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14 yr old DS walked in on my DP naked, how do I handle this.

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StrawberryShortcakeAndTea · 09/08/2021 20:38

I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

DS thought DP was out (he was about to go out, he had been getting ready to leave hadn’t left yet as we got ‘distracted’.
DP was completely undressed when DS knocked and immediately opened the door, I shouted and DP dashed into the bathroom but it was too late as he was literally stood right in full view of the door.

DS apologised and ran to his room
DP was embarrassed and furious, he got dressed straight away and left the house.
I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this.
My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things, but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

What can I do to make this less of an awful situation?

OP posts:
Kintsugi16 · 09/08/2021 22:46

Your poor DS
FFS, get a grip. It’s no big deal and you should be backing your DS on this, not your delicate petal of a DP. It’s about time he grew some.

Hannayeah · 09/08/2021 22:51

Maybe this grown man shouldn’t be living in the same house with people who make him that uncomfortable. If you live with others there are occasionally going to be situations like this. Your son did nothing wrong. Your DP’s reaction is extreme.

toocold54 · 09/08/2021 22:53

Omg your poor DS!!
The least said the better. I would try and make a joke out of it if you can but there’s no point saying about knocking as he definitely won’t be doing it again!

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me4real · 09/08/2021 22:56

I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this. My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things

You've already got your point across with your previous comment above to your DS. No need for any further lecture, especially with how your DP responded. It'll be clear to DS that he shouldn't do that again.

but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

Just tell him that you've told your DS not to do that again (I imagine you've probably told him that already.)

My sis saw one of my ex's naked and it just became a running joke between them, like 'oh, you've got some clothes on today' etc. Grin

Just consider it dealt with now @StrawberryShortcakeAndTea . No need to bring it up more than you have to either DP or DS.

RobynRedhead · 09/08/2021 22:59

@Kanaloa

I mean either your reading comprehension is very poor or you’re selectively quoting me to make some sort of point.
So you know I have a valid point and can't think of a response that will justify why you've blamed your son for simply doing something you've taught him is perfectly acceptable to do then.

How is he supposed to know whether your dp is in your room or not?

Newbabynewhouse · 09/08/2021 23:02

@Kanaloa

In that case I apologise.. I read it wrong and thought you were genuinely offering that as a piece of advice!

dollarbillgotcha · 09/08/2021 23:10

How is this so awful.

Kanaloa · 09/08/2021 23:16

@RobynRedhead

Erm? Not sure, I was responding to another poster.

@Newbabynewhouse

No, it was a joke. I followed it by saying she could also do the normal thing and accept that while embarrassing, these things happen when you live with teenagers, and her son won’t be knocking and barging again.

MobyDicksTinyCanoe · 09/08/2021 23:18

Far too much drama over such a non event.

WestendVBroadway · 09/08/2021 23:20

DP was raised in a way that nudity is private and he is very shy
Does he never use a public toilet in a shop, gym etc, where the chances are other men will see his willy?
My DD's boyfriend got a look at my boobs the other night . I forgot he was staying over and stood topless on the landing because the smoke alarm was making a noise, he also decided to investigate at the same time. I was embarrassed as was he, not furious though because it was just an accident.

Charliecatpaws · 09/08/2021 23:22

Good Lord your DS accidentally saw your DP in the nude, get a grip !

colouringindoors · 09/08/2021 23:23

Feel sorry for your DS.

Your DP sounds strange.

Bagamoyo1 · 09/08/2021 23:23

@Hidehi4

So your partner is shy and embarrassed because your son walked in on him naked but it’s fine to have sex when a teenager is in the house and awake and could walk in 🤔
I was thinking this too. Very odd. Certainly not a risk you’d expect a shy person to take, even if it was just a “grope” rather than full sex!
Balgoresboy · 09/08/2021 23:26

I honestly don't know if threads like this are made up. Your em 14 yo son, almost a man himself, saw another man naked-wtf is the big deal??? They both have the same instruments so no surprises for your son-like seriously op get a life.

SchrodingersMat · 09/08/2021 23:47

Your poor son. Not only has he had to see some naked bloke right after you’ve been wanking him off, he then gets a telling off from you and now you’re contemplating yet another lecture, as if he hasn’t got the message? All you seem to care about is your drama queen boyfriend’s delicate sensibilities, you don’t seem to give a shit about how your son might be feeling at all. Poor kid.

FatJan · 09/08/2021 23:50

so your son walked in without knocking (or walked in while knocking, which is pretty much the same), you shouted and your partner ran into the bathroom.

I mean, your son should knock and then wait to be invited in, but I think your partner's happy willy might have already taught him this lesson.

You probably shouldn't have shouted. Nobody was at risk of harm and it probably made it more of a 'thing'. What did you shout? 'WILLY!'?

Your partner - if he is as anxious easily embarrassed as you say - could probably do with growing up a bit. He's not so anxious and embarrassed to get his willy out in your house in the first place, so he needs to learn to deal with consequences.

The three of you have managed to make a slightly funny and embarrassing moment into a full blown dramatic (still funny) episode.

KurtWilde · 09/08/2021 23:54

How do you handle it? By having a conversation with your DP about growing the fuck up. If he's not too shy to get naked in the middle of the day for a quick session before gym, then he's no business being 'furious' with your DS - who in fairness thought you're DP had left the house!

Everyoneisgonewhere · 10/08/2021 00:11

@Faevern

Your DP is practically vertical he's so chilled, do you mean horizontal, or are you still thinking about his erection?

It's still your fault, shagging when you know your DS has a habit of walking in. He's not going to do it again.

Omg 😆 😆 😆
FlatteredFool · 10/08/2021 00:11

What a nob.

JuniperJamie · 10/08/2021 00:34

I would totally handle this with a bit of humour. When they’re both in the kitchen tomorrow, ask them if they’d like a bit of sausage for dinner 😆

ApplyWithin · 10/08/2021 00:39

I feel very sorry for your son in this. Poor child having to anticipate your mother and her partner being in flagrante at all times and modifying your behaviour to accommodate it.

Your DP needs to get over himself.

Have a laugh about it and all move on.

SD1978 · 10/08/2021 00:41

I doubt he'll forget to know I again after getting an eye full of your partners tackle/ you sound now as if you are (both) over reacting. He has a visual reminder why to knock, you've reiterated the need to knock, situation over.

WeAllHaveWings · 10/08/2021 00:54

Your dp is way over reacting and needs to be told to not make such a big deal of it, your ds is a child. You are living together as a family you are going to accidently see things you might rather not occasionally.

You ds is a child remind him, again, to knock and wait, in a light-hearted way and make sure you model the behaviour by doing the same when entering his room. It will sink in eventually.

BastardMonkfish · 10/08/2021 01:02

'but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.'

Sorry but who cares, he's a grown man. It's your DS being upset and embarrassed you should be worried about.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 10/08/2021 01:13

This is what happens sometimes when more than one person lives in a house.

It's a big fat 'get over it' to your DP to me.

Even better, everyone should get a sense of humour about it.