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Weird letter received

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 20:47

DH received this letter in the post today in a used NHS envelope that was stuck down with sellotape. Both of us are stumped to why it's been sent as I've googled and Mankind doesn't look to be part of NHS and the number is correct but the message on the letter has freaked us out,

has anyone ever had anything similar to this?

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IMNOTSHOUTING · 06/07/2021 22:05

Could be some stupid joke, or someone who dislikes you rather than DH. Very odd indeed.

Rebeccasmoonnecklace · 06/07/2021 22:06

If I was you OP I would log this with 101 the Police non-emergency number. I would feel very uncomfortable if I received a letter with this content. This person clearly knows where you live and is trying to intimidate you and your husband. I really hope it is someone playing a joke, it’s a sick joke if they are though!

Is the envelope handwritten? Do you recognise the handwriting?

happinessischocolate · 06/07/2021 22:08

@Daydrambeliever

I would consider that my partner may have had an affair and told his affair partner that he was in an abusive relationship, then got cold feet and left them.

It is, to be honest, the only explanation apart from a seriously mentally ill person targeting your partner. But this is much less likely than someone having an affair.

It may be nothing but this would be my first suspicion and I would have to discount it before moving on.

But this could be exactly what the sender wants OP to think. Then they arrive on their white charger and sweep OP off her feet 🤷‍♀️
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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 22:08

@Rebeccasmoonnecklace none of it was handwritten name and address is typed and was showing through the window of the envelope. No identifying details on the Envelope at all apart from a Bristol P.O. Box number and the stamp was already franked as in prepaid

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TheDinosaurMum · 06/07/2021 22:08

My apologies guys I've had too many vinos. It's Tuesday I know but I don't care 😂

Cherryana · 06/07/2021 22:11

Assuming you are not an abuser and your husband hasn't had an affair and bared his soul about his abuse I think you can conclude a few things:

  1. The person who wrote it is not all there.
  2. They know some things but not a lot about your husbands personal details.
  3. They are either not from your area or are trying to cover up that they are from your area by using deliberately wrong localisms.
  4. It may be a one off - hold on to it, and see if another one comes. In the mean time get a camera doorbell or something like that.

I thank you thank you just call me Cherryana Sherlock!!

TheFoundations · 06/07/2021 22:11

NHS envelope and he works for NHS. That's interesting.

And, just on the 'is he having an affair' subject - did he see it first or did you? If he'd had an affair, he'd have squirreled the letter without showing you, if he could.

Rebeccasmoonnecklace · 06/07/2021 22:12

@Thegirlthatwanted2begod
I hope you get to the bottom of things. Must be worrying for you and your DH

TableFlowerss · 06/07/2021 22:13

How bizzare and quite concerning op. Let us know how you get on. Sounds like a nutter

Thewishingchair123 · 06/07/2021 22:13

It’s a strange piece of communication to send to someone if you are fixated on them.

For that reason I think it could be part of something wider, and I would make the police aware, primarily to establish if there have been any other similar letters.
I would also consider contacting Mankind to see if they are aware of anything similar.

If it’s not part of something wider, then it could be a prank. Are the other residents in your block of flats recent arrivals in the last couple of years? Has your husband moved jobs recently?

babbaloushka · 06/07/2021 22:14

Strange!

PasstheBucket89 · 06/07/2021 22:16

That letter is very creepy, might it be wise to flag it up with authorities?

GiantWingedWaspMoth · 06/07/2021 22:16

This is so weird!

How common is your surname? I'm wondering if sometime is trying to find an ex in the area and is looking up phone books etc for possible addresses, and the ex happens to have the same surname (and maybe initial?)

thewreckingcrew · 06/07/2021 22:17

[quote Thegirlthatwanted2begod]@HugeBowlofChips no he's NHS [/quote]
It's someone from his work then

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 22:18

@TheFoundations he brought it upstairs when he got home from work, and asked me to open it whilst he was in the shower as he genuinely thought it was his prepaid prescription certificate.

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Bigassbeebuzzbuzz · 06/07/2021 22:19

How odd. Unless you've had a loud argument recently and neighbours have heard but still that doesnt explain the "leave ur abuser and come back to me"

Gingerkittykat · 06/07/2021 22:19

Have you ever had loud arguments that could have led someone to jump to the conclusion you are abusive to him? I'm thinking a neighbour.

It doesn't account for the come back to me though.

Rubyrecka · 06/07/2021 22:21

That's creepy

TheFoundations · 06/07/2021 22:22

@GiantWingedWaspMoth

This is so weird!

How common is your surname? I'm wondering if sometime is trying to find an ex in the area and is looking up phone books etc for possible addresses, and the ex happens to have the same surname (and maybe initial?)

But they don't identify themselves, so even if it went to the right address, the recipient wouldn't be sure it was that ex. If you were the sender and that's what you were doing, you'd have to sign it. Probably with a pet name he'd called you. or your initials. Something he'd recognise, but nobody else would.

Is the letter or envelope marked in any other way, OP? Initials on the envelope, or anything?

JeansShirtJeansJacket · 06/07/2021 22:23

If it's addressed to him then presumably you didn't open it... rather, he opened it and has showed it to you? If so, that makes it seem unlikely it's an affair.

I think it's some nutter who wants to can use trouble between you and DH, and has made up some fantasy story in their head.

I would be getting a door cam so you can see who is putting stuff in your post box, and in case someone comes knocking at your door.

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Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 06/07/2021 22:23

@Bigassbeebuzzbuzz @Gingerkittykat

Nah no arguments, I do talk quite loud tho 🤣

The middle neighbours are the noisy ones with the toddler banging doors and furniture all the time, we are quiet as mice in comparison

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TheFoundations · 06/07/2021 22:24

[quote Thegirlthatwanted2begod]@TheFoundations he brought it upstairs when he got home from work, and asked me to open it whilst he was in the shower as he genuinely thought it was his prepaid prescription certificate. [/quote]
How did he respond when you said 'What the bleedin' hell's this, Barry??'

(I hope his name isn't actually Barry, or you'll be getting really paranoid)

Womendohavevaginasnick · 06/07/2021 22:24

What does he do in the NHS? Any chance of an obsessive patient who's followed him home?

susiebluebell · 06/07/2021 22:25

This was not what I should have read right before bed! Shock

GiantWingedWaspMoth · 06/07/2021 22:26

But they don't identify themselves, so even if it went to the right address, the recipient wouldn't be sure it was that ex. If you were the sender and that's what you were doing, you'd have to sign it

Surely that's true regardless of whether it's a case of mistaken identity or not?

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