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What has someone done to make you see then in a different light

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NeedyNora · 06/07/2021 07:36

General chat post. Curious.

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Needapoodle · 09/07/2021 21:39

Good thread apart from the fucking boring derail in the middle about who is the better person and who cares more about animals or humans. Nobody cares.

pam290358 · 09/07/2021 22:17

@Needapoodle. Have you noticed that these ‘feuds’ are appearing more and more on MN. A few really interesting threads have been removed when this type of thing happens.

Needapoodle · 10/07/2021 08:03

pam290358

Yeah it's getting really common sadly. Grown women arguing about who is the better person, while having a fight with a stranger on an internet forum.

ElvishFun · 10/07/2021 08:20

@longwayoff

A friendly school mum two kids, offered me and my two a lift home. Hurrah, thanks. Drove like a woman possessed. En route, a driver pulled in front of her and she hit him, just a slight knock. They both stopped, she leapt from the car and grabbing him by his collar bent him back against the bonnet screaming "My children are in the car you **er". He stuttered an apology, she calmed down and we left. I was beyond shocked. She was a vicar's wife.
This is quite shocking.
PandemicPalava · 10/07/2021 08:35

My friend bought a prong collar for her dog. I can't get past it. Poor pup

longwayoff · 10/07/2021 08:50

Elvishfun, yes, it was. Decided to walk in future.

FakeColinCaterpillar · 10/07/2021 09:17

One of my best friends. Met husband first day of uni and got married literally after they graduated.
They were too young. This carries on for more years. She pushes to have a baby even though he’s not keen. They aren’t happy and from my point of view it’s quite a sad/dull marriage, baby makes this worse not better.

He tells her he has feelings for someone at work but has done nothing. She goes ballistic. They split, get back together, have marriage counselling, he changes job.
Eventually they do split because they are both so unhappy.

She moves with his permission that he will still see son, she meets someone else gets married says she is much happier and admits first marriage was miserable and a mistake. Ex married other woman also much happier.

She has spent 10 years making life as difficult as possible for ex. She has totally destroyed relationship with their son. She can’t let it go. Son is 18 now and so they need no contact but her constant hatred and venom is ridiculous. We aren’t friends anymore. He did her a massive favour when one of her parents was dying and she literally treated him like dirt over it.

Also my SIL who I thought was a sensible person. There was a small falling out between MIL and BIL (his fault) and she fuelled it into a massive falling out. MIL was very poorly in the last few months and SIL went round once. At funeral she told everyone she had cared for her day and night.

IReallyLikeCrows · 10/07/2021 20:07

@Marriedatfirstyear, thank you, that means a lot.

NeedyNora · 11/07/2021 08:53

Wow. Loving all (most of 😳) these replies.

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Ddot · 11/07/2021 09:19

Mate said he wished he could have my illness so he could loose weight. I'm going through hell with it

Thisbastardcomputer · 11/07/2021 09:40

My father's family, it was built on snobbery and we are better than anyone else, successful business owners, business started by grandad.

Uncle died leaving no will, suddenly and unexpectedly, Father had died 10 years previously, uncle was a bachelor. When sorting out his estate forgot to mention to solicitor there had been another brother who was deceased and whose children were entitled to his share of the estate.

We found out by a friend of Uncles who was helping sort stuff out, letting us know their intentions.

NeedyNora · 11/07/2021 10:22

@Ddot

Mate said he wished he could have my illness so he could loose weight. I'm going through hell with it
WTF. Some people are so stupid. Hope you are getting the help you need. Sending hugs.
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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 11/07/2021 12:28

Thisbastardcomputer

Shockingly, this is a far from uncommon viewpoint - that a deceased sibling's children should be entitled to nothing from their grandparents, as the living 'link' has gone. The surviving brothers may (worryingly) have not believed that they did anything wrong or unethical at all.

I wonder if the (very flawed) logic is that their children will get nothing, so why should their nieces or nephews? Obviously, completely ignoring the fact that their own children will benefit from the wealth in their own lifetimes and/or after the death of their parents, whereas for the people who have already lost a parent at an early age (predeceasing their own parent), that's their one and only opportunity to claim their family's fair share of the inheritance. In fact, there's nothing whatsoever legally or morally preventing the inheriting parent from immediately giving the whole lot straight on to their own children.

This is more common with blended families, where the surviving spouse instantly cuts any financial ties with their late spouse's children and ensures that the death of their parent means that they will never see any of their parent's money - keeping it all for themselves and then leaving the lot to their own children.

Nigel Havers and Lynda Bellingham's widower made some 'interesting' financial choices along these lines, which may not be completely congruous with most people's ideas of basic fairness.

awaynboilyurheid · 11/07/2021 12:51

Just on a blogger page I sometimes dip into to follow fashion tips, and she is complaining that she has to isolate for two weeks as her son tested positive, and how she was infantilised by the track and trace caller when they contacted her.
She really belittled them in a way that it was as if they were clueless then moaned about not being able to walk her dog or keep up her fitness routine.

