just say it. I'm only Facebook friends with people I don't see often so I can share pics and news about the kids without having to repeat it. I only have about 30 Facebook friends.

HTH1 · 04/09/2021 20:39

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
I found this too. I don’t bother with FB due to the pure bullshit.
IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 04/09/2021 20:40

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
I have thought similar too.
MsMeNz · 04/09/2021 20:48

Yeah I don't get it either. I find it a bit cringe tbh like public displays of affection. Both myself and DH have a social media account and are linked as partners but we never really acknowledge each other as it's more for us to connect with ppl we don't live with.

I know it's not always the case but that type of public gush comes across like they have something to prove or hide. 🤷 And I appreciate this is just my opinion that is probably a tad syndical.

Baggingarea · 04/09/2021 20:48

I kind of feel like if a partner has done something amazing like care for you while you or a child while seriously ill then fair play.

If it's just an excuse to post a pic of u looking fit on your wedding day, it's often quite transparent.

But each to their own eh.

PumpkinPatch21 · 04/09/2021 20:52

Posts like these are exactly why I'm grateful I deleted Facebook a long time ago. 😂

BeenAroundTheWorldAndIII · 04/09/2021 20:57

Totally agree! Drives me bonkers!
I love seeing announcements (engaged, baby news). Don't mind the occasional post for a special occasion (big wedding anniversary etc). But all these gushy, over the top posts that are directed at a person that is likely sat across from them (also on their phone, therefore ignoring each other) make no sense. Just say it to that person. Facebook likes needed to validate life, love and success! I actually deactivated it a while ago because I couldn't be doing with the pretence! Seemingly picture
Perfect lives that are really a shambles!

MyPatronusIsACat · 04/09/2021 20:58

I really have no issue with it. I think it's nice.

Maybe social media is not the place for you @LegendaryReady as it sounds like you dislike these people.

Luckymummytoone · 04/09/2021 20:58

I don’t know why, but this really irritates me too! Knowing they’re probably sat in the same room but talking to each other over fb 🤷🏽‍♀️

Benjispruce5 · 04/09/2021 20:58

I totally agree OP. It’s what used to be called showing off! Who cares?

MyPatronusIsACat · 04/09/2021 20:58

Ditto to the people agreeing with you. Come off social media - or unfollow the 'offending' people.

Benjispruce5 · 04/09/2021 20:59

I deleted FB long ago and don’t do SM at all.

Starsky82 · 04/09/2021 21:01

I completely know where you’re coming from. I’m friends with a couple that does it and it annoys me way more that it should 😂 I know that when they’re writing on each other’s statuses that they’re in the same room as each other. I just assume they’re too busy staring at their phones to actually speak to one another!

LowlyTheWorm · 04/09/2021 21:02

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
Definitely agree with this and it’s so hard sometimes to not call people out on this. When they’ve literally complained all week about their partner or told you really worrying stuff one week and the next it’s all hearts and flowers and #blessed shit the next. Who ARE they trying to convince? 🤔
SirVixofVixHall · 04/09/2021 21:02

@LegendaryReady

To be clear I like a once annual "isn't it great we've been married xx years" with some cheesy photos of a 1980s wedding.

What I don't like is almost daily postings of conversations between husband and wife telling each other how great they are.

Agree. I love a happy anniversary pic. Or baby pictures, or when that baby turns 21 etc. What I can’t hack are daily pics of breakfasts, and endless gushing about people. I do browse Instagram but the hashtags make me ragey, so perhaps I shouldn’t....Grin .
BearSoFair · 04/09/2021 21:07

Agree OP. I came off of FB after a couple (adults! Not even teens) posting gushing 'happy 1111th day together' messages to eachother - yes really. Who keeps count? Annual anniversaries fine, but literally no one else gives a shit about your 1111th day. I'm much happier without it! Still on Twitter but no one is doing that over there!

Iloveginger · 04/09/2021 21:09

Its social media, a platform to share your news. I do think its a bit of a slippery slope for some people and they don't know where to draw the line, but I can't say it bothers me people wishing their family and friends a happy birthday ( heavenly, or not) and sharing other good news about them
I don't get why it bothers people so much and I am saying that as someone that posts about once a year.

WimpoleHat · 04/09/2021 21:09

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors Grin Grin
Perfectly put….! I agree.