Why, just why do people this

[LegendaryReady]

Couples posting lovey lovey messages to each other on their public social media.

Everything from Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife to OMG thank you so much amazing DH for the really expensive xyz.

Presumably as they have such amazing relationships and they live in the same house they can say these things easily face to face.

Is it to run others' who may not be so fortunate noses in it? Do their partners need this public validation? Do they not actually talk to each other?

I wouldn't envy people who feel the need to do this.

It's symbolic of a performance relationship and usually means the reality is very far from the words and pictures they are spewing out online.

I know someone that does this and the truth is that she and her DP are raging alcoholics that spend most of their time fighting. The instagram pictures are full of romantic breakfast gestures, dinners out and impromptu cocktail hours. The only grain of truth in them is the amount of alcohol being consumed - there is never any event no matter what time of day that isn't somehow linked to partaking of strong drink.

Things are often very different than they look on social media...

Moaning about people who post nice statements about the people they love.

How very British!!
Jealous, much?

Wankers I have a two strikes = muted rule.

It’s sillier when they post things like this and their significant other isn’t even on Facebook to see it
I don’t use Facebook anymore, it’s just not for me (based on what my friends post).

I know someone who does that well a few actually who are also sleeping around

To be clear I like a once annual "isn't it great we've been married xx years" with some cheesy photos of a 1980s wedding.

What I don't like is almost daily postings of conversations between husband and wife telling each other how great they are.

For the billionth time I'm So happy I don't use social media

I agree with you OP, it's weird. No need to put posts like this on social media - comes across as desperate and trying to show off.

@LegendaryReady

To be clear I like a once annual "isn't it great we've been married xx years" with some cheesy photos of a 1980s wedding.

What I don't like is almost daily postings of conversations between husband and wife telling each other how great they are.

Oh ok that's different. Do people actually do that?! Weird...

Yes I find this annoying too. The weirdest exchange I saw on fb between a married couple was a discussion about what colour to paint their bedroom!

Don’t know. It irritates me too, I just think get off social media and go into the next room and tell them personally. Same as messages like “great party” while at said party. If it’s so great what are you doing with your nose in your phone.

suggested they were doing it to share their happiness with me

Are you their only FB friend?

Depends - if it’s only once every couple months and fairly brief then it’s just a way of celebrating the person they love, which seems.. fair enough?

If it’s an essay or v frequent then yes annoying, but you can mute.

@loopylindi " ....... The constant need to validate any emotion on social media is puke making...."

I agree. Some of those gushing posts are vomit inducing.

@LegendaryReady it seems like the majority of offended posters on here are probably the type of FB people you're describing 🤣

I came off Facebook 10 years ago for this reason and have no regrets. I don't care to read people's mundane updates about their life. And I've never understood the need for sharing so much with people you probably don't even speak to anymore. It's mostly just for showboating and validation. Those who are close to me know about what's happening in my life and I managed to survive like that before FB.

Guessing from responses to threads like this that the majority of MNers love that kinda shit.

For show.

@Thislittlefinger123

In my experience OP, it's usually the case that the more gushing a couple do on SM, the shitter their relationship behind closed doors

Seconded. I always suspect that if a couple needs that level of broadcasting their relationship and gushing over each other on social media it's probably because at least one of them is deeply insecure or they're trying to cover up the shitshow that goes on behind the stage.

I've been in a lovely relationship with my partner for 2 years and i can count on one hand the posts I've tagged him in. And never anything cheesy and over the top. I find it those type of posts barf-inducing.

I agree. It’s stomach churning & attention seeking.

Just talk to your relation-they’re in the same house as you!

Not as bad as people posting messages to dead people.

They arent on Facebook.

Facebook is made for people like this.

I must admit I don't like the current rush to share things so publicly. I find it rather embarrassing. However I'm not a young person so just think it's not my business and let it go.

On the other hand, I admit I take great pleasure in seeing my ex's wife posting about her "perfect husband" and how "blessed she is" while knowing that he's probably still the pathetic raging narcissistic and manipulative dumpster fire that i had the misfortune of meeting.

I agree OP. It makes me really uncomfortable. When I joined fb (2007) this was not the norm, nobody did it. But SM has made even British people comfortable with public boasting.

And to everyone saying that you're being a grinch - it IS odd that people who live together feel the need to state this type of comment in a public forum.

Special occasion eg 50th birthday or 20th wedding anniversary - message on FB to OH understandable. Maybe following a successful stint in rehab, or 10 years in AA or similar, when there's a reason to publicly declare your status. That makes sense. Any other public message to your partner is just bloody odd and screams of a tragic teenage need for attention.

I think it's just part of the modern way of over-sharing - 'look at us, aren't we wonderful?' Some people are just more demonstrative than others. It's reasonably harmless, I don't want to do this myself but each to their own.