If that’s the only shadow in her supposedly as she portrays it, gilded lifestyle, then she’s really got nothing to complain about . No one in her family died or or got long COVID, Luckily she can still post pictures of herself, insert eye roll, I will not be following her not that she’ll be worried as she seems to have plenty sycophantic followers saying how tough that must be!

Marriedatfirstyear · 11/07/2021 14:05

@awaynboilyurheid

Just on a blogger page I sometimes dip into to follow fashion tips, and she is complaining that she has to isolate for two weeks as her son tested positive, and how she was infantilised by the track and trace caller when they contacted her. She really belittled them in a way that it was as if they were clueless then moaned about not being able to walk her dog or keep up her fitness routine.

If that’s the only shadow in her supposedly as she portrays it, gilded lifestyle, then she’s really got nothing to complain about . No one in her family died or or got long COVID, Luckily she can still post pictures of herself, insert eye roll, I will not be following her not that she’ll be worried as she seems to have plenty sycophantic followers saying how tough that must be!

Wrong thread @awaynboilyurheid?
Ddot · 11/07/2021 16:10

NeedyNora
Thanks, not going to die, I've had op (unless it comes back) I'm in remission. Operation was crap and I lost an organ but I'm winning.

awaynboilyurheid · 11/07/2021 16:33

married no, just see her in a different light now lol !

Marriedatfirstyear · 11/07/2021 16:38

@awaynboilyurheid

married no, just see her in a different light now lol !
Sorry, my bad, already on the vino 😅. That's pretty selfish of her.
awaynboilyurheid · 11/07/2021 18:06

No worries! Just angered me that the only thing was she and family had to self isolate, yet others are saying what a horrible time she’s had! And it’s as if I’ve seen a very different selfish side to her in the usual blog, it’s all about woe is me when so many have had a hellish year! Anyhoo, rant over! Enjoy your vino!

Newestname001 · 11/07/2021 18:09

@Clevererthanyou

I lived with my friend for more than a month when he was dumped by his girlfriend of 8 years, she was his carer so he was left completely vulnerable and alone (he was severely disabled). I missed my milestone wedding anniversary, my child's birthday etc and I didn't see my home, husband, child, pets for weeks on end as my friend was waiting for his mum and dad to get better from being unwell to take over the care. He asked me one day to get him his phone from the conservatory and he had left it unlocked, he said "Has Sarah text me back?" so I looked and she hadn't but somebody I had never met before HAD text him back, he had explained via text he had been dumped and that he couldn't believe it, then he wrote "To make things worse, CLEVERER is here, eurgh, I cannot stand her and I would rather have anyone here but her. the fat bald fucker lololol" and the horrible comments went on and on and on. He barked orders at me day and night, I scrubbed his house and cooked his dinner, bought his food and ironed his clothes and I even accepted him berating me for doing everything wrong. It hasn't just changed the way I see him but I don't trust anybody in my life now, if people can be all smiles and then spew vile comments like that I would rather be alone.
What @PieceOfString said, ie:

wow! I have no idea how I would react in reality, but I'd be tempted to read that text to him, tell him you will improve things by leaving so he doesn't have to put up with me any more, call social services and explain he's got no help and leave. That's shocking!

What a very ungrateful and vile person. No wonder he'd been dumped if that's the way he treated his GF/carer. I hope you've crossed him off the list of people you have in your life. 🌹

Tehmina23 · 11/07/2021 19:29

A patient who seemed like a nice lady (no MH issues, no dementia, no excuse) said as part of a conversation about our hometowns 'I moved from X place when they turned X building into a large Mosque.'

Clearly not such a nice lady.

Thisbastardcomputer · 11/07/2021 19:53

@MsTSwift

I was ill - properly ill with real flu. Dh had it too dd1 was 9 months we physically couldn’t look after her. My parents travelling my sisters working dh parents never help. We couldn’t ask friends. I rang my aunt who sent her husband my uncle by marriage. He drove 40 miles took dd and i back to their house then he (not my aunt) looked after the baby for 3 days until I was well enough to myself. Such a quiet proper man who I never really knew very well but my god he came through for us when needed!
Brilliant what a man x
SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/07/2021 19:16

@ScreamingMeMe

How would they have got the money back to the original person (if they’d already left)?. I’m not condoning it but I don’t know how they could have done it.

The person whose money or was could have gone back to the Post Office to see if someone had done the decent thing and handed it in.

Exactly!

There would be records of transaction times and amounts. The person could easily have been traced.

Ddot · 14/07/2021 20:39

It happened to my friends ( left money in machine) he was lucky it sucked it back in. He had to wait a while but he got it back.

COPPER3 · 14/07/2021 21:07

Can I add here and not trying to make myself out to be a hero or anything, but the same happened to me in a bank. The person in front of me, took their card, but not their money! I took the money to the cashier and explained what had happened. Yes I could have got away with it, but I always think people work hard for their money, so it means a lot!

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