Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

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Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

Not jilted but a woman I know left her husband during the honeymoon because she realised she was in love with her best (female) friend. They got together, got married, and are deliriously happy.

NameChangedForThisFeb21

That is one of the saddest things I've ever read on here, and that's saying something. Your poor, poor cousin.

@viques unfortunately they werent guests names or that wouldnt have been too bad. it was one huge one per table for a sharer board with "19th Octember 2087. Williams & Kate" engraved. She had loads of stuff, all personalised with names and dates. Cost her a fortune. She threw it all away when she cleared out his stuff. I wanted to ask for them as it seemed such a waste, but kept my mouth shut.

No but a good friend of ours married a woman who none of us really took to, she wouldn’t let me or my sisters speak to our friend and if we did she’d come and grab his face and start snogging him in front of us. The day of the wedding my dad described her side of the family as “rent a family” None of her family seemed to know each other and didn’t interact with each other or any of the guests. It was commented by one friend they’d never seen a bride with such a huge Cheshire Cat grin on her face after getting married.
Before the wedding he’d paid off all her debts, paid for cosmetic surgery and she bought whatever she wanted, he picked up the bill. He came home from work oneday to find her gone, no explanation. Turns out her visa to stay in the country had arrived and she went off with another man from her home country, we think she’d been with him the whole time.
Our friend was devastated as he was so in love with her. She even had the cheek to turn up at the our friends best friends house in Paris expecting to be able to stay for a holiday with her man. He told them to get lost.
A few years later our friend got a job in New York, the ex had always wanted to live to America. She found out somehow. He was out in a pub before he left and she approached him, tried to say it had all been a mistake and could they start over in America.
Thankfully he told her where to go.

@jeanne16

A colleague at work was left during the honeymoon. It turned out the groom was having second thoughts but felt he had to go through with the wedding as her parents had spent so much money on it. She was off work for months. It was grim.

That is so sad.

No, but I’ve had two people confide in me they didn’t want to get married a few days before.

One was a man I used to date, but we became friends as he wasn’t into female relationships. Turned up in my doorstep in total state because he didn’t know how to back out. He wasn’t the marrying kind. I listened and gave my opinion. He married her and split up 8 days later.

Another was a client who told me she was having a secret wedding the next day and had cold feet. She divorced him a few months down the line.

No. Nearest is a friend of my dad was going to marry, the prospective bride was a widow whose husband had died in a work accident. He called the wedding off about two weeks before because he felt they were useless together in any emergency or crisis.

He never married, lived to be 85, I think had a life he would consider to be fulfilling. The prospective bride did remarry, and was last heard of after her fourth husband died.

I know someone who was crying at her hen party saying she was having doubts. Decided to go ahead as spent loads. Filed for divorce after being married for 4 months.

@NameChangedForThisFeb21 You might not realise but "Irish Twins" is really offensive.

Years ago friend was jilted a few days before her wedding. Awful thing was it had happened to her before. I felt very sorry for her but she was a bit high maintenance. Last I heard she did get married but later in life.

I wish someone had told me my husband spent the night before the wedding in our new flat, in our new bed with another woman. I found out a week too late when she contacted me to tell me they had been sleeping together for months and she was pregnant, could I let her have my tax rebate (it was a thing back then) to pay for the abortion.

Stupidly I stayed with him, I was so humiliated I couldn't face telling anyone what he had done. It took 14 years and 2 children before I got divorced and everyone sympathised with him as he was such a lovely man.

I look back on teenage me, broken hearted and humiliated and I could weep.

I knew someone who moved countries for a man, I mean, sold everything. He had promised to marry her. Just 3 days later, he dumped her, told her to 'go home' (she hadn't lived in her native city in 10 years). She found another man to marry a few weeks later, married him, had kids and is still married to him 20 years later. The boyfriend was furious she didn't 'do as she was told' and go back to her country.

I know a few people who got married in their 20s after being together for many years and then divorced within 18 months.

A friend of a friend wrote a blog post about it after it happened to her. It basically spoke about people growing up and growing apart in their 20s and a wedding gives them something to focus on. When the fanfare dies down, they’re still limping along and holding on to what they had years ago.

@NameChangedForThisFeb21
That’s a horrendous story. Your poor cousin.

By the way, sorry to be “that person” on the chat but Irish Twin is a fairly offensive term/has negative connotations for Irish people.

I worked as a florist so saw lots of wedding drama.

