My husband died suddenly today

[vickibee]

And I don’t know what to do. It has not sunk in yet and I only know it happened at work around noon.
I don’t know if there is anyone up to talk to I just feel I need some human contact

So sorry for the sudden loss of your husband.

Vicki I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man, I admire his work ethic so much. You are hopefully fast asleep but I wanted to add to the support and offer a hand to hold x

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your mind must be going 10 to the dozen but remember the advice others have given, forget everything else and concentrate on getting through each hour looking after both yourself and your son. You can do this 💐

I'm so so sorry for you and your DC. No other words really bu that is so awful for you. X

I’m so sorry for your loss

Vickibee So very sorry for your loss. If you need someone to chat to feel free to PM me about anything, any time of day or night. I used to talk to you on Goose and Carrot threads as I have a DS with ASD who is 14 too and a 15 year old DD, possibly under a different name. And if you feel up to it come back to the Goose and Carrot.

I'm not an expert on what happens with no wills but I looked it up a few months back when doctors thought my DH may have cancer (thankfully he doesn't) and I think it should all go to you and your DS:
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/death-and-wills/who-can-inherit-if-there-is-no-will-the-rules-of-intestacy/

Thinking of you both

I’m so terribly sorry to hear this. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man. You and your son will get through this but it’s so sad and difficult. I’m just so sorry.

Oh my, I am so sorry for your loss and shock.

Definitely one minute, one hour at a time. Please take everything slowly.

My heart goes out to you & your DS.

I’m so sorry, Vicki. I hope you managed to get some sleep. Do you have someone who can help with the practicalities? It can be helpful if someone else does this - telling the bank etc.

I am so very sorry for your loss x

I am terribly sorry Vicki. It does take a while to sink in, it's such a shock.
I'm glad your sister and friends came over.
Please do take care of yourself, eating, drinking etc, even if you have little appetite.

I hope you get some sleep. x

I'm so sorry.

Sudden death is particularly difficult to deal with. Please look after yourself over the coming days and weeks - the shock can affect you physically as well as mentally. It will sink it and you will feel better in the future but for now, take a day at a time (hour at a time if need be).

The following website helped me through:

sudden.org

It'll take time, but you will get through this

I’m back I have had 1 hour 18 mins of sleep
, I just can’t stop thinking it over in my mind, I feel angry that he has gone and I am sat here in floods of tears with a cup of tea . In front of me I’d the Father’s Day card from our son which he treasured.
My sis said he told her all the time how much he loved us both.

I am so sorry to hear this and much love to you and your son.

I am going through something a little similar and I understand how you must be feeling right now.

I am glad you have support and I hope you get some sleep x

I am so, so sorry for your loss Vicki.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and thinking of you and your family xxx

I'm so sorry. You will be in deep shock and grieving and have to take one day at a time. Try and eat even just tiny amounts and let your sister look after you and DS.

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP 💐.

Totally understandable you can't sleep.

You've given such lovely details about him, I bet he knew how much he was loved. Who can ask for more than that?

Thinking of you.

Thinking of you - keep sharing your thoughts if it helps

I’m so sorry for your loss, your husband sounds lovely. Best wishes to you and your son.

I'm sorry for your sudden loss

It sounds so hard, and as someone else says it sounds as though you had a really good, honest marriage in which you truly loved and valued each other including all the human complexity.

I'll be thinking of you and your son (I have a son the same age)

I am so sorry for your loss, thinking about you and hope you’re okay xxx

Thinking of you both 🌺

@vickibee
I am so sorry to read such sad news, talk as much as you want about him, my heart goes out to you and your son.

We met in a late bar in Halifax. We got chatting and something clicked

I’m from Halifax, I met my DH in a late bar in Halifax and we also got married in 1998, we were probably all in the same bars at the same time 💜

Thinking of you. My Dad does in similar circumstances and the shock is something that is so hard at the moment for you. Like you can't believe it's real.

He sounds like an amazing, resilient man. One who loves his family so very much. We are all here for you xxxx