In a pickle over lack of thank you & holiday contribution

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About a 6 weeks ago my DD was taken away for the weekend by a school friend and her family to their holiday home in Cornwall. She's obviously very lucky and we thanked the parents before and after but that was it and I'm now looking back and feeling totally mortified that we didn't offer or send DD with a proper contribution (ie more than the £20 pocket money she took) or send a note and gift to the parents afterwards thanking them.
I could list the reasons why these things didn't happen at the time but suffice to say it was more poor time management than significant life event so not relevant and totally not a valid excuse.

We don't know the parents bar the odd WhatsApp message but I do know their address so really poor on my behalf not to at least have sent a thank you.

How can I resolve this 6 weeks after the event without looking totally ridiculous or like someone has prompted me.

A weekend in a holiday hone doesn’t warrant a financial contribution but you could drop a bottle of nice wine off. Just apologise for it being late.

@LizziesTwin

Ask your daughter if they drink alcohol & if they do send a half case of champagne with a note saying belated thanks? Obviously I don’t know what your budget is but something on those lines? We often host friends, children’s friends & aren’t really worried about the gift as we’d rather have the company.

This is exactly what we did, tying it in with the date of their anniversary party.

gin/wine /flowers with a note saying you have lost the plot !! & that she had a fab time & that they are so kind, when you invite another child you wouldn't want money really other than for spends so don't beat yourself up.you will make their day im sure by your honesty&gift.

@jugOFpimms

gin/wine /flowers with a note saying you have lost the plot !! & that she had a fab time & that they are so kind, when you invite another child you wouldn't want money really other than for spends so don't beat yourself up.you will make their day im sure by your honesty&gift.

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Could you just return the favour when you go on holiday and take their daughter? I think rudeness comes from relationships/favours being one sided so that would address the balance?

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You don't even have to read the full thread to see that this was dealt with a while back, and with a lot more sense than some suggestions here - eg half a case of champagne for a child's weekend in the family's holiday home!

I've taken kids with me and friends have taken my kids. I just asked if they needed spends and said thanks. The kids are grown up now still mates and so are the mums so the thank yous were obviously enough. I would feel champagne or crate of wine somewhat ott (don't like either anyway) & my friends would probably slap a bar of dairy milk in my hand if wanted to get anything and that would be fine by me. If you want to give something then just a small but "naice" box of chocs and a thank you note would be lovely. Not too showy to embarrass but enough to show appreciation.

@doscervesas

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You don't even have to read the full thread to see that this was dealt with a while back, and with a lot more sense than some suggestions here - eg half a case of champagne for a child's weekend in the family's holiday home!

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