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Another parent unkind to my baby

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HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 15:23

I just want to rant about this if that's ok. I was at an outdoor performance for babies today (under 1's). We sat in bubbles on little circles on the grass and watched the show. Babies were encouraged to be themselves, make baby noises, clap, cry or whatever but parents were encouraged to try to keep babies inside the circles until the short show was over, after which there'd be a free play session where they could crawl about.

A mum and dad sat behind us and their little girl (who was wearing a tutu) was walking all around the set of the performance, going right up to the actors, picking up props etc and wandering through the audience. Her parents didn't try and get her, they just sat back looking really smug proud. (To be fair her walking was very advanced). All the other parents kept their babies inside their circles, so why couldn't they?

My little boy was, at first, glued to the performance, giggling and loving it, but as soon as he saw the little girl walking all over the stage he stopped focusing on the show and was itching to crawl over there as well. He's loves going up to other babies whenever he can. So we had to keep pulling him back with us which was frustrating as before she appeared he had been watching the show.

After the show, they let the babies explore freely. My son is 11 months and crawls and also bum shuffles everywhere at the moment. He started excitedly bum shuffling over to other babies. I thought bum shuffling was quite common for babies but he got lots of comments from other parents like "wow look at him go" and "that's a novel way to get around!" All said warmly and kindly.

Then my baby shuffled over to tutu baby's parents and I noticed the dad was watching my son with the most horrible expression on his face. He was shaking his head incredulously and sort of sniggering with a half disgusted look on his face, and started pointing out my son's bum shuffling to his wife/partner and making a sort of mocking face. He then caught me looking at him and quickly switched to a smile. All the while my gorgeous little boy was cheerfully heading over to them with a big smile in a lovely trusting way and was looking right at the dad! Sad

I felt such a surge of protectiveness over my son I had to bite my lip! It really made me sad. Of course my son didn't notice or understand but I can't believe a grown man could behave like that towards a little baby!!

I'm still seething and it was hours ago!!! I guess the playground politics starts now!

post edited by MNHQ in order to remove disablist term

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Guavafish · 23/06/2021 22:14

You seem very sensitive… maybe because your child was one of a few bottom shufflers

If you had a problem with the man, why didn’t you say something to him at the time?

HalzTangz · 23/06/2021 22:50

@HotelTowels

Haha I knew someone would make a bitchy comment about the tutu! I judged them after what happened, when writing this post by adding the tutu reference. That's after the man was very consciously unkind about my baby (nothing absent-minded about it).
You judged them before, otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned the girl walking around
Suzi888 · 23/06/2021 22:55

Complete non event Confused

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Ohmygoshandfolly · 24/06/2021 07:51

I was a bum shuffler and I never bothered crawling. My Mum’s always said if there’s an easier way of doing things, I’d always manage to find it Grin. I think it’s Bill Gates who once admitted to hiring lazy people because they get the job done quicker. Nothing wrong with bum shuffling! It’s adorable. The man sounds like a ginormous prick, they shouldn’t have let their child run around when asked not to as well.

Not sure I understand the tutu reference though, are tutus a faux pas?

Soubriquet · 24/06/2021 08:01

I think bum shufflers have it more worked out than crawlers tbh

I mean, they can move AND hold things at the same time.

Crawlers can’t Grin

intheenddoesitreallymatter · 24/06/2021 10:52

What a tosser, you should have politely challenged him if he really was making a mocking idiot face.

A short 'is there a problem?' is usually very impactful.

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