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Would you rather have another baby or a bigger house?

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HitsAndMrs · 29/06/2021 19:55

I have 2 children and would like a third but it means we would have to wait a few more years to move to a bigger house. We have enough rooms but need more space.
We could give out DDs a big house with their own bedroom or we could have another child and experience the joy that comes with that.
I know this is a personal subjective question but wanted to see what you would do? For the record, my DDs would like another child! (We had a loss which they often talk about)

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HitsAndMrs · 29/06/2021 21:00

Anyone?

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MagnoliatheMagnificent · 29/06/2021 21:16

Have another baby, no contest.

TheMotherlode · 29/06/2021 21:27

We faced the same choice when deciding whether to have a second. We choose to have a second baby and will wait a few years to move house. It’ll be a squeeze in our current house but we’ll manage.

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TheMotherlode · 29/06/2021 21:29

It’s actually been a really good incentive for us to have a good clear out, get rid of a lot of stuff, and get some decent storage in place. it’s amazing how much less space you actually need when you use it well.

speakout · 29/06/2021 21:29

Bigger house.

HitsAndMrs · 29/06/2021 21:30

Thank you so much!

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CoffeeRunner · 29/06/2021 21:30

We had the baby, although for us it was our third.

We have a smallish 3 bed house & now the youngest is almost 10 it does feel kind of crowded.

Verbena87 · 29/06/2021 21:31

Baby, but we’ve always been pushed for space and managed (tiny flat, tiny cottage, another tiny cottage)

Squicknick · 29/06/2021 21:32

Baby!!! No house can compare to the joy

Maggiesfarm · 29/06/2021 21:32

Buy a bigger house before considering having another baby.

Slothbynameandnature · 29/06/2021 21:33

House.

Chunkymenrock · 29/06/2021 21:34

House. No question. There are too many people in the world already.

Slothbynameandnature · 29/06/2021 21:35

@Squicknick

Baby!!! No house can compare to the joy
Oh yes it can Grin
WunWun · 29/06/2021 21:35

A bigger house, without a doubt.

HitsAndMrs · 29/06/2021 21:36

It is kind of the baby or the house to be honest. It's now or never with a baby due to the age gap, my eldest is 10.

A house could come in the future so in the next few years I could have both but for now it's baby or bigger house

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WaterBottle123 · 29/06/2021 21:36

House. Children bring purpose rather than happiness and two is sufficient for that

annacondom · 29/06/2021 21:36

Wouldn't have more than two dch because there are enough people on this planet already, but also I like my three bed house. So, neither :) If house too small, house.

Mustardbay · 29/06/2021 21:37

House

GettingItOutThere · 29/06/2021 21:38

well i am done with babies! so house!

I think 2 is a lovely number, so house

LizJamIsFab · 29/06/2021 21:41

If it was a tie between the 2 I’d pick the house. You can’t want another so much if you can even consider it.

Comedycook · 29/06/2021 21:43

As the parent in that situation, a bigger house definitely.

As a child, I'd have chosen the extra sibling

allycat4 · 29/06/2021 21:44

Baby!!

funnyoldonion · 29/06/2021 21:48

House but it sounds like you want the baby so go for it!

HitsAndMrs · 29/06/2021 21:49

I do want another but I'm also thinking about it with my head and not just my heart.

Thank you all.

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PepsiMax91 · 29/06/2021 21:51

Bigger house but we live in a box. 3 single bedrooms, no upstairs bathroom, downstairs is (the only) tiny bathroom front room and a kitchen. I freaking long for an upstairs toilet or an extra room downstairs. We don't even have cupboards for hoover/mop!

Still had 3 kids though!

Id absolutely love another baby but it would never work where we currently live.

Sounds like you have enough space to consider it though ?

We pushed it to our limit and our children know no different in terms of space. Only us adults do!

We do have a lovely large garden though which helps.

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