Solicitors put DH name first.

[Tullyjune]

We are buying a house. I’ve done all the conveyancing quotes in my name, I’m the only one that’s communicated with them from my personal email. I paid the deposit with my bank card.

Yet the paperwork has all come through with DHs name first. It’s not even alphabetical.

I know it’s not the end of the world and most people wouldn’t give it a second thought. But it’s pissed me off.

Just getting it off my chest.

So what’s the issue? Why would it piss you off?

I hear you OP.
Same thing happened when we bought our house. I actually emailed the solicitor to complain and he couldn’t apologise enough and changed it all. I’d definitely recommend speaking to the solicitor, we need to highlight these acts of everyday sexism

Why would they put my husband’s name before mine when I am the point of contact?

Someone’s name has to come first, this wouldn’t even register with most people.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Someone’s name has to come first, this wouldn’t even register with most people.

So how did they decide? Surely alphabetical would make sense. But the default is man first. Despite me being the one who instructed and paid them.

I think it matters.

Yup all hail the bloody penis

Ummm because it has defaulted to Mr Tullyjane without consideration that it’s been Mrs TJ sorting everything out?
I’d be pissed too. Another example of everyday sexism

I had a friend who worked at a law firm and who put the wife's name first. His boss changed it. Of course it's deliberate. Men are more important.

It registers with the woman who always comes 2nd. I think it you don’t see it you don’t get it

I'm a conveyancer and have always put the women's names first when I draft documents. Tiny acts of feminism. Solidarity sister.

I'm selling MY flat but the estate agent often called my partner to discuss things. He had to pass the phone on to me as he obviously can't make any decisions.
Eventually I brought it up with them. Turns out when we first visited the estate agency, my partner gave his name first (he did, as he was closest!) and was therefore inputted into the system first. They happily swapped us around.

I've had the same this week. My husband is clueless with this kind of thing so as long as they don't ask him any questions it'll be fine.

I would usually get annoyed but it's not my problem they're stuck in the dark ages.

Yep, same when we remortgaged. I did every single bit of communication, everything. His email address was put down as main one and I ended up being chased up for something "we" hadn't done as the email had only gone to him and he hadn't checked if I had been cc'd. Also not alphabetical. It's shite. Similar to when I spent endless hours designing and sourcing a kitchen and all the materials, speaking to all the trades etc only for the workmen to ask my husband's opinion on a decision when he had no clue about any of it.

I always put a woman's name first on any document it's the small things...

I once had a man go absolutely ballistic that I put his wife's name ahead of his. I refused to change it.

Yep I had this when I was dealing with the council getting planning permission for my house. The addressed it to my ex husband first- my ex husband! The house was all mine, we were separated and he wasn't even living in the house, all contact was through me. It made me so mad...

I’m glad I’m not the only one to be annoyed by these things.

I think I’ll mention it next time I talk to them. They seem like nice enough people so it was probably unconsciously done but I feel it needs highlighting.

That would definitely annoy me too.

Because it is Mr. and Mrs. NOT Mrs. and Mr.

@GeorgiaGirl52

Because it is Mr. and Mrs. NOT Mrs. and Mr.

There’s no titles on the documents.

So it’s “Richard June and Anna June”

My letting agent absolutely insists on putting everything in my husband’s name and my husband’s name alone. We own the flat jointly. I’ve asked and they will not change it. It drives me absolutely mad.

It is sexist.

It happened with us and I rang them and asked them to change it.

Complain. That is out of order.

When we bought our house, we were married but I had kept my maiden name. We’d filled in all the paperwork & sent a scanned copy of our marriage certificate etc to show we were married.

We then got a strongly worded letter from the solicitors advising that, as we weren’t married, they weren’t comfortable with us buying if we weren’t going to be tenants in common.

And then tried to charge us £35 for sending that letter.

I absolutely let rip at them & got them to refund me the cost too.

Yep. Pisses me off too.
Airlines are terrible for this.

I agree. I'm the one dealing with everything to do with our house sale. I take all the phone calls and it's my email that everything is sent to.
My email address is my name (e.g FO_imagination@yahoo). When the Estate Agent contacted some conveyancers for me for quotes, 2 of them sent me the quotes addressed to Mr Imagination or Mr F Imagination. Straight away I'd discounted them as they hadn't even bothered to read the information from the Estate Agent that said I was a Mrs (I queried it with the EA)