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I think my Husband is dying

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DollyParsnip · 25/05/2021 19:11

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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aibutohavethisusername · 29/05/2021 08:34

So sorry, thinking of you and your family Flowers

LIZS · 29/05/2021 08:36

I'm so sorry. Not enough words, but do take care of yourself and your dd.

LakieLady · 29/05/2021 08:36

So, so sorry, Dolly. I was willing for a better outcome for you all.

I lost my partner suddenly, late last year, and I know all too well that aching loss and pain.

Take all the support and help you can get. There's a bereavement thread on here, I had tremendous kindness and wise advice from people on there, it helped me no end.

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TuMeke · 29/05/2021 08:37

I am so sorry for your loss, Dolly. I am thinking of you Flowers

Samcro · 29/05/2021 08:37

so very sorry for your loss xx

intheenddoesitreallymatter · 29/05/2021 08:39

No words OP, I’m so sorry.

If it’s any assurance I lost my dad at a similar age to your daughter. She will be alright. So will you be.

Take time for yourself and allow yourself as much time as you need to grieve. I imagine this is very much a shock, please take care of yourself x

DartmoorDoughnut · 29/05/2021 08:39

So incredibly sorry for your loss Sad

RedFed · 29/05/2021 08:40

So sorry x

lljkk · 29/05/2021 08:41

Flowers Flowers Flowers

Octopus37 · 29/05/2021 08:42

Sending you so much love, have been following this thread

WaterBottle123 · 29/05/2021 08:43

So sorry OP. I was widowed with two young children in 2014. I promise you this is survivable and one day life will be happy again xx

You're welcome to PM me.

Bumzoo · 29/05/2021 08:44

I am so sorry for his loss, but really glad he had such a peaceful ending with you there

Sending lots of love to you Thanks

friendlymum67 · 29/05/2021 08:44

I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your DD xx

Evalina · 29/05/2021 08:44

So very sorry to hear your sad news, and thinking of you and your daughter. Flowers

Flibbitygibbit · 29/05/2021 08:45

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and yours x

OllyBJolly · 29/05/2021 08:46

I am so sorry. Look after yourself - I am so sad this has happened to you.

madmumofteens · 29/05/2021 08:47

So very sorry to hear about your DH 💔 thinking of you and your DD 💐

Casiloco · 29/05/2021 08:49

So, so sad. Sending you love and strength, peace and hope.

OneFootintheRave · 29/05/2021 08:50

I'm so sorry Dolly. Life can be very cruel. I'm glad you were able to be with him at he end and say goodbye. Thanks

BillieSpain · 29/05/2021 08:50

Oh, so sorry OP, you and DD are in my thoughts.

JackieQueen · 29/05/2021 08:50

So very sorry for your loss Flowers

Mama1980 · 29/05/2021 08:51

I'm so very sorry for your loss Thanks

Maerchentante · 29/05/2021 08:51

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your daughter.

Lots of strength for the days and weeks ahead.

QuentininQuarantino · 29/05/2021 08:52

I'm so sorry Dolly. Sending you and your little girl lots of strength.