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DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

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icecreamgirl94 · 16/07/2021 23:42

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

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JackieQueen · 19/07/2021 23:01

So so pleased to hear your news op! I bet you'll treasure that text forever!Flowers

Honeyroar · 19/07/2021 23:06

Glad to hear that there has been a little positive news. He’ll get there. Baby steps. Keep your chin up. I’m glad to hear your family are surrounding you too.xx

(and how sweet are you replying to everyone personally!)

uggmum · 19/07/2021 23:15

I have been following your thread and I am really happy for you that your dh has improved.

I am a sepsis survivor. I was in hospital for 17 days and my liver was failing. The treatment I received saved my life and I made an excellent recovery. The cause of my infection was not found but was suspected of being swine flu.

I was very weak for a while and would get very tired easily. I had physio to help with physical recovery.

But I bounced back really well.

Wishing you and your family a speedy recovery

Houseofvelour · 19/07/2021 23:35

Sending you so much love and positive thoughts! I hope your DH makes a full and quick recovery and he's back in your arms soon xxx

Shuffleuplove · 19/07/2021 23:47

Sending lots of love

icecreamgirl94 · 20/07/2021 00:33

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop thank you that’s really kind. I’m fully prepared for a long recovery, I don’t mind how long it takes I’m just glad he’s heading in the right direction. Can’t believe he’s only been in hospital 4 days, feels like years!
@TheBrokenMothership thank you that’s a lovely thing to say.
@Frazzled2207 thank you. Keeping everything crossed I won’t have to keep a distance from him this time. I don’t think him starting to recover will feel real until I can at least hold his hand.
@JackieQueen thank you, I’ll definitely treasure the text forever. Never thought a couple of words would mean so much. I texted him back straight away and sent a photo off DS in the paddling pool yesterday but he’s not seen them so I’m guessing he’s asleep again for the night.
@Honeyroar thank you. Not expecting miracles, I’m just grateful for any bits of positivity which finally seem to be happening now. Yeah I’m not sure replying personally is really the done thing in here but I just think it’s polite when people are taking the time to write such kind messages. And it’s been a good way to pass the time and stop myself worrying while I’m sat around waiting for news.
@uggmum thank you so much for sharing your experience. Lovely to hear that you recovered so well.
@Houseofvelour @Shuffleuplove thank you so much.

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SeaToSki · 20/07/2021 01:22

💐💐💐

Nancydrawn · 20/07/2021 02:21

Just wanted to drop a quick note and say how absolutely delighted I am to hear the news so far. I've been thinking of you today. Baby steps, but great news.

Nancydrawn · 20/07/2021 02:22

(That sounded more ominous than I intended! I had a dear friend go through something similar - with a good outcome - and so it's been playing on my mind a bit.)

lobsterkiller · 20/07/2021 06:22

Thinking of you all. I hope you get to see him today.

LemonViolet · 20/07/2021 08:00

Oh brilliant news about the text! It will be lovely for him to wake up to the photos of the baby today. Hope you get to see him.

Inthesameboat2 · 20/07/2021 11:03

Another positive story...

My father had sepsis about 3 years ago now.

He was in poor health anyway (abdominal aortic aneurysm, heart problems, overweight, lung fibrosis, etc) and was taken ill with what they thought was an inflamed/infected gall bladder.

After several weeks in hospital they were discharging him to recover at home (with a drain put in for the gall bladder) when he suddenly collapsed.

The doctors had no idea what was wrong, but we were called in to say goodbye.
They spent hours at his bedside in the ward trying to stabilise him enough to move him to a scanner as they thought he was bleeding out somewhere internally.

At some point they said that although he would most likely die if they moved him, he definitely would die if they didn't (he was literally grey and icy cold/clammy to touch at this point) so they had to take the risk.

They did a scan and found out his liver had suffered a massive bleed.
They later realised that his gall bladder had turned gangrenous and this had spread to his liver causing it to bleed out.

They said that if he'd already been discharged from the ward (even if he was still in the hospital somewhere) that he wouldn't have survived.

He was operated on for 6-10hrs and then his wounds were packed and he was sent to ICU to see if he survived the night.
He did, and so they took him back in and did another operation of around 5hrs.

He was then in a coma for several weeks, during which time he contracted MRSA and several other infections which led to sepsis.
Again we thought we were going to lose him and it took several tries to find the right antibiotics to treat the sepsis.

It was touch and go for several weeks, but he eventually rallied and awoke from the coma.

He did suffer delusions for a while as he woke up suffering with delirium, which (unusually) persisted for ~5-8 weeks.

He was very, very weak and spent ~ 3 months in hospital and then ~ 3 months in rehab getting his strength back.

It took around a year in total, but I can happily say that apart from the odd memory lapse when he gets tired, he is back to where he was before he was ill and he's as mobile, etc, as he was before.

This is a man who really wouldn't have been expected to survive.
The doctors had already refused to operate on him to fix the issue as they thought the risk of him dying on the table was too high hence the drain being fitted to manage it non surgically.

Even the surgeon who did eventually operate on him under those emergency circumstances said he would have bet his house that my DF wouldn't survive the night, and said it was a miracle that he got better.

