DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

[icecreamgirl94]

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

Happy to hear he’s awake and on the mend.

He phoned me this evening! He sounds totally exhausted but a bit more like himself than he did this morning if that makes sense. He says he’s got pains in his stomach and back because of what’s going on with his kidneys and he could sleep for 100 years but he’s feeling a bit better than he did. He doesn’t remember much about what happened at all. He remembers waking me up to say he didn’t feel well then he remembers me asking him what he was doing and if he was alright. He swears that he answered me and said no he wasn’t, everything hurt and he felt like death but he didn’t actually say anything, he was basically unconscious and I was shaking him, but he remembers wondering why I was shaking him because he thought he was talking to me. He doesn’t remember anything after that until he woke up Sunday night and didn’t know what was happening. We talked for about 20 minutes tonight which was enough to totally wipe him out. I’m now sat out in the garden having a bit of a cry. I feel totally relieved and overwhelmed and like the last few days have just been some crazy nightmare. Sorry I keep repeating myself and coming back to the thread but thank you all so much for helping me through this. I’m sorry if I’m getting boring now!
@harverina thank you so much, it was the best feeling in the world, I didn’t want to let him go and I’ve never seen him so happy to see me either 😭 Thank you for such a lovely message.
@TheDuchessofDukeStreet thank you so much. I think it’s definitely all starting to hit me now but I guess that’s a good thing as I don’t think you fully take it in till the worst is over.
@Hm2020 thank you so much.
Thank you everyone, you’re amazing.

So pleased for you OP, wonderful update. (Totally besides the point of the thread but you sound like such a lovely and kind person from your posts)

@grealush thank you what a lovely thing to say 😭 I think the tone of the thread probably makes me sound nicer than I am! Seriously though thank you so much ❤️

It really sounds like he's come on a long way since you started this thread Friday night. I know he isn't better yet, but you can actually see his progress. Hopefully you'll get some sleep tonight.

@nocoolnamesleft thank you yes, I feel like he’s making really good progress now. I actually feel kind of stupid for starting this thread and being so hysterical when, compared to a lot of the stories that have been shared in here, I haven’t actually had to wait that long for a positive sign. I always thought I was quite a strong person but I think this has shown me I’m really not!

I’m glad your husband is beginning to feel a bit better. My DH was in hospital last May for 15 nights for an emergency heart bypass operation. At the time it felt like a life time. I couldn’t visit, but did speak to him everyday on his phone which was so much better than speaking to the nurses to find out what was going on,

@Mindymomo I’m so sorry, that must have been so so hard to deal with. I’m glad you were able to speak to him at least. You’re right it’s much better than speaking to the hospital, no disrespect to them but obviously it’s not the same, and personally I just worry about coming across as stupid or annoying. I’m going to drop DP a text in a bit, see if he’s awake and how he’s feeling today. Fingers crossed he’s still improving and can come home soon. Thank you for your message.

What a lovely update! So pleased for you, I bet you slept better last night!

[quote icecreamgirl94]@nocoolnamesleft thank you yes, I feel like he’s making really good progress now. I actually feel kind of stupid for starting this thread and being so hysterical when, compared to a lot of the stories that have been shared in here, I haven’t actually had to wait that long for a positive sign. I always thought I was quite a strong person but I think this has shown me I’m really not![/quote]
You are far from stupid. Your husband was acutely, seriously ill and fell into unconsciousness in your presence. That is seriously scary. You are a strong person, took action, didn't fall apart.

I am so pleased he is improving and feel sure the improvement will continue.

Do keep us updated.

I'm so glad you got to talk to him last night. Hoping he is well enough to come home soon xx

@JackieQueen oh I slept so much better last night thank you 🙂
@Maggiesfarm thank you so much, that’s such a kind thing to say. I will definitely keep you updated, I’m just conscious of starting to get irritating if I keep coming back to the thread, but being able to talk to all of you is really really helping through this.
@Houseofvelour thank you so much.

So glad to hear he's doing better!

Glad to hear he is starting to feel better!

So glad to hear he is on the up. It's such a scary time for everyone. Hoping you get more visits. That was the hardest part for me not being able to visit x

I am sobbing reading this 😢What a lovely lovely bunch of women you all are to help the OP in her hour of need! This is the magic of mumsnet! OP 🌹I hope your lovely other half continues to make a speedy recovery.

[quote icecreamgirl94]@JackieQueen oh I slept so much better last night thank you 🙂
@Maggiesfarm thank you so much, that’s such a kind thing to say. I will definitely keep you updated, I’m just conscious of starting to get irritating if I keep coming back to the thread, but being able to talk to all of you is really really helping through this.
@Houseofvelour thank you so much.[/quote]
icecreamgirl, you will not irritate.

@villainousbroodmare @WorldsBestBoss thank you both.
@Groovee thank you so much. I agree the not being able to visit has been so so hard. Just hoping he’ll be coming home soon.
@Bluetoybear thank you so much for such a kind message. I’ve honestly been overwhelmed with the kindness on here 😭
@Maggiesfarm thank you so much, I really really appreciate that.
I haven’t heard much from him today, he’s been mostly sleeping which is obviously the best thing for him and will hopefully help him get well enough to come home quicker. Thank you everyone ❤️

OP, you are not weak and you are definitely not irritating! So glad you felt able to reach out for support and that it helped a bit x

@Bluetoybear

I am sobbing reading this 😢What a lovely lovely bunch of women you all are to help the OP in her hour of need! This is the magic of mumsnet! OP 🌹I hope your lovely other half continues to make a speedy recovery.

Mumsnet can be a nasty, bitchy place, but deep down it does have a big heart and strong shoulders when someone needs it. The OP will probably be able to reassure someone else in the future.💕

@Alternista thank you so much for your kind words. I feel like all I’ve done on here since Friday night is repeat myself. I keep expecting someone to tell me to shut up! But seriously thank you, this thread has helped so so much, especially being on my own in the evenings and having too much time to think. I feel so much better now but know I won’t be able to relax fully until he’s back home.
@Honeyroar completely agree with what you’ve said. The kindness on here has been above and beyond what I expected and I hope I can show that level of caring to anyone else who needs it. You guys are honestly amazing ❤️
He has an assessment tomorrow so fingers crossed for everything heading in the right direction.

Hope the assessment goes ok today OP, and that your husband has had a good night.

You definitely have not been hysterical in any way! Although I’m sure many people would feel hysterical if their husband was in ICU and they weren’t able to see them, so don’t worry at all.

Been reading and following. My heart is warmed by this. Sending much love and good wishes xxx

I had sepsis 2 years ago and have fully recovered. Spent a week in hospital and then went home. Had 4 weeks at home recovering and slowly getting my strength back. First week I couldn't walk more than a few steps without having to stop and rest. Slowly got my strength back and returned to work after 5 weeks but on reduced hours initially.

I just felt so so tired and weak but after about 2 months I was back to normal. It's a horrible illness and really shocked me as I am normally fit and healthy. I had 'brain fog' for a while and got a bit emotional at times.

Just give him lots of love when he gets out and be patient. You have been so so strong X

I hope you and DP are ok OP and he continues to recover!

I had sepsis when I got an infection after getting a wisdom tooth out and due to lockdown nothing was open and over the phone assessments all said it sounded like I was fine and healing normally when I definitely wasn't.

Eventually got an ambulance to hospital and spent a week there on an IV. But after a further week on oral antibiotics at home and then some probiotics I was completely fine! Actually got pregnant two weeks later with DC2 haha.