At a lesbian wedding one bride turned out to be pregnant- and it wasn't her wife's baby.
A groom didn't show up because he had to collect his secret girlfriend's ill child from school.
A bride didn't show up because she didn't like how her makeup looked, the wedding car had dirty wheels and she didn't like the colour of her bouquet ribbon in natural light. She also didn't want anyone to tell the groom that she was running late and having a meltdown and wasn't answering her phone so he thought he was jilted. They still got married nearly 4 hours later though.

Not a jilting as such, but a cousin called off his wedding with just a couple of days notice. I was a child at the time and was never told what was behind it all, we all had to pretend it had never happened.

Cousin married someone else the following year, I always assumed that she was the reason for the wedding cancellation.

Yes. A flatmate's brother found out the night before the wedding that his bride to be had been shagging one of the hired help who was key in organising her wedding. They were getting married in Africa so everyone was flown out at vast expense for nothing. They apparently (much) later reconciled and still got married.

I went to a wedding where the Bride was having an affair with a man from work. This man was invited to the wedding, as part of the work crowd, and he took along his non suspecting wife. The marriage lasted only a few weeks. Bride left her new husband, her affair partner left his wife, and they got together. They are still together now decades later and have adult children. They are both lovely people who just met each other at the wrong time, but fell in love regardless. Happy to say that the jilted wife found a lovely man shortly thereafter and is still with him, also with adult children. No idea what happened to the Groom though.

@AlrightTreacle

Not jilted, but I went to a wedding where the couple had broken up a few days before. The brides mother convinced her to go through with it because they'd spent about £30,000 on it and at least wanted the party . They went through with the vows, posed for photos, the groom did a speech etc but they didn't really speak to each other. It was a weird atmosphere . They're divorced now.

I think I know that couple 🤣

It happened to me.
2 days before the wedding. He called me whilst I was out of town on a work assignment to say he didn't want to get married, he had changed his mind, it wasn't right. By the time I got home that evening, he had cleared all his stuff from our house. He blocked my calls, so I never found out why he did what he did after 6 years together. I can still to this day physically relive the shock I felt during that phone call. I have not seen or spoken to him since.

My former neighbour met someone else on her hen party a few weeks before the wedding and kept it all secret. She went through with the expensive wedding and honeymoon and then dumped her new husband at the airport on the return. Just walked away and left him. He was devastated.

A friend got married , returned from the honeymoon early and ran off with the best man. We had all been friends for years and none of us had an inkling that there was anything between them . They never married but are still together 25 years later
The marriage is never mentioned!

I worked with a woman who had got all dressed up on her wedding morning and then decided not to go to the church. She said she didn't regret her decision.

Not quite the same, but l worked with a woman in her Early 20s who was a bit of a schemer, She met and Married a Man twice her age, who was a wealthy Business man, with a good life and he adored her.
The problem was that the day before she married him, she confessed to a Group of close friends that she had plans to leave him and Divorce him close after 2 years of them being married, which was the minimum time a couple had to be together before the the assets would be divided on a 50/50 basis. This was in 1984, so divorce laws were different back then. They married in a register office, went on a fancy Honeymoon, she kept working, but also had a few affairs along the way as she awaited the two year deadline. Her poor Husband Adored her, bought her a new car, wined and dined her in fancy restaurants, and desperately wanted to have a family with her, but again she lied to him and continued taking her Pill and kept her supplies in her locker at work so that he would not find them. I then left my Job working with her, and wondered what happened to her and if she did totally go through with her plan.
A year or so later, l caught up with her whilst on a work related visit, and followed her after that on Facebook. Yes indeed, she kept to her word, took this poor guy for 50% of his total assets, changed back to her Maiden name, Divorced him, and went back to living the life of a single career woman.
She was a Superbitch to that poor man, and he loved her enough to let her get away with it. Ironically, l later discovered that he worked at the same place as my Husband in a very large Company, and the connection was not obvious at the time due to his Common Surname.
The chances were though if we had have managed to warn him beforehand, he simply would no believe us and it could have made things difficult at work for DH.

@Crankley

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

Had something similar with a woman I know, a British Indian woman marrying a man from the home country. They'd already had the registry office wedding but not the Indian wedding, which she saw as the real wedding. He admitted to her he was in a relationship with another woman and had got her pregnant. The hen party went ahead, which I went to, with all the relatives there who didn't know what had happened, so we had to pretend everything was normal - it was awful! It looks like he'd agreed to marry her to get a British passport, but she managed to get the marriage anulled in the end.