I hope that you get your own miracle 🌷🙏🏻

Phyllidakettle · 20/07/2021 11:12

Great news, thinking of you x.

peridito · 20/07/2021 12:26

You sound so caring and so lovely OP .

When I'm faced with someone suddenly seriously ill I kind of go into shock ,like my mind is preventing me from believing that anything serious could be wrong .And I become hyper sensitive to "making a fuss" .After all it often comes out of the blue and is the last thing on your mind .

I hope so much you have a good visit and things go well .Sometimes in hospital it can be a bit one step forward ,two back before things finally get on course .It wouldn't be unusual for it to be a bit of a roller coaster .

Flowers
AmyDudley · 20/07/2021 12:50

I'm so pleased your DH is starting to feel a little better now - I hope makes a very good recovery and is soon back home with you.
I've had sepsis and in some ways I think it was worse for my loved ones than for me - I was fairly out of things, all wired up, sedated and in ICU - while they had to do all the worrying.

I hope you don't feel this is intrusive, but I just wanted to make you aware of an organization called The Sepsis Trust. they have a website and lots of useful information. I had a few long term effects from my bout of sepsis (both physical and psychological - fatigue, insomnia, some memory problems etc) and I think it would have helped me to have had a bit more info about it all, so I thought it might be useful for you and your DH. Sending lots of good wishes to you both Flowers

harverina · 20/07/2021 13:59

I’m so glad you had some positive news and I bet you were thrilled to receive that text!

Hope you managed to see your DH this morning too.

Groovee · 20/07/2021 14:45

That sounds positive xx

icecreamgirl94 · 20/07/2021 15:55

I’ve been to see him and I got to hug and kiss him 😭😭 Best feeling in the world! He’s so weak but was so glad to see me. He’s responding well to antibiotics but there’s still a bit of concern over his kidney function which needs to be kept an eye on. I tried to take in everything I was told but it was all a bit overwhelming. I couldn’t stay too long as he needs to rest and he’s not really up for much conversation yet. He still doesn’t look well and he didn’t say much more than he misses us, he wants to see the baby and he feels like he’s been run over by a truck. But I think this is all heading in the right direction. I’ve cried more today than I have the last few days I just feel totally overwhelmed and grateful that he seems to be getting better. On Saturday night I genuinely thought he was going to die so thank you all so so much for your positive messages. I’ve barely had a minute to get anything done today and I have to take the baby to an appointment in a minute so I’ll reply to the recent messages when I can this evening. Thank you all so so much for all the support ❤️

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Frazzled2207 · 20/07/2021 16:00

brilliant news .It will have knocked him for six but part of that will be the drugs. Unfortunately the recovery could take a while but he will improve.

If he's awake and talking to you that's fab. Hopefully the kidney function issue can be sorted and that you can take the baby to visit him soon.

Suzysuz · 20/07/2021 16:02

That is great news and so glad you got to see him ❤️❤️❤️

JackieQueen · 20/07/2021 16:07

Oh such lovely news! I'm so glad he's improving! Flowersfor you. Bear for your little one!

MWestie · 20/07/2021 16:23

So happy to hear your news! Onwards and upwards. Best positive thoughts and good wishes to you all.

icecreamgirl94 · 20/07/2021 19:41

@Nancydrawn don’t worry that didn’t sound ominous at all, I understand what you meant. I’m glad to hear that your friend is ok.
@lobsterkiller thank you so much.
@LemonViolet thank you, he loved seeing the photos. He really wants to see DS in person and already doesn’t like that he’s missed so much even though it’s only been 5 days.
@Inthesameboat2 wow what an incredible story, thank you so so much for taking the time to share it. That really is a miracle. Your dad sounds amazing.
@peridito thank you so much. I think that’s exactly what it’s like, none of it seems real and I can’t believe he’s so ill but I’ve also been terrified of getting a call to say he’s deteriorated or worse. I know there’s still a long way to go but hopefully the worst is over.
@AmyDudley that’s not intrusive at all, thank you so much for telling me about it, it sounds like it’s going to be really helpful. Thank you so much. I’m glad you’re recovered from your illness now, I know exactly what you mean about it being worse for the family waiting for news. As far as I’m aware DP still doesn’t have much idea of what’s been going on so far.
@harverina thank you, yes the text was probably the best thing I’ve ever received from him.
@Frazzled2207 thank you so much, I know there’s still a long way to go but I’m fully prepared for that. At least there’s finally some positive signs. Hopefully he won’t have to stay in hospital for too much longer but if he’s in for a while yet then of course I’ll take the baby, I hate how much he’s missing him. They seemed a bit concerned but not really worried about his kidney function so fingers crossed that will sort itself out soon.
@Suzysuz @JackieQueen @MWestie thank you so much.
Thank you everyone, hopefully things will continue to improve.

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harverina · 20/07/2021 19:52

I’m so so glad you got to see him and give him a cuddle. I bet he absolutely loved that too. It definitely sounds like he is responding to the treatment - so although small steps, it’s wonderful to hear that they are steps in the right direction.

I think it’s natural that you’ve been more tearful today - actually being able to see him and kiss and cuddle him would have been incredibly emotional.

Sending you lots of strength and hugs OP

TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 20/07/2021 21:59

I’m so pleased for you! Do be prepared for it to hit you at some point, that’s normal. Sending positive thoughts. Glad you were able to see him today. X