I think my Husband is dying

[DollyParsnip]

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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I'm keeping everything crossed for you and your DH! I've been checking for updates through out the day! look after yourself too op.

Sending love and prayers to all of you

Wishing you all well

I am so so sorry. I really hope you get some good news.

Thinking of you all and wishing and hoping for a positive outcome.

Praying for your DH to come through this ordeal for you, your DD snd his parents.
Stay strong love and support each other. XX

wanted to send love. As someone whose husband has cancer but has been dealing with cancer for over 25 years but who I've been with almost 30, its been like having the sword of Damocles over us the entire time! But, it means I've never taken him for granted! Which means I've envisaged what you're going through multiple times. I can't begin to describe how much love I'm trying to send you. But please any time you need to talk just pm me! It's so hard. Sending more than hugs/love. It seems so stupid to say be strong cos of course you'll be that but that almost means if you cry you weren't strong enough. Believe me that's total crap! The British belief in "Stiff upper lip" is awful. If you need to cry, do so lovely - just let it out and anyone who doesn't support you fully - well let them get fully crapped on by birds!!! Don't forget that your emotions count, that being strong for your daughter isn't necessarily the best thing - that crying together - that longing for the future stolen for you regardless of whether he recovers or not - is not a bad thing. It brings home those individuals who have broken a toe nail etc who have v. little to complain. Much love and sooooo many hugs!

So sorry you are going through this. I will keep you all in my thoughts. You sound so strong. Please take any support you need.

God hope it works out well for you all.

I can't even imagine what you and your family are going through right now. I am thinking of you all

So tough for you all 🙏

Oh, I'm so, so sorry 🙏🏻 for you and your DH, DD

Hoping for good news with the scan.

Sending a hand hold 💐

So sorry you are going through this. Thinking of you Op and hoping for the best possible outcome

Thinking of you 💐 x

Thinking of you and your family Dolly. Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping things improve.
Also blown away by all the love and kindness on this thread.

Sending hope and good thoughts xx sorry ye re going through such an awful and worrying time. You must be in a daze

Oh no. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Willing you and your daughter strength during this very difficult and, undoubtedly, confusing and stressful time. Like everyone here, I'm hoping for the best outcome for your husband.

I'm glad they are not rushing.
hope you can have some rest tonight.
x

Sending the best possible wishes to you and DH and DD during this horrible time, and hoping it ends with him making a full recovery. Your love will be supporting DD, and I hope you have others around you supporting you.

Sorry op. Hope the scan is ok.

Sending much love to you all.

Good news from the consultant though that are not going to rush him and happy to make sure he is stable before moving him.

Sending hope and love OP

Just checking on you and your daughter DollyParsnip. Still sending positive healing energy to your husband and love and strength to you all