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he is angry i haven't waxed down there?

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wdjav · 22/05/2021 09:59

In fact he’s angry about most things.

Without going into too much detail, I keep hair short down there but never go for a wax. It’s not bushy or long. I shave regularly. I just don’t want a wax. He said the other day that I must be the only woman who is happy with that and he’s shocked I don’t want my arsehole waxed specifically.

Other comments have been why do I think it’s ok not to wear heels into the office. Why do I slob out in a tracksuit when home from work. Why don’t I wear make up everyday. Why does my eyeliner wear off during the day...he’s noticed our mutual friend’s eyeliners stays on an entire night and looks the same from 7pm to 11pm, would I like him to get me the same one?? Hmm

Recently I moved during sex as felt slight pain due to the position. I just wanted to re position. He pulled out and stormed off slamming the door saying what’s wrong with me?? I started to cry. The next morning he looked at me and mockingly sniggered and said who cries during sex?

I’m just so sad. No other ties to him so could leave easily. I’m 36, 37 at the end of the year though. It’s so scary to think about starting over. I feel sick when I think about staying and sick when I think about leaving. I will end up alone either way.

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HollowTalk · 22/05/2021 10:00

Come on, you know this man is absolutely horrible, disgusting and abusive. How can you even think of staying with him? You deserve so much more.

Mistressiggi · 22/05/2021 10:01

You could leave over almost all those things, but the sniggering one? This will only get worse. This will not get better and you will just be more caught up in his life and find it harder to leave.
Flowers

TheQueef · 22/05/2021 10:01

Best to be alone than suffer this prick.

Sounds like he's the hairy bum hole.

You are worth more. Honest.

WildOrchids67 · 22/05/2021 10:02

Leave him. It would be far scarier to stay with this guy than to be single.

wdjav · 22/05/2021 10:02

I know. It’s much scarier when you’re in this situation at this age though.

I know he’s abusing me. I was in denial for a long time. I’m so sad.

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Ownerofmultiplechimps · 22/05/2021 10:02

He sounds awful @wdjav & I understand the thought of starting over is scary but you deserve so so much better than this. Your body, your choice, get rid asap!

Tetrixxs · 22/05/2021 10:03

Op, leave him. Please. He sounds disgusting!

ServeTheServants · 22/05/2021 10:04

Fucking hell, this is horrific. I’m so sorry you’re having to endure this. If you feel strong enough, please please leave and know that you deserve so much better

VodselForDinner · 22/05/2021 10:04

No other ties to him so could leave easily. I’m 36, 37 at the end of the year though. It’s so scary to think about starting over. I feel sick when I think about staying and sick when I think about leaving. I will end up alone either way.

Is your age given in relation to being single as you get older, or having children?

Because he’s awful and having children with an abusive prick like this would be very, very wrong.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 22/05/2021 10:04

Leave, leave, leave. He is absolutely vile.
You are not scared of leaving him. You are just scared of the unknown..
I can tell you from personal experience once you start a new life you feel so free.

wdjav · 22/05/2021 10:04

When I first met his parents he basically told me what I had to wear and I felt so embarrassed, these stupid heels and weird dress, didn’t feel like me. I was so stressed I was sick in the restaurant with a huge migraine.

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teawamutu · 22/05/2021 10:04

Run. He's an abusive, misogynist wanker.

No decent man would want sex if it was paining his partner. Or even if she wasn't in pain but just not into it.

I don't do a single thing with my pubes. I was rewilding before it was even a thing. Grin It wouldn't even occur to me to ask DH if he had an opinion, and it wouldn't occur to him that he had a vote. My body, my choice and he appreciates it on that basis.

You deserve no less.

Paddy1234 · 22/05/2021 10:05

Starting over is scary but far scarier is staying with this man.
❤️

AtLeastPretendToCare · 22/05/2021 10:05

The only unacceptable arsehole in this situation is him.

He sounds awful. I would waste any more of your life with him.

You won’t end up alone but TBH even if you did it is better than living with an angry man with a porn soaked view of women.

wdjav · 22/05/2021 10:05

Yes I had wanted a family. 37 in November and I am in tears thinking about that.

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WyldStallions · 22/05/2021 10:05

He hates women. Leave him. You deserve better.

Glenthebattleostrich · 22/05/2021 10:06

He is a prick. Leave him.

And as you go dont forget to slap a few wax strips on his arsehole and bollocks.

3CCC · 22/05/2021 10:06

Ltb he sounds horrid. Most of the threads like this have a sentence saying that normally he's a great guy blah blah blah. But you haven't done that which speaks volumes.

You're only in your 30s imagine spending the rest of your life with him. Yes it might be hard and scary but the outcome will be much better than the situation you are in now

Rave2thegrave · 22/05/2021 10:07

Run for the hills... hes abusive and vile.

HollowTalk · 22/05/2021 10:08

But you wouldn't want his child anyway, would you? Can you imagine what it would be like being tied to him when you have a baby as well? It would just give him even more opportunity to abuse you. And if you decided to leave then, he would make your life absolute hell.

torquewench · 22/05/2021 10:08

@wdjav

I know. It’s much scarier when you’re in this situation at this age though.

I know he’s abusing me. I was in denial for a long time. I’m so sad.

Theres nothing scary about improving your life. Getting rid of this arsehole will be cathartic.
Imperialheaven · 22/05/2021 10:08

Oh gosh! Leave him, please and don’t look back xx

Gucci1961 · 22/05/2021 10:08

Something far scarier than starting over would be to stay with him.

Please look after yourself. Stand in your own corner. Tell yourself what you'd tell a friend in this situation. You can do better. Being on your own will be better than this. He is capitalising on your vulnerability.

x

SprayedWithDettol · 22/05/2021 10:08

He isn’t someone you should ever have children with.

RaininSummer · 22/05/2021 10:09

I think it sounds much scarier imagining a life with this awful person than starting over late 30s.