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My husband died suddenly today

478 replies

vickibee · 06/07/2021 01:57

And I don’t know what to do. It has not sunk in yet and I only know it happened at work around noon.
I don’t know if there is anyone up to talk to I just feel I need some human contact

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ItsSnowJokes · 06/07/2021 05:57

*died not does.

TheBuggerlugs · 06/07/2021 05:57

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Elspethelf · 06/07/2021 05:58

You have all my love

vickibee · 06/07/2021 06:02

@ladypenelope68

What a coincidence. We moved to South Yorkshire, he called it the dark side. Was it the coliseum by any chance

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sazza76 · 06/07/2021 06:08

I am so very sorry for your loss, there will always be people here for you. He sounds like a wonderful man who loved his family as much as his family loved him.

LadyPenelope68 · 06/07/2021 06:09

@vickibee

It most certainly was the Coliseum! 😀

Hopeisnotastrategy · 06/07/2021 06:11

So sorry to read this my love. Sending a gentle hand hold. 💐

Bluntness100 · 06/07/2021 06:12

I’m so sorry op. 💐

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 06/07/2021 06:13

Oh @vickibee, I'm so sorry to read of this.
Similar happened to a friend of mine a few years back, except it was epilepsy (friend's husband had apparently been neglecting his meds :( ) and she and the kids were much younger - horrible shock all round.

Take as much help as is offered, you might be surprised who steps up and who backs away. I'm glad your sister is with you.

Your husband sounds like a lovely man.

ivykaty44 · 06/07/2021 06:37

I’m so sorry for your loss

As a family we had a death last year and although not sudden it was a 3 month terminal illness from diagnosis to passing.

Gp doctor was wonderful and offered numbers to call for help

I concentrated on the practice stuff to keep me going. Not having a will does make stuff a bit more difficult but you’ll be ok.

Don’t worry about not eating, make sure you have plenty to drink though

In a gentle way, with it being a sudden death will the coroner be involved? This will possibly delay the death certificate and funeral

Please don’t get ripped off with funeral expenses, friend of mine checked out 4 undertakers in town and there was £2000 difference in the price for the same funeral. See if you can find an independent or get a recommendation. You don’t have to spend more than £3000. It’can seem crude at this time to think about these things but large companies can make extras. We want the best for our lived ones but that does mean paying over the odds.

Take care of your son but allow him to take care of you, be there for each other for cuddles and walks. Take each day jyst hour by hour

Debbidee · 06/07/2021 06:39

So sorry for your loss Flowers

Wineat5isfine · 06/07/2021 06:46

So very sorry for your loss and for the awful way in which you found out 💐

Unescorted · 06/07/2021 06:49

Sending you our love Flowers

He sounds a real inspirational person, not letting a poor start get in the way of carving out a happy life. You speak with such warmth and love about him.

Punxsutawney · 06/07/2021 06:51

Vicki have talked to you before on SN threads. So sorry to hear such sad news 💐

Chanel05 · 06/07/2021 06:52

So sorry for your loss Thanks

Shorthairlady · 06/07/2021 06:54

So sorry for your loss. X

Cailin66 · 06/07/2021 06:59

Morning Vicki it’s lovely you telling us about your husbands story his journey and his life with you good or bad, sounds like a living strong marriage which has its ups and downs like all marriages. Your husband sounds so wonderful, so loving and caring, yes it will be devastating for you now, but you have a part of him your son, and you’ll always have him in your heart. Do find clothing that smells of him. And I also second the phone recording. When my mother died I used to phone her number to hear her voice. One time I told my sister and she had the phone line cut off which upset me greatly. She didn’t do it to be nasty though, she was probably thinking I’d lost the plot. Don’t make any rash decisions now, take your time.

vickibee · 06/07/2021 06:59

@punxsutawney
Yes I believe we have talked on sen threads
I wish I’d said I loved him more often and being kinder to him.I think he knows I did even though we had some quite heated arguments.

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SunshineCake · 06/07/2021 07:03

I am so sorry to read this vickibee Flowers.

I used to go to school in Halifax and I can just tell your lovely DH was a Northerner ❤️.

Fruit shakes are a good idea, you need the strength to face the day and to care for your son and yourself. Your dh has given you all the love you need to do this Flowers.

EssentialHummus · 06/07/2021 07:05

Sending love to you and your family Flowers

Standrewsschool · 06/07/2021 07:08

Sorry for your loss

FabulouslyFab · 06/07/2021 07:09

So sorry to hear this news. My heart breaks for you both. Sending strength for you to get through the next days. Xx

RealhousewifeofStoke · 06/07/2021 07:11

I am so sorry OP. What an awful shock. He sounds like a great man Smile

vickibee · 06/07/2021 07:17

Does it mean with restrictions going that we can have a real funeral with all his friends and family there. I dearly hope so.

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rainbowstardrops · 06/07/2021 07:20

So sorry for your loss Thanks