I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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Oh Dolly I’m so sorry to read your posts, sending much love to you and DH, fingers and toes crossed for you both xxxx

I'm so sorry. Sending you love.

So sorry @DollyParsnip thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family I hope your dh pulls through💐🙏💐

Sending you love and a big hug x

Sending you so much love. Will also hold you and your family in prayers. I hope your lovely DH continues to improve, and that you manage to get some sleep. X

Am so sorry you are going through this op. I pray your DH will pull through. And I pray for strength for you and your daughter.

What a horrific experience

Take care of yourself and rest when you can. I know how horrible it is having had a partner that had 3 separately induced medical comas for various reasons and we were so anxious the first time he was brought out of it that he wouldn't be the same person. He was. The hardest thing is leaving the hospital as all you want to do is be there and dreading the phone ringing as you don't know what news it will be if it's from the hospital.
Sending you a massive cwtsh and I'm so glad you have a great rl support network. Just take care as it can be mentally exhausting too xx

Thinking of you at this awful time and wishing you the best. 💐

I'll think of you in my prayers. Xx

Just here with a hand to hold I’m sorry for you and your dd but everything crossed for you

So sorry you're going through this. Sending positivity

It is very encouraging that he's started to pee x

Sending positive vibes x

I'm so sorry op thinking of you xxx

Thinking of you. 💐

It's extremely difficult for you right now because you can't process anything as you are in limbo just waiting ,I feel you have so much strength.
Thinking of you and your daughter

Polly I am sending thoughts and prayers your way - what a horrible and frightening time for you all. I wish you all strength and truly hope that he pulls through. Big hug.

I'm so sorry. I hope it isn't all as catastrophic as you fear.

Hope he's continuing to improve, Dolly - glad to hear that you are able to spend time with him, and that you have a good support network, both for you and your DD. It might be a long road, but it sounds like he's taking positive steps, even if they're only baby ones - everything crossed that he continues to do so.

Everything crossed for you. What a terrifying situation. Use the support of those around you.

Keep positive His urine output picking up is a really good sign. The nurses sound brilliant and they sound as if they are monitoring him very closely. Sending lots of positivity for you all

Thinking of you. I hope your DH makes a good recovery.

I hope today is a better day

Thinking of you today, hoping things improve for your dh xx

Sorry to hear this op