What has someone done to make you see then in a different light

[NeedyNora]

General chat post. Curious.

Lovely, generous, normal seeming colleague and friend. Came around for dinner, all well until they’d had a few drinks, and then they would not stop harping on about conspiracy theories - 9/11 was a set up, Madeline McCann is a Tory Party cover up (didn’t really understand that one), the works. Would not allow subject to be changed.

They are such a kind and lovely person but I avoid being one on one with them now!

@TheMirrorofHerDreams I’m so sorry, that’s awful

Well I am fab, found a £1500 smart phone with credit card, driving license, money and some other stuff all slotted in phone case, walked round and handed it back. It belonged to a bloke who had just got a mobility scooter and it fell out of his pocket when he went up curb (so the thought was) his daughter rang when we were on our way round. Old bloke bought us an ice cream as a thankyou

@Ddot

Well I am fab, found a £1500 smart phone with credit card, driving license, money and some other stuff all slotted in phone case, walked round and handed it back. It belonged to a bloke who had just got a mobility scooter and it fell out of his pocket when he went up curb (so the thought was) his daughter rang when we were on our way round. Old bloke bought us an ice cream as a thankyou

On a similar note you reminded me of being on holiday and seeing a van come around the corner of the small seaside town and send a phone flying from its roof. Clearly he’d put the phone there and driven off.

Van was liveried so DD and I walked to the shop and handed it to the owners wife. It was an ice cream parlour. We ordered 2 ice creams. We were charged full price 😂

@FlowersinJune

My ex FIL. I always got the impression my inlaws looked down on me (much wealthier then my background).

During our divorce my ex said that a large deposit from my inlaws was a loan not a gift (and hence had to be deducted from the pot being split).

My FIL was asked if he wanted to be added as an intervener. He turned up at the hearing suited and booted, I presumed to lie and say “yes this was a loan”. He didn’t. He told the court what a wonderful daughter in law I was. How my ex was a fool and the deposit was a gift.

Wow! That has made me quite emotional

@Ddot

NeedyNora Thanks, not going to die, I've had op (unless it comes back) I'm in remission. Operation was crap and I lost an organ but I'm winning.

Get well soon @Ddot

a very religious, evangelical friend, always sunny smile and praise the lord type, had not been employed for 20 years.
was thinking of taking a part-time post with laura ashley. would have suited her, but being old-fashioned, she was not sure if it would be right to do so. she was concerned about her son coming home about an hour before she would. he was 16 at the time.
i tried to encourage her to take the job, pointing out that her son could well manage; i said that i had been ok after school alone at age 12. that was the wrong thing to say.
she immediately said, but i dont want my son turning out like you did.
i realised that perhaps i was more of a project than a friend for her.
she didn't take the job.

When we found a randoms mobile and went to some trouble to return it she wasn’t in the least bit grateful and started to instruct us as to where we had to bring the phone to her 🙄🙄🙄!

DoltAfraid
Very similar to my divorce, wealthy inlaws helped us out then wanted it back when I left. I paid it, wish I'd told them why I left their precious abusive greedy lazy arse shit of a son ( oh where did that come from ) 🤣

@Ddot

Well I am fab, found a £1500 smart phone with credit card, driving license, money and some other stuff all slotted in phone case, walked round and handed it back. It belonged to a bloke who had just got a mobility scooter and it fell out of his pocket when he went up curb (so the thought was) his daughter rang when we were on our way round. Old bloke bought us an ice cream as a thankyou

What were you expecting as a thank you?

Someone I know saved a persons life when they collapsed. He gave them mouth to mouth and CPR until the ambulance arrived. He was known to the person he saved because they were at the same sports club.
By way of thanks, my friend got...an email saying thanks!

@Pinuporc what more was your friend expecting than “thank you”?

