I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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I'm very sorry OP

This is so very painful for you, Dolly, I have no words.

I'm so sorry, how incredibly scary this must be. Thoughts are with you and your DH

Preying for miracle for you and your family. I'm sorry going through this.

💐 I'm so sorry op.

Thinking you OP. Such a terrible shock. So sorry you're having to go through this. I hope you have some answers soon.

So awful , and so sorry you are going through this time... Miracles do happen so keep the faith. Hope and pray for best outcome.

Sending you all positive vibes. So sorry this is happening, my dad was on full life support a couple of years ago, and it such a surreal and liminal time where nothing seems quite real x

Oh, I'm so sorry, what a terrible situation. It must be so hard, unreal and awful at the same time. Much love to all three of you. I hope you have people IRL who can be there while your brain and emotions catch up with what's happening.

Thinking of you, your DD and family OP Take things day by day, hour by hour and whilst he is still here then there is still hope! You will all be in my thoughts and prayers

Hope your husband recovers soon. Wish I could give you a hug x

Thinking of you and crossing my fingers. It’s amazing what people come back from. Keep hope. The hospital are still trying for him.

I'm so sorry to read this
Sending you and yours love and strength

So sorry op am thinking of you all at this time Xxx

Thinking of you and your daughter.
Many hugs.

What an awful time for your family. I have been in a similar situation myself. I clearly remember the anxiety and panic I felt.

Lean on others as you need it. Try to look after yourself. You will find the strength you need to help you.

Sending you much love OP.

Thinking of you both

I'm not religious but saying a prayer for him before bed x x

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Dolly. I was in a similar situation myself last year and found MN an incredible support, both when my DH was in ICU and when he sadly died. I have a 3 year old DD. Please do keep posting when you feel you need support and we will all be here.

Sending positive thoughts your way, just take things a day at a time

So sorry to read this OP. Sending you lots of love and strength

So sorry OP. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through but sending love & strength

I can't even imagine. How awful. Sending you all strength.

Sending you and your family strength and best wishes. I really hope he pulls through Dolly