My son and his girlfriend bought a house one street away from me a year ago. I can count on my hands the number of times I've been inside it, due to Covid, and me being mindful of not being an overbearing, nosey MIL. We have (had!) a good relationship , I thought. We gave them money for solicitors fees to buy it and paid for appliances for it. We have them over for tea, they've had us over. When they very recently had some plumbing issues, they came over to our house to shower every day until it was sorted.
Last Friday I decided to stop in on the way home from work to ask what date they would like to go out for the GF's birthday dinner. We always take out the kids for a birthday meal. I literally drive past their driveway on my way home.
So I rock up, go in and the GF calls upstairs to tell him his mum is here - then much to my surprise - then shock, he launched into yelling and swearing, bounding downstairs, more shouting, berating me because he's 'just logged on to a game!! 'and 'why can't I fucking call before I come over?'. I didn't even want to talk to him especially, it was her I was going to chat with. Silly me, I was even thinking I might be offered a TGIF glass of wine. I was absolutely dumbfounded. I just got up and walked out, managed not to start crying until I reached the door, where I stated I'd be sure to make an appointment next time.
Except it will be cold day in hell before there is a next time I go over there, unless I get a sincere and profuse apology. We only really hear from him when he wants something and I am so fkg hurt about it. For context, this is a 27 year year old man in a professional and responsible job, not a 17 year old. And they are both off work for 6 weeks, so not like they had just come in from work and it was a bad time. The GF was mortified and texted me an apology, but SHE has nothing to apologise for. I just don't know what I did that was so wrong that I deserved that kind of reception. Anyhoo, this is why I won't be visiting my adult DC's home again.