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he is angry i haven't waxed down there?

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wdjav · 22/05/2021 09:59

In fact he’s angry about most things.

Without going into too much detail, I keep hair short down there but never go for a wax. It’s not bushy or long. I shave regularly. I just don’t want a wax. He said the other day that I must be the only woman who is happy with that and he’s shocked I don’t want my arsehole waxed specifically.

Other comments have been why do I think it’s ok not to wear heels into the office. Why do I slob out in a tracksuit when home from work. Why don’t I wear make up everyday. Why does my eyeliner wear off during the day...he’s noticed our mutual friend’s eyeliners stays on an entire night and looks the same from 7pm to 11pm, would I like him to get me the same one?? Hmm

Recently I moved during sex as felt slight pain due to the position. I just wanted to re position. He pulled out and stormed off slamming the door saying what’s wrong with me?? I started to cry. The next morning he looked at me and mockingly sniggered and said who cries during sex?

I’m just so sad. No other ties to him so could leave easily. I’m 36, 37 at the end of the year though. It’s so scary to think about starting over. I feel sick when I think about staying and sick when I think about leaving. I will end up alone either way.

OP posts:
Original poster
wdjav · 22/05/2021 10:46

What’s sickening is he is so so charming to colleagues and friends. He’s really chatty and understanding and will build me up in front of them even if we argued ten minutes before. He’s an awful man.

OP posts:
81Byerley · 22/05/2021 10:46

You're talking as if you're 77 not 37! My friend was widowed about18 months ago. She's 72 and dating again.
Put your big girl pants on and leave this vile specimen!

minnimiss · 22/05/2021 10:46

Run for the hills now while you still have no ties. One day you will look back and wonder why you wasted any precious time on him. He's not worth another day, week, month. I would literally pack now and leave. Nothing should be as scary as seeing that this could be your life forever!

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 22/05/2021 10:46

Leave.

If he wants waxedvmethers he can start with his own.

He is a horrible partner and will make for a horrible dad.

You are 37 and young enough to start again.

Today is not too soon to leave.

hedgehogger1 · 22/05/2021 10:46

Get out and start moving on with your life.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 22/05/2021 10:47

Waxed nethers

RadandMad · 22/05/2021 10:48

You're dating an abusive man. Being alone will be a picnic compared with staying.

hugocat · 22/05/2021 10:49

Do you have any money behind you OP? Savings? Do you work? Are you allowed to work?

Nonbibblebibble · 22/05/2021 10:49

Time to move on. You aren’t going to have a child with him anyway, are you? Walk out, pack your stuff and leave him. You could meet someone new in a week, a month, a year or just enjoy the freedom of being yourself and doing what you want without being critiqued.
I have a friend who has a kid on her own at your age through AI, now she’s married to a lovely guy and they have a 2nd kid.

Lemmen · 22/05/2021 10:49

You're not too old to have a family. You will be though if you stick with this jerk. Time to plan the breakup and move on Flowers

Bumblebee1980a · 22/05/2021 10:49

@wdjav

Yes I had wanted a family. 37 in November and I am in tears thinking about that.
You still have time!!

I left my awful partner when I was 35 and within less than a year met the father of my child.

Do not have a child with him because if you think its bad now wait until he behaves horribly to the person you love the most (your child). You will also be more stuck because you have a child to look after.

L0bstersLass · 22/05/2021 10:50

@wdjav

What’s sickening is he is so so charming to colleagues and friends. He’s really chatty and understanding and will build me up in front of them even if we argued ten minutes before. He’s an awful man.
Yes he is. Are you tied to him financially?
category12 · 22/05/2021 10:51

Leave him and start over.

You still have time left in your fertility window for a family with a nice man, but even if you miss the boat on children, you still have half your life ahead of you. You could live to be 90. Do you really want to spend more years with someone like this.

Don't waste any more time on a man that treats you like shit.

VerbenaGirl · 22/05/2021 10:51

None of these things are okay and you owe it to yourself to get away from this horrible behaviour.

IhaveMyMoments · 22/05/2021 10:51

Get rid! What an abusive C*

ittakes2 · 22/05/2021 10:52

I think you are so used to his appaulling behaviour you don't realise how wrong it is.
Starting over might be hard but looking back on your life realising you have wasted your time with someone that treats you so awfully will be hard too. You are still young.
Are you really thinking of growing old with this guy?

chipsandgin · 22/05/2021 10:53

He’s vile and abusive and the things he’s saying are just fucking batshit - as well as sexist, outdated and totally unacceptable. As for a pathetic excuse for a man like him starting a sentence with “most women” - he’s a lot of things but he doesn’t sound like a world authority on what “most women” choose to do with their own bodies & I wouldn’t vote for him to be our spokesperson!

You say in fact he’s angry about most things..... please, please don’t have children with this man. Children are hard work, they are noisy and messy and don’t always sleep when you want them to, they can be defiant, they cry. What they need is patience and unconditional love and tolerance, respect, kindness and parents who communicate and teach all these qualities by example whilst making them feel safe and loved. What they don’t need is some selfish, angry prick who shouts when things aren’t exactly how he likes them & projects his shitty, unreasonable demands and opinions on to the people close to him with no empathy or regret.

Growing up with a narcissist, a bully or a tyrant for a father damages kids - choosing to have a child with one when you already know full well what he is...honestly OP you’d be letting down your potential child before they’re even born if you even consider it. So for your sake and the sake of any potential family you have in the future, please leave him, you deserve better Flowers

Bucklestimeshare · 22/05/2021 10:53

We might sound a bit bossy OP, but there’s a lot of women rooting for you. I expect most of us have been, or had a friend, in a similar situation.

Baddit · 22/05/2021 10:54

It feels like you're only chance but I know so many people who thought they would be single at your age forever only to meet the man they marry at 38, 39 or 40 and have 1,2 or 3 children after that (if that's what you want).

You only get what you tolerate and you have the chance to escape. Please get out while you can

Chocaholic9 · 22/05/2021 10:54

He is abusive. Please don't have a family with this man, if you do, you will fuck up your life. I talk as someone who has been in an abusive relationship.

You need to leave.

Mandalay246 · 22/05/2021 10:54

For goodness sake OP, walk away, now. I really don't understand what makes women put up with this sort of shit. I would rather be alone forever than spend one night with someone like that.

W1nner8D1ner · 22/05/2021 10:54

Zero reason to stay

1000s reason to leave, today

Baddit · 22/05/2021 10:55

I meant to say 'It feels like this is your only chance'

Reallybadidea · 22/05/2021 10:55

You will regret every minute longer that you stay with him. Get angry. How dare he treat you like this. You are worth so much more Flowers

UCOinanOCG · 22/05/2021 10:55

You need to take a deep breath and then get up the effort to move out and move on. You deserve better.