How’s this for entitled..?

[TheLightSideOfTheMoon]

22 year old colleague/friend, injury, I won’t go into it.

No one to drive her to A&E. My DP drives her there (with me). I sit with her for almost 8 hours waiting to be seen.

Eventually I tell her that I need to go home (I needed medication I’d left behind), I’ll sort out a lift for her in the morning (A&E about 15 miles away), but pretty sure she’ll be admitted.

Roll on early this morning. She’s been discharged.

My DP can’t pick her up so I tell her I will pay for a taxi (probably about £50).

Her mother then contacts me. Absolutely fuming that her daughter is ‘stranded’. I point out that I offered to pay for a taxi but for some reason that doesn’t count.

I tell her to jog on.

Another load of shitty messages from the colleague for telling said mother to jog on.

Seriously?

I spend most of the night in A&E with someone looking after them and there’s no thanks, just a barrage of abuse from their mother.

No good deed goes unpunished.

Is it me? Seriously. Am I in the wrong?

Or are people just like this now?

Im sure you're colleagues will get the full measure of her entitlement.

Hope your day is going well OP.
Stick to your guns on this. You are in the right (except for being too kind to someone so unappreciative.)

Perhaps she will have seen the light and turn up with flowers/chocolates/apologies and thanks...

But if not - don't worry. I'm sure that other colleages have the measure of her. She will have tried out others and her sense of entitlement will have shown itself on other occasions.

She’s not even here. We don’t actually have another shift together for a couple of weeks.

I’m glad. I CBA with the drama and don’t want any bad feelings. This girl is the queen of bad moods and it could make things awkward for our colleagues.

Started reading The Life Changing Magic Of Not Giving A Fuck last night. Hoping to finish it over the next couple of days.

So, can we guess which staff member was supposed to take over from me at 7am but didn’t turn up meaning I can’t leave? (Need X number of staff to be in the building.)

Usually DP picks me up (he’s not today) which means there’s a good chance she thinks he’s sitting in his car waiting for me...

Immature, yes?

That's so bitchy. Can you record it somewhere? Will people know she is so late? What's the usual protocol if someone is late?

Good lord, how bloody childish of her!

I CBA to record it. Probably what she wants. Will annoy her more if I don’t really care.

I actually had a feeling she’d do this. I even told DP not to bother picking me up because I had no idea what time I would actually leave.

Anyway, that’s where we’re at.

Our paths only cross at work for a couple of weeks, now. No actual shifts together.

Bit of a relief.

I’m nearly 40. I left this playground shit behind me a long time ago.

Please tell us she did turn up and you're not still at work?

Yeah, but she got there a good 25 minutes late... Not really on.

Maybe she thought I’d leave regardless and she’s trying to avoid me?

Who knows?

What a test op

Test = twat

You should report this

You need to log that in case she keeps doing it. I don't suppose she was really apologetic for being late?

No apology.

Just confirmed that I did the right thing cutting her out.

I've had a lovely week this week. I hadn't realised how much of a drain she was with th constant messaging, entitlement and misery. She'd burrowed in, like a tick.

Been amazing just chilling out in the evenings without my phone constantly going off.

I genuinely think that she believes that anyone with a car should be happy to drive her around

It seems to me that her belief was proved correct.

You are a people pleaser in the extreme, and I hope you realise, given the wobbly feeling you are now experiencing and the fact that you wondered if you were in the wrong that you need to do a lot of work on that.

You need assertiveness/ boundaries counseling.

You are definitely getting something out of it.

Nobody would do the sort of people pleasing you did for this young woman without getting something out if it. You need to figure out what that something is.