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Another parent unkind to my baby

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HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 15:23

I just want to rant about this if that's ok. I was at an outdoor performance for babies today (under 1's). We sat in bubbles on little circles on the grass and watched the show. Babies were encouraged to be themselves, make baby noises, clap, cry or whatever but parents were encouraged to try to keep babies inside the circles until the short show was over, after which there'd be a free play session where they could crawl about.

A mum and dad sat behind us and their little girl (who was wearing a tutu) was walking all around the set of the performance, going right up to the actors, picking up props etc and wandering through the audience. Her parents didn't try and get her, they just sat back looking really smug proud. (To be fair her walking was very advanced). All the other parents kept their babies inside their circles, so why couldn't they?

My little boy was, at first, glued to the performance, giggling and loving it, but as soon as he saw the little girl walking all over the stage he stopped focusing on the show and was itching to crawl over there as well. He's loves going up to other babies whenever he can. So we had to keep pulling him back with us which was frustrating as before she appeared he had been watching the show.

After the show, they let the babies explore freely. My son is 11 months and crawls and also bum shuffles everywhere at the moment. He started excitedly bum shuffling over to other babies. I thought bum shuffling was quite common for babies but he got lots of comments from other parents like "wow look at him go" and "that's a novel way to get around!" All said warmly and kindly.

Then my baby shuffled over to tutu baby's parents and I noticed the dad was watching my son with the most horrible expression on his face. He was shaking his head incredulously and sort of sniggering with a half disgusted look on his face, and started pointing out my son's bum shuffling to his wife/partner and making a sort of mocking face. He then caught me looking at him and quickly switched to a smile. All the while my gorgeous little boy was cheerfully heading over to them with a big smile in a lovely trusting way and was looking right at the dad! Sad

I felt such a surge of protectiveness over my son I had to bite my lip! It really made me sad. Of course my son didn't notice or understand but I can't believe a grown man could behave like that towards a little baby!!

I'm still seething and it was hours ago!!! I guess the playground politics starts now!

post edited by MNHQ in order to remove disablist term

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HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 15:57

@roguetomato

I think you are seeing more into it maybe because you feel competitive because the girl was walking confidently, while yours was bum shuffling? If you stop comparing, maybe you might feel better.
Honestly no! I love my sons method of transporting himself. I've never been competitive with milestones. He will be ready for each step in his own time.

But they did selfishly allow their daughter to spoil the performance for other babies.

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HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 15:58

It was just a rant guys. Like I said at the start!

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Strokethefurrywall · 23/06/2021 15:59

God that was a lot of back story…

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LyndaSnellsSniff · 23/06/2021 15:59

Are you sure you didn’t say anything out loud about their lack of parenting when their daughter was wandering about in stage? If so I’m wondering if they overheard you and this was their “pay back”? 🤷🏻‍♀️

BigButtons · 23/06/2021 15:59

bloody hell- what a ridiculous palaver for children under one. OP- seriously if this is winding you up then you are in for a hell of a ride when you child gets older.

Psychonabike · 23/06/2021 15:59

Yes the playground politics start early and by the tone of your post you'll be perpetuating it.

Honestly, people who aren't into playground politics don't notice any of the stuff you have described in great detail.

Delicatesubjectsadly · 23/06/2021 16:00

Because she’s not at ballet and it probably looked ridiculous..it’s not like she would have Asked to wear it

Strokethefurrywall · 23/06/2021 16:00

I can almost guarantee that the other babies didn’t give a shit about the performance being ruined, because they were distracted by another baby in a tutu.
They’re babies. They live to be distracted.

HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 16:00

@Delicatesubjectsadly

Because she’s not at ballet and it probably looked ridiculous..it’s not like she would have Asked to wear it
Haha!
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HotelTowels · 23/06/2021 16:01

@Strokethefurrywall

I can almost guarantee that the other babies didn’t give a shit about the performance being ruined, because they were distracted by another baby in a tutu. They’re babies. They live to be distracted.
It was a shame though that they allowed her to do that after the staff asked parents not to.
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RickiTarr · 23/06/2021 16:01

Babies and toddlers wear old kinds of dress up or party clothes, that might not be another parent’s taste. Best to get out of the habit about being acidic about that before the toddler years hit.

NeedNewKnees · 23/06/2021 16:02

The family you’re being judgey about were judgey back?

Pick your battles, OP. This isn’t one of them.

RickiTarr · 23/06/2021 16:02

All kinds^

Lipsandlashes · 23/06/2021 16:03

You didn't need to mention the tutu at all. You'll meet loads of arsehole parents over the years, I'm sorry to say.

MsTSwift · 23/06/2021 16:05

Wait til they are 12 and their entire friendship group dumps them

IHaveBrilloHair · 23/06/2021 16:05

Ooooh, you're in for a lot of angst.
Please update us often.

BigButtons · 23/06/2021 16:05

how on earth can babies undergone be expected to do do an anything but free play? Is this competitive parenting shit or something>?it is literally pointlesss to think they will get anything out of a show, pointless- all they need to do is play, eat, drink be a good temperature, have a cuddle when they want one and their dirty nappies changed and sleep when they are tried. The rest is bollocks.. they don't care. it's only the parents who do.

junipertree2 · 23/06/2021 16:05

Just a moron who thinks that his kid's precocity reflects well on him, OP.
Most babies don't walk until 12-13 months, my youngest was 15 months but he grew up by far the quickest and most independent. Walking age means FECK ALL. Forget him.

Knitwit101 · 23/06/2021 16:06

You can rant, it's fine.

People used to stare at my high-speed bum shuffler all the time, understandable, it's funny if you haven't seen it before.

But no-one needs to be rude. That's not okay at all. I would also want to rant if people were mean about my baby.

Fitforforty · 23/06/2021 16:07

@NakedNugget please tell me what I’ve said which warranted you to tell me to fuck off. What have I said which is so different to everyone else?

sergeilavrov · 23/06/2021 16:08

OP mentions the tutu and daughter's behaviour, I assume, as it was obstructing view and making life hard for others -- and while this unconventional intrusion was supported by the parents; the father was scathing about perfectly normal behaviour within the period where children were able to interact out of the circles.

I can lend you my DH if you like, he's great at reacting to these types of people when he's out with our sons. Or just share a 'wow they're rude' look with other parents and let them be the outsiders. Playground politics is inevitable: teach your children to strategically navigate early, and watch them rise!

Bluntness100 · 23/06/2021 16:08

Well op that’s a whole lot of judging you guys were all engaging in.

Sounds a fun day out.

diddl · 23/06/2021 16:09

"the most horrible expression on his face. He was shaking his head incredulously and sort of sniggering with a half disgusted look on his face,"

Wow!

I've never seen a baby bum shuffle & might momentarily look bemused.

Crockof · 23/06/2021 16:10

You come across worse than the dad.

MargaretThursday · 23/06/2021 16:10

Most of the post here is you judging the other family, her wearing a tutu, them being "smug", it was all her fault that your baby also wanted to wander round...

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