A thankyou card is nice not an email or even a thankyou in person if possible covid permitting

CatherineAragon
Actually nothing! I was saying how nice of him to buy us an icecream.
What are you trying to say, do you see nasty in everthing

@GreenBlood

It would have to be my sister. My mum is terminally ill with lung cancer and all my life she favoured my younger sister. I never got new clothes...I remember having 10p to buy a skirt in a jumble sale while my sister got brand new clothes. She got perfume, toiletries...I didn't even have a deodorant.😢 I wore the same school uniform from second year to upper sixth and it STANK. My sister is five inches shorter than me and one day when I was in Upper Sixth and she was in Fifth Year and she was ill, I wore her uniform and it fit like a dream. I felt so good that ONE day.

Now mum is sick she is nowhere. I care for mum 24/7 and do everything....my sis has visited two times this year despite living just half an hour away. And still mum talks to her over the phone to her whereas...I get no chat at all.

It is very difficult to accept.

Greenblood. You are one of life’s good people. I don’t think I could what you do. This situation is quite common and is extremely sad

A horrible old snob I know of.
When the Grenfell Tower disaster happened, he mused that 'perhaps all those poor people died out because they were too fat to squeeze out'.He didn't mean 'poor' as in tragic, he meant poor as in bad diet, obese.(because all financially poor people make bad food choices, apparently).
Yet, over the last 5 years, has been happy for a disabled single Mother of two disabled kids who is on benefits to pay for his (admittedly inexpensive) lunch / coffees a few times a year when they meet up.
He used to work in Govt. He is 'old School' Tory, apparently.

@52andblue

A horrible old snob I know of. When the Grenfell Tower disaster happened, he mused that 'perhaps all those poor people died out because they were too fat to squeeze out'.He didn't mean 'poor' as in tragic, he meant poor as in bad diet, obese.(because all financially poor people make bad food choices, apparently). Yet, over the last 5 years, has been happy for a disabled single Mother of two disabled kids who is on benefits to pay for his (admittedly inexpensive) lunch / coffees a few times a year when they meet up. He used to work in Govt. He is 'old School' Tory, apparently.

My ex husbands family (and him) are all like that. We lived close to the tower block, could see it from the end of the street.

My ex husband sent me a really nasty text when it hit the news saying “ha - could have been you in there if housing benefit and my money* weren’t paying for your shoebox!”

He was laughing over the fact his own son could have lived there even it burned.

(*maintainance that was way under what he should have paid from his massive salary and a tiny housing benefit too up as me and dh were both working, but london was bloody expensive, but let’s not let that get in the way of being a bellend).

*as it burned.

@Arsebucket - wow - clearly there are more like him.
The people who lived and died in that tower are less 'human' somehow than they are for it to be a source of puzzlement / humour. Horrible.

[quote 52andblue]@Arsebucket - wow - clearly there are more like him.
The people who lived and died in that tower are less 'human' somehow than they are for it to be a source of puzzlement / humour. Horrible.[/quote]
It was terrible at the time. Hearing people’s unfounded opinions of families and individuals who lived and sadly died there hurt beyond belief. So many misconceptions and prejudice. It made me so angry.

@Arsebucket
Horrible old snob lives in London (Lambeth)
I don't but I can well imagine how it would feel to live in the area / community and hear such vile things being said. It was manslaughter imo. Where you live is rarely a mark of character, usually luck has a lot to do with it (right family, right time, being in the right place) as well as work. I'm sorry you had to listen to that.

@Homebird8

I was told by a friend that children born from IVF didn’t have souls. I have never been able to get over that.

My DF made a horrible remark about the Grenfell victims too.
It didn't change how I thought of him as I already know he's a racist, misogynistic snob, but he is my DF and in his 80s so he won't change. I definitely wouldn't be his friend if we weren't related.

[quote DemBonesDemBones]@Batsy but how would you be a Godmother if you're Pagan? [/quote]
I suppose Pan is also a god . . .

@PearlNextDoor

Wow, yes, it's a huge moral failing that I care more about vulnerable people than I care about animals.

It's not a competition, Pearl.