Weird letter received

[Thegirlthatwanted2begod]

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

That “come back 2 me” line is just so creepy.

I don’t think it’s an affair. If it were it would be scoring an own goal as your OH would immediately suspect them.

Do you guys have loud arguments/sexehhh time/parties/hobbies? Perhaps someone in your building/neighbours are trying to passive-aggressively (c**ntishly) mess with you. Have you lived there long?

Sorry OP. I’d feel v unnerved by the weirdness. I’d definitely keep hold of it in case there are more weird pieces of correspondence.

That bit about 'come back to me' seems to indicate that the sender had, or thinks they had, some sort of relationship with your DH. And it appears that the only 'common denominator' (if it is one) is the use of an NHS envelope and your DH working for the NHS. Although I expect the NHS sends out enough written letters that it probably isn't that uncommon for someone to have an NHS envelope hanging about the house.

I don't know what you can do about this letter other than to hold onto it in case something similar shows up or there is some other attempt at contact. But if it's someone's idea of a 'prank' it certainly is in bad taste!

I think it is odd to include the http//
No one does that or uses that looking up a website.

Also, it is written to look like someone not very educated- textspeak- ur, 2, but it reads oddly as if it is trying to create that impression.

All of the things about the name, address, letter, envelope strike me as someone trying to look the opposite of who they are so that you won't suspect them.

I say that because a number of years ago I had 2 anonymous letters which were sent to me at work about my then just ex-partner, telling me he was screwing around and did not 'luv' me. They were bizarre- short, poor spelling, odd address with unusual errors in the content (dated language).

They turned out (I am pretty sure) to be from a woman at his job who must have had an absolute obsession with him. (They both worked at social services and I had met her a couple of times on nights out.) She was much older than us- about 18 years- and very loud with him, laughing lots at anything he said. We had joked about it at the time.

I discovered it was her because she had to send me some notes from a meeting about a year later and she made two of the same, very unusual errors in my job title and work address. I am sure it was her.

It’s clearly not from a charity and someone crazy. I would contact someone about it as someone is not right and enough to know he lives in that building.

@TheFoundations haha you aren't far wrong with what you have said!

I literally said "what the fuck is this?" He came over and he had the exact same reaction, he's as clueless as I. I did ask if there was something he needed to tell me but I am 100% sure he's as baffled as I am

@Womendohavevaginasnick without outing him, he's an advisor for a service within maternity

Could it be a letter campaign sent from the organisation,, possibly a mail shot?

A very, very unprofessional one if it is.

I think it's from someone who is mentally ill.

I had weird crap a bit like this from someone who was very ill and had to be sectioned. It was someone who had been a friend. Luckily they were doing other weird stuff so the police took it seriously.

Do you know anyone who might not be particularly stable?

Occam's razor - someone is sending this to their ex who is now in an abusive relationship. He/she/they want to get back with this person. They have googled/electoral rolled/192.com'd the ex partners name which is the same as your partner's name and sent it to the wrong person.

Are you in the Somerset/Bristol/surrounding area?

I agree with @LuluJakey1 it's trying too hard to be text speak and same with the address

@ThatsNotMyReindeer nope nowhere near the southwest

Yes what sort of role has he in the nhs?

@Saltyslug advisor for a service within maternity

My partner had some very long jumbled few letters from an ex of over 10 almost 15 years ago, no contact in all that time and suddenly she wanted to rekindle things. Turns out she had tried previously to his old address but she also changed her name twice. It became apparent she wasn't well and was actually sectioned but somehow still allowed to send letters and emails out. He had to contact the ward she was staying in in the end as she started trying to communicate through his work place too.
The case doctor obviously couldn't disclose much apart from confirm she was an in patient and had been sectioned. Thankfully his work were understanding but it did trigger some memos about personal communications through work channels!
Hope you get to the bottom of it OP as I know how unsettling it can be.

Could it be that someone has searched for a man with the same name as your husband and got the wrong person? Like maybe they're chatting to someone online, very creepy though 😳

Sounds as though it could be a patient then...

Could it be intended for someone who lives in another flat, and they just have the same surname?

@GiantWingedWaspMoth

But they don't identify themselves, so even if it went to the right address, the recipient wouldn't be sure it was that ex. If you were the sender and that's what you were doing, you'd have to sign it

Surely that's true regardless of whether it's a case of mistaken identity or not?

Yes. I was thinking more along the lines of whether it's a genuine affair partner, or just someone pulling an unpleasant prank that doesn't actually follow through.

It doesn't look like a genuine affair/ex to me, if the sender has fully neglected to sign it.

I'm trying to rule things out, rather than guess what it is.

Has he sacked anyone lately?

Anybody he doesn’t get on with at work? Any incidents with service users?

Come back to me implies it's an ex,
OR
someone who is fixated on your DH and in their minds they have had a previous relationship with him.

I'd be looking very closely at his work colleagues. Which one(s) would do something just a little bit more for him than all the others would?

Something like if he was slightly limping and told colleagues he'd sprained his knee, I'd expect several to offer verbal suggestions, but I'd be suspicious of the one who turned up with an actual knee brace and liniment.

Can he think of anyone at work who is maybe overly-helpful like that?

If you live in a flat, could there be a mischief maker living within the building? There are some real wierdos out there...

Anyone in work have a thing for him?

Seems like an ex who is convinced and/or trying to convince him that you're an abuser, and trying to get her to get back with him.

Wow, this is totally bizarre. I would feel quite unnerved about receiving something like that. I think you should definitely report to the police if you haven't already. There are some total weirdos out there!