14 yr old DS walked in on my DP naked, how do I handle this.

[StrawberryShortcakeAndTea]

I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

DS thought DP was out (he was about to go out, he had been getting ready to leave hadn’t left yet as we got ‘distracted’.
DP was completely undressed when DS knocked and immediately opened the door, I shouted and DP dashed into the bathroom but it was too late as he was literally stood right in full view of the door.

DS apologised and ran to his room
DP was embarrassed and furious, he got dressed straight away and left the house.
I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this.
My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things, but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

What can I do to make this less of an awful situation?

Who cares. Just make a comment about knocking first. Move on. If you keep talking about it, you’ll make it worse

Your poor DS. As if teens aren’t mortified enough about these sorts of minor mis-haps, your DP went and reinforced the shame and stigma for him, and your ridiculous hand-wringing is exacerbating things too.

I bet your DS feels punished & ashamed for something that was entirely of yours and DP’s making, and feels uncomfortable in his own home now.

Tell your child-like partner to grow up. And go and apologise to your son for being such a drama llama.

He’s 14, he’ll be too embarrassed to do it again without you even mentioning how he ought to wait before walking in 😅
We all try to be careful, but I bet there are plenty in the comments here who’ve been walked in on mid-sesh 🙃

@Kanaloa

You make your son get naked as well so they both suffer the same embarrassment.

I really hope this is a joke? The boy is 14... that is sexual abuse..

Oh FFS he's 14, people have sex, he should knock and wait but he didn't, he won't make that mistake again. Your DP needs to get over himself. It's a penis not a fully loaded Uzi.

Even 7 year old DD knows adults have naked cuddles, it's normal, obviously you don't do it if you think they're going to prance into the room but there's always a risk with kids that they'll inadvertently disturb you at some point in their lives.

DH had to tell DS that if he continued barging in without knocking at some stage he'd see something he'd never be able to unsee. Bleach and eyeball were mentioned. He took the hint and knocks and mumbles until we tell him it's safe to open the door.

People on here and your DP are getting their knickers in a right twist over a non issue. Adults have sex, it's a normal part of a loving relationship.

@RosettaPebble

Your poor son. He walked into a room in his own home and now your partner is furious? Why the heck were you being intimate where a 14 year old could walk in? Locks are cheap.

Your partners reaction is concerning. I wouldn’t want that around my son in his home. He shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells because the adults can’t have sex at an appropriate time.

because the adults can’t have sex at an appropriate time.

Honestly, if you have teens...I don't think there's ever 'an appropriate time' they are mostly nocturnal

This still sounds like a complete over-reaction. Ds probably saw very little. And so what if he did.

Your dp and his severe hang ups are what you clearly should be focusing on.

Ugh.

This type of thing will happen when you live together. No need to make it into a big deal.

@EarringsandLipstick

It's actively harmful for teenagers to be exposed to sexual activity between their parents.

What? From one extreme to the other with this comment!

DS wasn't standing there watching.

Oh FGS this is such a load of bull. Actively harmful to realise their parents are in a loving relationship and have consensual sex.

Tell your dp yo get over it and leave your poor ds alone. What an over reaction!

Micro penis?

You have handled it already you told ds to wait for a response in future that's all that needs to be said.
Am sure ds never wants that to happen again so will have learnt his lesson.

Look on the bright side OP. This story will keep your son's future therapist occupied for a good few sessions if you and your DP carry on and make it into an issue and no more shaming your son with your D's ridiculous behaviour. Locks are cheaper than therapy.

Calm your tits, the lot of yous.

Get a lock for your door.

If your DP is still upset when he returns, tell him he is being ridiculous.

Poor kid, he probably feels really ashamed, it’s just a human body, let it go

We didn't need to know you were "'distracted.'l
Your son will have learnt.
Your partner is a idiot.

Least said soonest mended. Don’t mention it at all.

Exposure to parental sexual behaviour

Look I think the OP & her DP were being arses.

But he wasn't exposed to any sexual behaviour. He saw the man naked. Mortifying. Unnecessary if OP & DP had acted like adults.

Not going to lead even to the potential of longer term damage

However making her poor son feel uncomfortable in his own house, and having a man-child stomp around in embarrassment is disgraceful, IMO

Jings, storm in a tea cup much!

Walking in with you swinging from chandeliers might warrant being mortified. It was only your DP's schlong he saw by accident. Don't worry about it.

Tell son to knock and wait

Get a bolt put on the door

Sounds like it could have been much worse if he'd walked in a bit earlier, you should both be relieved! (Um, no pun intended...)

surely your dp put his hands over his semi?

just get a lock, or put a chair in front of the door

Your DP has issues.
Huge overreaction by both of you.

Others have repeatedly mentioned having a lock on your door but you avoided it.

Why on earth don't you have a lock on your door?

Get a lock today and put it on.