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14 yr old DS walked in on my DP naked, how do I handle this.

267 replies

StrawberryShortcakeAndTea · 09/08/2021 20:38

I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

DS thought DP was out (he was about to go out, he had been getting ready to leave hadn’t left yet as we got ‘distracted’.
DP was completely undressed when DS knocked and immediately opened the door, I shouted and DP dashed into the bathroom but it was too late as he was literally stood right in full view of the door.

DS apologised and ran to his room
DP was embarrassed and furious, he got dressed straight away and left the house.
I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this.
My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things, but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

What can I do to make this less of an awful situation?

OP posts:
pilates · 09/08/2021 22:05

Massive overreaction.

SparklingLime · 09/08/2021 22:06

Oh FGS this is such a load of bull. Actively harmful to realise their parents are in a loving relationship and have consensual sex.

No, of course not, @Twinkie01. But to witness his DM’s partner naked with an erection, then for the DP to storm out furious, whilst his mum seems to blame DS for the whole thing, is not a healthy experience for any teen.

Thewinterofdiscontent · 09/08/2021 22:06

So the reaction could have been; indifference, humour or horror.
As the adults you are supposed to guide.

Hint. … horror was the the wrong reaction to what was just someone neutrally having no clothes on.

Please minimise this with a good laugh. Othherwise you are weirdos.

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MintyGreenDream · 09/08/2021 22:07

It's only a cock and balls.They both have the same anatomy don't they? If it was a dd then could understand the embarrassment.

NeedToKnow101 · 09/08/2021 22:07

@Coronawireless

GrinWhat exactly was the DP doing at the time?
The key question
NeedToKnow101 · 09/08/2021 22:10

Oh sorry. Didn't see the rest of thread.

RogueRebel · 09/08/2021 22:10

"I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone."
You have allowed DS to get into the habit by the sounds of it he's misjudged the timing and you've been caught out and instead of apologising to your DS you have blamed him in your embarrassment.
A lock on your door would have stopped this from ever happening it's what most adults use they cost £s they don't have to be fancy just a little bolt.

MintMatchmaker · 09/08/2021 22:13

I would be cross with your DP not your son. Yes your son should remember to knock but your DP’s reaction is not acceptable. I doesn’t matter how he was brought up, he needs to grow up.

Your son is 14, I’m sure he’s aware of what a naked male body looks like and how a penis works.

acolderwar · 09/08/2021 22:15

@Hercisback

Get a lock if he could have walked in on shagging fgs.
Yep. This is your fault and your DP's fault. How the fuck has this situation resulted in your poor DS feeling like he's done something wrong. Your DP needs to get a grip and apologise to DS.
Kanaloa · 09/08/2021 22:15

@Newbabynewhouse

Why have you chosen only to quote that part of my post? The sentence immediately following it makes it perfectly clear that it was a joke, making fun of the op’s overreaction.

RobynRedhead · 09/08/2021 22:16

'DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.'

I don't understand why you are blaming your ds for walking straight in when you usually allow it. Just ask him to knock and wait every time.

Kanaloa · 09/08/2021 22:16

I mean either your reading comprehension is very poor or you’re selectively quoting me to make some sort of point.

SusieBob · 09/08/2021 22:18

Massive overreaction on your DP's part. He needs to apologise to DS for acting like a twat.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 09/08/2021 22:22

@EarringsandLipstick

Exposure to parental sexual behaviour

Look I think the OP & her DP were being arses.

But he wasn't exposed to any sexual behaviour. He saw the man naked. Mortifying. Unnecessary if OP & DP had acted like adults.

Not going to lead even to the potential of longer term damage

However making her poor son feel uncomfortable in his own house, and having a man-child stomp around in embarrassment is disgraceful, IMO

Did you miss that the DP had a boner?
jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 09/08/2021 22:23

You have a dp problem not a ds problem.
He needs to act like a adult and get over himself

PTW1234 · 09/08/2021 22:24

Sounds like a DP problem, don’t punish your DS

Generalpost · 09/08/2021 22:28

It was an accident the reaction from your partner was a bit ott. And it was not right that ds was lectured as you was always ok with him just walking in. Your lectured him about something you have never taught him. The fact that he wasked in on your partner would have been embarrassing enough that he automatically won't do it again anyway.

My dd boy friend saw me knacked by accident once omg it was so embarrassing. He spent days taking the piss. Blush

Antwerpen · 09/08/2021 22:28

Your ‘D’P needs to get a bloody grip OP.

Terhou · 09/08/2021 22:29

DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

How did he get into that habit? Surely there's just as much risk of him finding you naked? Didn't that lead you to tell him not to barge into people's bedrooms without knocking?

lobsteroll · 09/08/2021 22:31

The person who is probably most mortified in this situation is your teenager 🙈

Thank god he didn't actually walk in on you doing it!

Hopefully it's just one of those things that is mortifying for all involved in the moment but will just end up being one of those funny stories in years to come.

Terhou · 09/08/2021 22:32

@pommepommefrites

Was just sick in my mouth, think you both need to apologise to ds for him having to witness dp wiping his dick off because you can't lock a door? Wait for an appropriate time? Ewww
If you really were sick, youreally need to get a grip. What's an appropriate time when there's a 14 year old in the house? 1 a.m.?

No dick-wiping involved, and if people use normal manners and knock before going into others' bedrooms then there's absolutely no need for locks.

Summerfun54321 · 09/08/2021 22:33

Just have some family time with your son and quit the day time shag fest while he’s playing xbox poor kid.

RobynNora · 09/08/2021 22:34

I’d be far, far more concerned that my child was upset or embarrassed than the DP’s immature overreaction. Kids forget to knock. It happens. Fury is a horrible way to react.

PluggingAway · 09/08/2021 22:42

Daytime sex with kids in the house is absolutely fine... so long as you lock the door.

ALWAYS LOCK THE DOOR

Branleuse · 09/08/2021 22:43

least said soonest mended