Why, just why do people this

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Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

YABU. Give up the addiction and leave Facebook. All social media for that matter. It isn't social, it is a place to edit your life for validation.

Usually the ones who gush the most have the least good relationship/feel loved/confident/self assured etc. They might have a critical family, might always feel the need to compete or prove something. Not always but usually. I've never felt the need to post my kids achievements or about my relationship with DP, because I don't need the affirmation or have anything to prove.

*don't feel loved etc

I agree. Totally cringe.

I came off --Fussbook years ago. Best thing I ever did. No Twitter, no Instagram, no Whatsapp- bliss. I suggest if what other people post bothers you to this extent, you may be best to leave social media.

I hide the gushers. Also the politicians (especially the ones I disagree with) and the continual conpetition enterers. Quite like the dad jokers. I like little and often.

I confess I do cringe at these posts also lol! I do find it strange that these declarations are made so publically. My dh would be mortified if I gushed about him on SM and I would be the same if he did about me! I might be a negative Nancy here, but I suspect that it's just showing off in most cases. It doesn't bother me massively, certainly not enough to come off FB or anything.

I tend to snooze those people. Its 🤮

Yes, I hide posts from the worst offenders. I like FB for keeping up with events for a couple of interests and I do like to see what my old friends and their DCs are up to. I also like the Dad jokes

They're simply showing off. We're living in times where most ppl want to be famous.

The best one is “date night with my gorgeous husband” complete with pic of husband and food across the table.

I just presume that they have nothing to talk about and are desperate for others to validate their relationship. It might make me mean and obviously I’d never say it irl but that’s what it immediately makes me think.

Worse than the gushers are the I-am-strong-woman posters.
Endless memes about rising from the ashes, when you know they spend half their lives weeping into their wine.

There’s a reason it should be renamed ‘Fakebook’.

When I was with my exH I rarely posted about anything except my horse and DDs dog showing exploits. ExH is long gone now, I have DP, and I often post about our adventures. I can truthfully say I'm not presenting a fake image to the world, we are pretty damn good together. If 8t sickens anyone, I would assume they would mute me or just scroll on past. Fortunately I only have people on my FB who are my actual friends so I don't have this problem myself.

One of my oldest friends does this and it winds me up. In reality, I know she’s not very happy and bored shitless in her marriage (her words). She loves to gush about him publicly though and also has full blown Facebook conversations with him. It’s obvious he’s sitting in the same room so I just don’t see the point in it. It’s wearing and I usually snooze her for 30 days a couple of times a year, when it gets too much. The funniest/saddest was her posting a picture of a meal he’d made her, along with gushing post about how he loves to spoil her. I know that she’d kicked him out the week before because he was sat gaming all day and this was a sort of make-up meal, to show her that he was changing his ways. I actually feel sad for her because I think what she portrays on Facebook is the life she wishes she really had

I'm with you OP in not understanding why some people need to repeatedly declare on FB how wonderful their relationship is

I have no problem with the occasional celebratory post to big up your other half if they have achieved something important or its a special anniversary or whatever but the ones that involve publicly thanking their significant other for gifts or just generally gushing about how 'blessed' they are definitely make me 🙄

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors

I'm no longer on FB but its something I noticed too 😂

I find it weird when people post messages to their young children or other people who clearly don't use SM, but yeah when I did use it it was for posting to people I don't see every day so I do think its odd for people to send wishes to people who they live with. But I find Facebook a weird place anyway which is why I don't use it.

What bemuses me even more is 'Happy birthday to my darling daughter' who is 3, and therefore not on Facebook to see it. Is it a passive-aggressive reminder to relatives who tend to forget?!

It doesn't bother me. Why would it bother me?

🤢

I haven’t posted anything on Facebook in years. It’s mostly lies, people looking for validation

Well, in that case, it is down to your choice of friends, which really is down to you. Facebook is a platform where you choose whose posts you see and who sees yours. If you are friends with a lot of people who tell lies and people who seek validation, then that is what you will see.

Why not? We do it. We like to share our love with the people who are closest with us. We’ve been happily married for many years now.

You are free to unfollow as you wish

My husband stood up (with a physical aid) for the first time in 3 and a half months the other day. I absolutely shared the shit out of it on social media (I'm not a big user normally) because I was proud of him and wanted to show it off.
Let people do whatever the want. You don't want to see it, unfriend and unfollow.

I have a Facebook account , I love seeing friends say that they have been married x amount of years and are celebrating or someone has been given an xyz as a present fron their partner just because or their child has won an award for swimming etc , but then I'm not a jealous type , love seeing people are happy and wish them all well