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I think my Husband is dying

816 replies

DollyParsnip · 25/05/2021 19:11

Hi

DH had a planned surgery on Thursday which went wrong; he had a catastrophic bleed which lead to his chest being opened and a long time to stabilise. He's on full life support but they are very, very concerned that he has few signs of brain activity.

He's in a good hospital with an amazing team around him, we didn't expect him to last over Thursday night and they've kept him going but I am slowly realising that I think he's gone.

Fuck. What do I do without him? We have an 11 yo DD who is awesome and friends but I feel so alone. So much panic.

Sorry for unloading, just feels incredibly surreal.

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OP posts:
LowlandLucky · 26/05/2021 16:23

Love, thoughts, hope and prayers Flowers

sunshinepunch · 26/05/2021 16:30

Can I just say how incredible 'people on the internet' are. What a lovely bunch of messages of hope and positive vibes. Moved me to tears. OP I also wish you, your daughter and your husband the very very best x

Abhannmor · 26/05/2021 16:31

I'm sorry for your unexpected trauma, Dolly Parsnips. Much love and comfort. Flowers

OVienna · 26/05/2021 16:34

Thinking of you and your DH @DollyParsnip. Also prayerfully.

JackieQueen · 26/05/2021 16:43

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Dolly parsnips, hope you get some good news soon Flowers

Notaroadrunner · 26/05/2021 17:01

So sorry to hear you and your family are going through such a tough time. It's good that you have so much support from family and friends and that your dd is being looked after. I hope she had a nice day out today to help distract her a little. Mind yourself as best you can - make sure to eat and drink to keep your own strength up, even if you don't feel like it at times. Thinking of you all Flowers

Coldwine75 · 26/05/2021 17:18

Sending love and wishes xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Mamanyt · 26/05/2021 17:37

We are with you. My own heart stretches across an ocean to sit with yours.

littlecottonbud · 26/05/2021 17:53

It's looking a little more positive for you - and as a old friend once told me - where there's life there's hope ... If you can keep us up to date with news x

bloodywhitecat · 26/05/2021 17:55

I wish you all the love and luck in the world Flowers

momtoboys · 26/05/2021 18:07

Dolly, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

shewalkslikerihanna · 26/05/2021 18:09

Been thinking of you all day
I hope there’s some good news soon

Callingallskeletons · 26/05/2021 18:09

Oh how horrendous OP, I’m so sorry 😢

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 26/05/2021 18:14

💐

simbobs · 26/05/2021 18:43

How awful for you. I do know how this feels, but mine pulled through against the odds. It is so easy to feel completely overwhelmed with grief and pain, but this is a good place to come for solace and a virtual cry. Please let us know how you are.

Veryverycalmnow · 26/05/2021 18:59

Thinking of youFlowers

Brenna24 · 26/05/2021 19:17

Oh my goodness. The shock of it must make such an awful situation so much worse for you. Sending you lots of love and strength. I hope that he pulls through.

TheGonnagle · 26/05/2021 20:17

Thinking of your family this evening, sending love and light to you all x

LovePoppy · 26/05/2021 20:35

Keeping you in my thoughts

Original poster
DollyParsnip · 26/05/2021 20:40

Evening all,

Had a meeting with DH's (lovely) consultant today. He's off for a brain scan once they think he'll tolerate the move to check whether there is any activity, or how much there is. They stressed to me there's no deadline with this, they don't want to undo their work stabilising him by rushing.

DH's parents are so angry, it's hard to see them like this - what they're going through is horrific. DD is bearing up so well too, she's amazing.

Thank you again for all your kindness, there just aren't the words.

OP posts:
piglet81 · 26/05/2021 20:42

Flowers I am so sorry you’re going through this. Wishing you strength and luck.

thisisfineihavewine · 26/05/2021 20:43

I’m so sad to read this, thinking of you all Flowers

adeleh · 26/05/2021 20:43

Thinking of you, OP - it soundsso hard Flowers

WorriedMillie · 26/05/2021 20:44

I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I just wanted to send you love and strength and a hand hold, at any time.
Keep reaching out and accept any support you need Flowers

godmum56 · 26/05/2021 20:44

@DollyParsnip

Evening all,

Had a meeting with DH's (lovely) consultant today. He's off for a brain scan once they think he'll tolerate the move to check whether there is any activity, or how much there is. They stressed to me there's no deadline with this, they don't want to undo their work stabilising him by rushing.

DH's parents are so angry, it's hard to see them like this - what they're going through is horrific. DD is bearing up so well too, she's amazing.

Thank you again for all your kindness, there just aren't the words.

I am still keeping you all in my prayers. I remember that anger. I had it when my husband was dying. It does pass but its hard to see and even harder to help x